KittensInTiaras♕

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[kittensintiaras]

Favorite Daddy Phrases

Questions:

~Who’s in charge? ~Who owns you? ~What did I say? ~Do I make myself clear? ~Do you remember your rules? ~Do you need to be punished? ~What did you just say? ~Are you going to be a good girl? ~Who’s my good girl? ~Who do I love the most? ~How’s my little girl? ~What’s my little girl doing? ~Are you in little space? ~What are you coloring/drawing? ~How are your stuffies? ~Can Daddy join? ~Are you taking care of yourself? ~Have you eaten enough? ~Are you drinking enough? ~Have you taken your meds? ~Are you ready for bed? ~Are you snuggled in bed?

Commands:

~Listen to Daddy ~Don’t disobey Daddy ~Do it for Daddy ~Be a good girl ~Speak up ~Use your words ~Stay close to Daddy ~Be safe ~Show Daddy what you’re wearing ~Show Daddy your favorite little outfits ~Show Daddy your coloring/drawing ~Show Daddy your favorite stuffies ~Tell Daddy about your day ~Go to bed, princess ~Close your eyes, baby

Reassurance:

~Good girl ~You’re such a good girl ~I’m so proud of you! ~You did such a good job! ~I love you so much ~You’re my one and only ~I only want you ~I’m not going anywhere ~I promise ~You’re such a cutie! ~My little girl ~Daddy loves when you’re in little space ~You make Daddy so happy!

Pet Names:

~Kitten ~Princess ~Babe ~Baby ~Baby Girl ~Little Girl ~Little One ~Angel ~Bunny ~Love ~Lovie ~Sweetie ~Sweetheart ~My Future Wife ~Wifey ~My Nerd ~My Dork ~My Girl ~My One and Only

[kittensintiaras]

Cuddles with Daddy: Cold Weather

*Daddy and I getting into bed for the night in cold weather*

Me: *wrapped in a blanket* It’s too colddddd

Daddy: We’ll get under the blankets, silly

Me: *shakes head* this blanket is warm and those blankets are cold

Daddy: How about I hold you and warm you up?

Me: … what’s in it for me?

Daddy: *laughs* Daddy cuddles?

Me: Hmmm… this is a really warm blanket thoughhhh

Him: I guess I’ll give all your stuffies cuddles instead!

Me: *runs over and gets into bed*

Daddy: *wraps his arms around me and kisses me on the head* I love you, Princess

Me: *all cozy in Daddy’s arms with stuffies and blanket* I love you, Daddy!

[kittensintiaras]

hey~ so i’m just finding out that i’m actually kind of a little (fem) & i’m quite new to this & still discovering how i feel about everything. i have a loving boyfriend who’s very much a daddy/dom & he loves taking care of me & overall is very amazing and i love him but i was hoping you could help me out with some tips of being a little?? i’m not fully, i don’t like pacifiers & while i do throw little fits, i never fully act like a “baby” or a “little age” any tips on things i should know?

Hello there!

I’m so glad you found this part of you! It’s an exciting new experience to learn and explore. I’m also excited you have someone to explore with!

Here is one of my posts about being a little that I hope helps. There’s no rule book for being one. Everyone is different. Some little spaces are a soft glittery pink and others are a dark black. There no right or wrong way to be a little.

You are you. You are goin gun to find your own little space and maybe you have things in common with others, but it’s your own space. No one can change how you feel or what you like/dislike. You’re valid no matter what your little space looks like.

I hope this helped! Best of luck to you! I’m excited to see the growth of you two! Stay safe!

https://kittensintiaras.tumblr.com/post/165210624322/being-little-requirments

Being Little: Requirments

~Be yourself ~If you're with some one, that you feel comfortable ~Make sure no one takes advantage of you ~Make sure you receive aftercare (

[kittensintiaras]

Happy Daddy’s Day! (I know it is Father’s Day)

To all the Daddies out there taking care of your littles every single day. You are a blessing to the world. Thank you for being so kind and taking care of them, being there when they need you, kissing their boo boos, tuking them in at night, making sure they’re taking care of themselves too, committing yourself to them, being loyal, loving them, and everything else you do every hour of the day. It means more than you’ll ever know!

I know this day is for all the Fathers as well, but I think Daddies get to be celebrated today too! You’re unappreciated by the general population, and I think whomever is a good and truly caring “father figure” deserves to be recognized today too. This post was not meant to take away from any parent out there. It was meant to include those who don’t truly have a day (besides everyday!) dedicated to the appreciation we all have for them! I personally do not have a father nor a father figure, and the most influential, preodiment, and positive male in my life is my boyfriend. Today no only do I dedicate this day to my single mother, but also to my boyfriend. He has helped me through a lot of loss and sadness, and has been such a support when I needed him. I know it’s not a “father and child” relationship, but he, like many Daddies out there, desvere to be celebrated for all their hard work and sacrifices and commitment to their littles. Here’s a day to you, in a non-traditional sense! I hope you have a great day, stay safe!

[kittensintiaras]

I am back! ♕

Oh my gosh! I’m so sorry for my leave of absence without any warning! I’ve always wanted to be real and transparent with you lovely beans, giving you my honest opinions and advice.

2018 was one of the hardest years of my life. It was a huge struggle. I had a lot of loss, physically and mentally. My Daddy and I ended up breaking up due to some very toxic things in the relationship.

I will be back to posting more often and creating lists! I’ve thought about creating a YouTube to answer questions in a go, and show off different things! It’s totally up to what you guys want from me, as a poster!

Thank you for your time and still sticking with me! I appreciate all of you more than words will ever say! Take care of yourselves first, and stay safe!

[kittensintiaras]

Hey any advice for little boys being dressing looking little in public? I see a lot for girls but i dont want tk be too noticeable!! Fanku 😺😌

Hello there!

Awe! Of course! I feel more CGl posts and accounts are more so towards a male Caregiver and a female little, which of course is not the only dynamic out there, and I try to make my account for all littles and Caregivers, so I’m really glad you felt like you could ask me this question!!

I totally understand not wanting to be super obvious in public, as I myself, am a very shy person, but I also think you should able to wear whatever you want no later what it is! You just have to fmember to walk with confidence so people can go, “Hey, that person is really rocking that outfit!” I do have a post about helping get into little space, where I tried to not make it just female based, so if you want also to look at that!

Some ideas of what you can wear that are less obvious(I will make a full list later):

Clothing:

~Boots (rain boots are super cute and come in all sorts of patterns and a good subtle way to feel little on a rainy day!)

~Buttondown shirts

~Graphic T-shirts (TeeTurtle has some super cute but subtle shirts you can wear to make you feel little, also they have lots of sales!)

~Hoodies (you can hide anything underneath them or just wear a really cute hoodie!)

~Overalls

~Paterned pants

~Paterned shirts

~Paterned shorts

~Sneakers (ooo! You can get all sorts of cute colored sneakers!)

~Sweater (all sorts of types and patterns out there! I know big oversized sweaters make me feel very little!)

~Your Caregiver’s clothes (oh my goodness! This is a cute subtle way to also bring your Caregiver with you, and I know it makes me feel really little when I can wear my Significant Other’s clothes!)

Acessories:

~Backpacks (they have so many cute ones online!)

~Bows for hair

~Bow tie (you can have all sorts of fun with the patterns!)

~Day collar/Training Collar/Collar (this can be as subtle or as obvious as you’d like, and can be fun to feel like you have a little secret!)

~Ears (this might not always be subtle, but you can always just add them to an outfit!)

~Hat (there’s all sorts of different types of hats and different patterns and and images on them! )

~Keychain (I’ve seen little tails on keychains, so yjengou can bring them with you but also my have to wear them) (you can also get all sorts of cute keychains that show your little side while being cute and subtle, there’s all sorts of cute accounts that make these types of acessories and keychains)

~Watch (they can feel like a small addition, but there are so many cute ones out there! They’ll be super subtle!)

~Waterbottle (there’s all sorts of cute water bottles out there! You can carry them with you and show off some of your little side!)

These ideas of course are not for everyone, and I do hope this helps you in some way! Thank you to everyone for all your support, it means so much! Have a wonderful lovely day! Take care of yourself and be safe!

[kittensintiaras]

Hi!🎀 I love your blog, you always try to help people, and I think it’s super sweet and super helpful! I feel like my bf and I belong to the dd/lg world, but I had never thought about giving us a definition. Recently he has joked about me calling him daddy, suggesting that I might have a daddy kink, and we laughed about it, but in my heart I think that’s true. And I wonder if I should bring it up again and say “actually you know what?Maybe you are right”. I don’t want to ruin things 🎀😔

Hello there!Awe! Thank you so so much!! I try my best to help those around me in any way I can! I’m glad you like my account!! Thank you!!

As for your boyfriend, you could continue to do some research in the CGl dynamic! You could find out if being little is something the resonates with you. I personally felt that being little is just in my personality, haha! So when I was reading about littles, I had no doubt I was one. I did, however, wonder about the dynamic between the two, rather than just the side of the little.

If being little is something you think you are, connect with, are more interested in it, etc. you could continue to look into little space and even join a CGl messaging group! (There are some all over tumblr! Discord, Line, Kik, Skype, etc)

I suppose there are two ways to go about this. (I personally went with this first one, because I like to know more information about things by myself, before sharing said information with another.) You could learn more about the dynamic between the Caregiver and little and see if that’s something that you feel you’d like to have, you and significant other are close enough you trust them with this special and very personal part of you, that you believe your significant other would not be judgey, you want to head in the direction of CGl, etc. If you decide, “yes,” then you can find blogs, websites, posts, photos, etc. that you think best fit the dynamic you’d like, and show those to your significant other! You should be prepared for questions. They should have MANY questions, if they don’t right away, they might just be taking it all in, as it is a lot at first. Then if they would like to start the lifestyle, you can both start with boundaries and what you do and don’t feel comfortable with. These are very very important to tell one another, because even if you feel slightly uncomfortable, it could evolve until it’s completely ruin the experience and the bond you two have. You two could also talk about general gist of CGl and wether or not it’s something you two would like to try. If you both decide it’s something that seems like a good fit, you could both do research and learn about it, together. This is far different than my first example, as this is one where you will rely on one another while learning and testing the waters. Of course when you’re starting into the dynamic it’s all about trust and communication, but! This way it start before you’ve even started. You could sit down together and look through things that you are both curious about and start out the dynamic as you go. Such as little things that make you little, going into little space around them, coming up with very very simple rules you BOTH agree on indefinitely, etc. You both can get into the more intense and way more personalized dynamic as you continue to grow together. This way can be very helpful in growing together and establishing that sense of trust and communication rift from the get go! It can also be hard if they decide it isn’t for them and you just started to show them a small part of you. You may feel neither of these or a combination of both will work for you. It truly is all a very very personalized process for EVERYTHING. Don’t hesitate to ask more questions if they should arise! I am only a message away!

(I apologize for taking so long to respond! There have been a lot of things in my personal life I’ve been dealing with and this has been put to the back burners. Thank you so much for all being so patient and supportive!)I wish you the best of luck! I do hope it works out the way that is best for you! Just know, I am right here sending you my support! Have a wonderful day and stay safe!

[kittensintiaras]

My boyfriend sometimes acts like a daddy when I’m littlespace but it’s always over dominant and not really sweet baby talk or he will not be in the mood and ignore me or when i ask what’s wrong he will cuss or yell and it gets me out of littlespace. And I’ve told him how I feel and he dosnt change .Any advice?

Hello there!!Oh my gosh! I’m so so sorry to hear that!! From what I understand, you’ve talked to him about how you feel about his over dominant side when you’re little and how you’d prefer a softer, gentler, or kinder tone when he speaks to you, but he has not changed at all??? Has he tried? If he hasn’t made an effort to change ANYTHING, you might have to look into him not being your Caregiver. If he yells and curses you out for being genuinely concerned about him and does not apologize, he truly does not deserve you.

Since you’ve already talked to him a couple times, you may want to have one final talk with him. You could start by sitting down with him and telling him exactly what you need from a Caregiver (so that there is no confusion on his end, as sometimes people give the reason they didn’t change was due to not understanding what you wanted), what he is doing correctly as a Caregiver, and what he is doing wrong as a Caregiver/how to change these things in little steps. You can also speak to the fact you have spoken multiple times about the way he acts when you’re little and how he takes you out of little space, and that you’ve not seen a change. You can tell him from now until what ever date you choose, that you need to see a change or you will no longer want to be his little, no longer show your little side with him (as its super super personal and needs to be respected), no longer want him to be your Dom, no longer want to be with him at all, you walk away, take a break, or anything else you feel is the right step after how he has acted and what he has said.

I know it’s not my place to say, but I feel like he is showing signs of being a fake Caregiver. I’m not saying he is one!! Just saying he seems to be doing some of the things fake Caregivers do. He seems to JUST want the element of being a Dominant without being a Caregiver, yet still wants both titles. If he is yelling and cursing at you just for merely asking if he is alright or what is wrong, there could be a couple reasons, but if he isn’t apologizing for yelling and being an absolute jerk, then he most likely is taking anger about whatever is going on, out on you. Yes, sometimes when you’re just not in the mood to talk about it you can say that you don’t want to talk about it and if the other person continues to ask and press, you may just yell, but you should always apologize! That behavior is not okay no matter who you are. As a Dom, not just a Caregiver, he should understand how much his words affect his little/sub.Yes, I do admit that having a personality of a little, I can be very very sensitive, but my Daddy knows this about me. He has to choose words carefully and makes sure that if something made me upset that he says what I need to hear to feel better and in the tone that soothes me.

Your Caregiver should also know from what you’ve said to him, what he should have picked up on, and just general knowledge of how people respond to certain words, actions, and tones what works best for you and what doesn’t and to try to fix it. If he really isn’t putting in the energy or effort into acting and saying things you’ve said that work for you, then he doesn’t deserve you. If all he wants to do is have that aspect of being in control and doesn’t want the aspect of caregiving and understanding you, he doesn’t deserve the title of a Caregiver.

I hope this helped in some regard!! I hope you’re feeling safe and doing alright. If you ever need a friend or anything, I am only a message away!! If you have any other questions feel free to ask! Stay safe!

[kittensintiaras]

Hiii ^•^ so, I have a boyfriend that wants to be my cg too & he is truly trying but he is a bit young & he struggles to be *that* even though he wants to & I do love him even more for trying to make me happier. Sadly, there has been a friend in my life, really caring, really fitting to the little details that make someone a good cg but eventually he is in love with me but I'm not *in love* with him & now he's off my life. Is it even possible to keep my boyfriend as a boyfriend & the guy as a cg?

Hello there!From my understanding of your backstories, your friend told you he was in love you and you love him, but you’re not in love with him? So then you and this friend have romantic feelings for each other as well? I assume that’s what you meant! Sorry if I am incorrect!

Awe! That’s so sweet your boyfriend wants and is trying to be your Caregiver! As for your friend being the type of Caregiver you want, it’s really good to know what you do and don’t want in a Caregiver.

There are tons of different dynamics for CGl, and there might be one or multiple that work for you. You’ll just have to try different dynamics and see which works for you best. As for having a current significant other already, you’ll have to discuss what you’re looking for in a regular relationship then what you’re looking for in the CGl community before trying to add another person to your dynamic.

I know a couple people who have/had a strictly platonic Caregiver/little while being in a relationship, are in a polyamorous relationship where all three or more all interact with each other, are in an open relationship where the Caregiver has multiple littles/the little has multiple caregivers and or both, two Caregivers in a platonic or romantic relationship work together to have one or multiple littles to watch over/two littles in a platonic or romantic relationship find one or multiple Caregivers to watch over them, etc. There are many other dynamics I have not named, but these are the ones I most often see. More often than not, someone would like their Caregiver/little to also be their significant other.

If your significant other doesn’t think they would be able to handle trying lots of different dynamics or do not want to, you may have to think about how much you want to try these different dynamics, how your current dynamic is working, if your current dynamic is enough for you, if you see yourself with your current significant other long term, how much you are willing to not try things/how badly you want to try different dynamics, what you need/want out of a long term relationship, etc.

If you choose to just keep it between you and your boyfriend, try talking to your boyfriend about what you need in a Caregiver, what he is doing right, and what he can improve on. It’s always nice to just tell someone working so hard that their hard work has not gone unnoticed.

If you decide to add your friend back into your life, you and your boyfriend will have to decide how much of a role he gets in your life, if the relationship is strictly platonic or romantic, how he feels about the whole thing, how you feel about the whole thing, if your boyfriend and he will interact, how much it will change the current dynamic, any potential feelings that might be there, whether or not you will all enter polyamorous relationship together or have an open relationship, and answer any questions either of you have BEFORE you even approach your friend. It may take time, but you will find the right dynamic for you!

It did take Daddy and I a bit to get into the rhythm that worked best for us (and of course changes depending on the situation, such as Daddy being more strict about bedtime when I continuously stay up), but we have found it and he is such a wonderful Caregiver to me!I hope you find the perfect dynamic for you! I know it can take awhile, but don’t give up because once you find it, you’ll just know its the right one for you! I hope I helped a little bit! Good luck and stay safe!

[kittensintiaras]

Hi, I think that I want to have a ddlg relationship but I don’t know that much about it and I don’t know who to go to to talk about it. I’m also really scared cause I don’t want to have sex yet. Ughh I think I’m making this more difficult but I need help.

Hello there!Awe! I completely understand! Ever since I’ve found this community, I’ve always wanted to have this type of dynamic in a relationship, but I didn’t ever meet anyone I “clicked” with, connected with, or felt comfortable enough to share this special part of me. I learned how special this part of me is, and that I shouldn’t share it with just anyone or call just anyone, “Daddy,” “Mommy,” “Dommy,” etc. I first needed to learn how to accept myself for who I am and that I identify as a little, before I ever ventured down the journey of finding a Caregiver.

I believe you first should learn as much about CGl, what you identify as, how you incorporate it into your life, things you enjoy alone, etc. Then figuring it what you want in your significant other in terms of CGl, what you want to get out of this type of relationship, if you’re looking for someone long term, if distance matters to you, if you have someone in mind that they would make a good other half to your CGl puzzle, etc. Just remember to be very very cautious when looking for your corresponding partner.

If you ever have any questions about anything, you can always go to a CGl blog and ask there. I personally found it really really helpful to join a CGl group chat. They answered lots of questions I first had when I joined the community. There are many invites and links to groups floating around tumblr. Many of them are on Discord, kik, line, and WhatsApp. There are other apps many use, but these are the main ones I’ve seen. If you do choose to join a group chat, be careful, as many can be full of drama, rude people, and mean people who join just to say something negative about the life style.

As for you not being interested in anything sexual, that is completely normal. I know many littles and some Caregivers who are not interested in adding that to their dynamic, and it doesn’t make your relationship any less valid. Being interested in that does not define wether or not you are valid. You are valid no matter your hobbies/interests or what you look like. As long as you are honest with your intentions, understanding, are respectful, and understand how important consent is, you are valid. Do not let anyone else tell you any differently.

I really hope this helped! If you have any questions or just want to chat, my messages are always open!!! Stay safe!

[kittensintiaras]

I'm super duper lonely and want a daddy or mommy but can't figure out how to find one..... One of my best friends (who's also a little) has a daddy and gets to be with him every day and it makes me sad and jealous. What should I do?

Hello there!Awe!! I’m so sorry you’re feeling like that! I know many littles feel lonely and jealous for various reasons. The most helpful thing for me when I feel lonely and Daddy is busy, is being a part of a CGl group chat. They all know the feeling of being lonely when their Caregiver or little is busy. It’s nice to just talk and relate to other littles and so you feel less alone. It’s also a nice distraction or place to rant when you just need to get away from your everyday life. You can find many different links to group chats throughout Tumblr (as people tend to promote their chats to meet new people). There are other different types of group messaging apps where you can search for CGl chats. I know many people use Allo, Discord, Kik, Line, and other group messaging apps. You could also ask some of your friends to see if they are in any group chats you could join!

As for feeling jealous, I completely understand. I sometimes get jealous when some of my friends get to see their Caregiver/little everyday in person, while Daddy and I have to wait to plan a trip. Of course if I had it my way, Daddy and I would live together right now, but the long distance won’t always be a part of our relationship and I don’t mind waiting. Daddy is absolutely worth the wait no matter how long it is, because at the end of the day, we love each other more than words can say and one day we will finally be able to live together. There are different things that have helped me through a bout of jealousy. Whenever I feel that I should never feel jealous, I remember that jealousy is a VALID emotion and that everyone feels it no matter who they are. It’s alright to feel jealous of something as long as you know it won’t last forever. If you feel jealous of the same thing all the time, think about how it relates to your individual life, what specific things about the topic you’re jealous of, what could change so you no longer feel jealous, and how this jealousy is affecting your life. Remember that many of the things we are jealous of now, will not bother us later in life or that the thing we are jealous of, we will one day get for ourselves. Remember also, that different things take different amounts of time. Finding someone who calls themselves a Caregiver and willing to be YOUR Caregiver could take a matter of minutes, but finding the RIGHT Caregiver for you could take months. If you’re ever thinking that someone could be a good Caregiver for you, remember that giving them the title is a very important decision and should not be taken lightly, that you do not have to give them the title when they ask, as it is completely your decision wether or not you believe they are a good fit for you, and that not everyone you meet is a good match for you no matter how badly you want it to fit. I promise you’ll find your Caregiver and when you meet them, you’ll just know they are the right match for you. I hope this helped!!! If you ever need anything feel free to message me! You’re a wonderful human who desecrate happiness! Take care of yourself and stay safe!

[kittensintiaras]

So hi, first off I'd like to say I'm not part of the dd/lg community, but! I have a question, if that's alright (i came across this tag here on tumblr and I've been obsessively going over every non-sexual dd/gl blog, cus it's really interesting) so since I notice Littles apparently put more trust on Daddies than otherwise, I was wondering... How is the break up? How is that for the self confidence of Littles? (im sorry but it's hard to elaborate with only 500 characters)

Second part: (im the anony asking about the break up) I dont mean to be rude or offend, it was just a doubt I had, thinking about “normal relationship break ups” that already sucks, so a non “50/50 relationship” must be more brutal. There’s a more sensitive way to go about this than “i don’t want to be your Daddy anymore” or some way “to ease” the break up IM SORRY IM JUST CURIOUS

Hello there!Aw! No it’s okay to be curious! I completely understand wanting to know more about different aspects of different types of relationships. I remember when I first found out about DD/lg and realized I was a little, I obsessively wanted to learn more. I found myself reading about the dynamic and wanting to know more and having lots of questions, but not sure who to ask Incase I was to offend anyone. So, thank you for believing in my blog and myself to answer your questions! It’s really kind of you!

As for your question, breakups as a whole can be absolutely heartbreaking and devastating, or it could feel like no big deal (which is rare as hecky). When it feels like something is unable to be fixed, the other is not trying to fix things, they are no longer putting in the time and effort, etc., that is when the relationship will end. They are most of the time one sided. Even so, mutual ones seem to also be along the lines of, one person being the first to say what you were both thinking. I personally have not gone through a CG/l breakup, but I truly believe almost all breaks ups are hard and when you add this whole other unique aspect, trust, communication, etc. it makes it so much harder no matter the reason to why it didn’t work out. Even if it is a mutualish decision, it doesn’t hurt any less.There is no real way to ease the pain of a breakup, but I do know laying it all out on the table and being completely honest will give you both some sort of closure and be the most beneficial thing for each of you in the long run. You can also answer any of each other’s questions so you don’t have something “haunting “ you, but you also have to know when to stop talking about it and prolonging the healing process. If they are unable to be honest with you or have a real conversation about it, at least be honest with them so you know you said everything you could about the situation when you look back on it later.

I hope this helped clarify some of your questions! If you ever have any more questions, you can always ask (even if you’re worried you’ll offend). You can always message me if you need anything. Stay safe!

[kittensintiaras]

Hi, I'm new to your blog but I think your adorable! Lately my daddy and I have been drifting apart, we used to talk for hours everyday(ldr) but he's been ignoring me for a few weeks. I have really bad anxiety so I feel like I would be a burden if I message first. We used to talk about cuddling and stuff but not anymore. I came out as a trans boy to him and I think it scared him off.. Sorry for the long ask

Hello there!Sorry for the late response! I hope you’re doing alright!!! Congratulations on coming out as a trans boy!! I know that’s such a hard and difficult thing, but I’m so proud of you for doing t and opening up to your Daddy! (And to anyone reading this;3! Gold star!!!!!)

As for your being in a LDR, sometimes you do drift apart and don’t talk as often as you like, but you also can grow very close over a short period of time and get to talk everyday! Daddy and I have had times where it felt like we hadn’t really been able to talk for a week or two, but also times where we’ve called everyday for a week. There will be ups and downs in your relationship as a whole, but LDRs make you work harder for it if you truly think the relationship is worth it. Daddy and I have had to work the hardest out of any of our relationships, yet we wouldn’t have it any other way!

As for your Daddy disappearing for a couple of weeks, does he still message you or has he stopped all together? Did it happen very close to where you came out as trans? Has he tried to message you first? Does he still make an effort to communicate to any degree? Is he making up excuses?If he was being an attentive communicating Daddy but then stopped after you came out as trans, I’m sorry to say this, but he doesn’t seem worth your time. I believe that if you truly love someone and want to be with them, you will do everything in your power to communicate, spend time with them, check in on them, accept them for who they are, love them anyway, and so everything you can to make that relationship work. If it doesn’t work out, at least you know you tried you best and you didn’t throw in the towel when it got hard or confusing. I would tell your Daddy you would like to have an important conversation with him, and that he needs to make time for it if he wants your relationship to continue. You might also have to remind him that you both need to be completely honest and open with you. Since you are an anxious little bean, you can ask for it to be over messages rather than voice or video. I do believe though, that this is a very important conversation and if you’re able to do it over voice or video, I would. A helpful tip for hard conversations (with anyone) but where you need to stay in control, is that you can make a list of topics you’d like to discuss, write down different responses for answers they will have, practice with a stuffie or in the mirror of how you want it to go, do not overthink on the worst possible outcome (I know I do this lots and it’s hard to remember that the worst possible way it can go in your head, is most likely a VERY far stretch in what will really happen), and to try and relax yourself so you don’t have a panic or anxiety attack. If the other person is willing to continue and try to work on the relationship, tell them you need to see them live up to their word, or you will not continue to stay in a relationship with them. If they say they will try harder to do what is needed for your relationship to succeed but do not actually follow through or they are unwilling to try, you may have to think about the qualities you want in a partner, let alone caregiver, if this person is worth your time and energy, how this is affecting your mental and physical health, your overall happiness with the situation, if this person truly is trying or just saying they will, and remembering that you are an amazing wonderful person who deserves to be loved for who you are and that you shouldn’t have to lie or change anything about yourself, because you’re lovely the way you are!!

I hope this helped in some way!! Just remember, if someone doesn’t accept you for who you are, they don’t deserve your time or energy. You are an amazing bean who is going to succeed and go far in life! If you need anything at all, I’m only a message away! Stay safe and good luck!

[kittensintiaras]

Conversations with Daddy: Daddy knows all

*Calling with Daddy and being a smol little glitter puddle*

Daddy: Go take your Med little girl

Me: I have fixed ittttt so all is good

Daddy: Good girl. Have you eaten?

Me: yer! I had an Apple, Chex mix, and ham!

Daddy: Been drinking your water?

Me: Yahhhh! I gotta refill my water bottle thoughhhhhh

Daddy: Go do it missy, but good girl, I’m proud of you

Me: *flails because I live for Daddy to be proud of me* Awwwww thank you!

Daddy: Anytime princess

Me: !!!! Hehehe thank you Daddy!!! I’m glad you’re prouddd!!!!!

Daddy: Always am of my special little girl!

Me: *melts into a smiley blushy little puddle of glitter and pride* AWWW!! THANK YOU DADDY!!! Hehe!!!

Daddy: Daddy loves you so muchhhh

Me: ^.^!!! I love Daddy sooooooo muchhhh!!!

Daddy: You are such a cutie!!

Me: YOURE A CUTIEEEEE

Daddy: Is someone all smiley?

Me: YOUUUUURE SMILEYYY

Daddy: Also blushy?

Me: YOURE ALSO BLUSHYYYY

Daddy: All wiggly?

Me: *flail* (how’d you know that wiggles?!)

Daddy: Because I know my little girl!! I feel like that conversation is gonna be a tumblr post

Me: *stops dead in my tracks and looks around* (Isn’t currently writing one) noooooo

Daddy: Okay princess, remember daddy loves you with all his heart

Me: *wiggles around being a tomato color as I hide under every blanket there ever was as I giggle* I love Daddy with all my heart!!!!!

[kittensintiaras]

how to be less shy about calling Daddy, Daddy?

Hello there!Oo! I remember after Daddy accepted the role as my Caregiver and that I could call him Daddy, it was kinda hard to at first since he was the first person I have ever called “Daddy”, so I was very shy, so it was hard to try and call him, “Daddy” at first. Now that is basically the only way I refer to him (even when I don’t mean to in front if other people).

Some of the things I thought that might help:

If you’ve never called someone “Caregiver, Daddy, Donny, Ma’am, Master, Miss, Mommy, Sir, etc.” before, I would start out:~Practicing by saying the term you want to call them, out loud a couple times, wether it be to your stuffies, in a sentence, or just by yourself. This way, the word doesn’t seem so foreign to you. (I never ever used the term, “Daddy” before CGl, so it wasn’t the smartest idea trying to call Daddy, “Daddy” right to him after he agreed to be my Daddy. I just got very shy and it just was sort of awkward, haha!)

Other ideas that you are now used to the term you want to use, just not used to calling them that term:~Calling them/referring to them (to others or just in your head) as the term you want through text. (It’s just far easier to type what you want to say rather than saying it out loud when you’re a shy bean, such as myself. When I think about my lovely boyfriend, I automatically think “Daddy” instead of his name. Example: “I wonder what a Daddy is doing right now.”)~You could ask them to refer to themselves as the term you chose. (When Daddy referred to himself as Daddy for the first time, it made me feel like he like being called, “Daddy” and was embracing the role, which made it easier to call him that)~Take it slow! It definitely doesn’t happen over night. It took us a bit before I was comfortable enough to refer to him as Daddy without any hesitation, stuttering, or my face turning into a bright red tomato)~Remember that they have to EARN the title before you call them it. It isn’t their title if they don’t treat you the way you deserve to be treated. If anything about this person feels uncomfortable, please please please take a step back and examine exactly what qualities you want it in YOUR Caregiver, and what qualities THEY possess. ~Also remember that they do not get to call you a special title until they earn your trust.

There are many people out there who will immediately call you, “Baby, Princess, Prince, etc. (other names that are very special between a Caregiver and their little)” before they even have introduced themselves. I have had people message me along the lines of, “Hey there princess/baby/baby girl, are you looking for a Daddy?” Which truly has made me feel uncomfortable, as those are terms only Daddy uses and are not normal terms to address someone you’ve never spoken to. This goes for littles going to address a new Caregiver for the first time. You should always use respectful terms that are very general and not special names between Caregivers and littles. You can of course ask what they would like you to refer to them as.

Here are some examples, from my own opinion, that are a good way to address someone without making them feel uncomfortable and are pretty generic but also specific to the community:Caregivers: Ma’am, Miss, Mister (This one might be one of the more touchy ones, as some littles or subs call their Caregiver or Dom, “Mister” so please use this term in the correct circumstances), Sir, their whole usernameLittles: Little one (Daddy does call me this one, but I’ve had other Caregivers use this term to respectfully address other littles that are not their own), their whole username

I hope this helped in some way! I’m sorry if I got in a tangent! If someone calls you something that makes you uncomfortable, please tell them increase they didn’t understand how sacred names and such are to Caregivers and littles. If they continue to call you something you said makes you uncomfortable, please be very careful. A true Caregiver will stop whatever makes you uncomfortable after you tell them it does. Please stay safe and good luck with calling your Caregiver the term you want!!

[kittensintiaras]

I really admire how much effort you put into responding to your followers😙I've never seen anyone more passionate.😊

Hello there!Awe! Thank you so so so much!! You’re very sweet! I bet lots of accounts like to try and help their followers with such answers ^.^! I really do try to give as much information as ideas as I can think of. I have many asks waiting, but I know it takes a long while to answer and sometimes I just am not feeling well enough, but thank you so so much!! This was very nice of you to say!! I hope you have a great day! Stay safe!

[kittensintiaras]

How do you deal with dd/lg hate? 😔😔

Hello there!Awe! I’m so sorry if you’re experiencing such hate! That’s absolutely not fair! Please please block them if you are experiencing this. It’s so unhealthy and absolutely considered cyber bullying. You should block them and try to stay as far away from them and that group as you possibly can. If they continue to harass you or bother you, please contact the tumblr staff. I know how much of a mental toll it can be to feel attacked for being yourself and I do not want anyone to ever have to go through that. So please take care of yourself!!

WARNING. One of my ideas of what to do when dealing with hate may be a trigger. I never meant for it to be, but I do discuss what to do when you go to a very dark place.

I very much dislike when the anti people come and just attack the community and specifically the people who have not done anything to them. I understand if someone from the community has come to them and started a fight or drama (as people from both sides cause drama and it’s not from just one), but to single out Caregivers or littles who’ve done nothing wrong and stay in their own space is completely rude. I don’t understand why someone would feel the need to specifically make an account to be rude and mean about a community, group, individual, etc. Why go out of your way to intentionally hurt and make people feel bad? We all have our opinions and of course you can share them, but you don’t need to make an account about something you dislike and think is wrong then go out of your way to also personally attack different users. I just truly don’t understand why people are just so mean.

I feel pretty luck, as I haven’t gotten too much hate for being part of this community.Although, I have gotten an ask before from an anonymoose telling me that I was in the wrong for being part of this lifestyle. I got upset and deleted it. Here are some ways I’ve learned to deal with cyber bullying as a whole, and specific to the CGl dynamic.~Stay away from the people who are known to be mean or rude, have a username, post, reblog, etc saying something that feels directed towards my community. (Lots of the anti accounts have the term, “anti” in their user or somewhere all over their blog)~if you get a rude message or post about you, ignore and block it/them. (If it continues to happen and more and more people are coming up to you, please contact the tumblr staff and see if they can do anything about it. If they threaten your life or it gets out of hand, please contact your local police.)~Put whatever device you can access the hate to, down. Take a break from it. I know you’ll want to keep checking to see what is being said, but this will create more problems for you mentally and hurt you more. If you need to, log out of that account or even delete the app if it becomes something you check constantly. Maybe even delete your account. (I know I did when I was getting bullied… I wish someone would have deleted the app and so forth so I didn’t just stare and read it over and over in my head. It truly ate me alive.)~Talk to someone you trust and who you can cry in front of, vent, ask advice from, ask for support, etc. (This can make all the difference. If you reach out and tell someone what’s happening to you, I know it feels so hard and embarrassing (even though it isn’t, it should be embarrassing to the person who’s done it) but this will be such a huge help! (I wish I had told someone when I was getting so badly cyber bullied online. I was all alone and I let it eat away at me, rather than vent and let it out and have someone to support me.)ever get to that point.~Go to the reason why you wanted to join the community and why it was important for you. If the reason is still a big reason and you truly do want to be sort of said community, please make sure you aren’t tempted to check what they’ve said before. If you are still tempted that’s okay, but if you act upon it and check, maybe a longer break is necessary.~If you start to feel hopeless, wanting to injure yourself or others, you go into a very very dark place, and so forth, please please please PLEASE tell someone! Do not let it eat away at you all by yourself. Please get help or go to the hospital if if comes to that point. Feeling alone and helpless is absolutely not something I want you to feel. Please please please get help if you ever get to that point.~If you’re still in a dark place please get help. I don’t want you to be suffering please please please. I promise everything will get better!!

And if you’d like to go back to the community:~If you finally feel to a point where you want to rejoin the community, make a new account and do not let yourself check what they’ve said about you previously or check any of those negative accounts.

Please stay safe and don’t go to these negative accounts. It will just make you sad and hurt. I’ve done it and I was just so sad and upset that night. It is not worth it to read what they say. A lot of the people I’ve seen, do not want to be shown why they are wrong and won’t change their outlook, and will continue to use rude terms and belittle your answers. Please stay away from them!!I hope this helped someone out there!! If you have any other ideas, feel free to add anything! Good luck and stay safe!!