[marblecornets]

me playing minecraft

[joli--coeur]

what’s unhealthy healing? — what to NOT do when trying to heal

+ taking out your anger on others

+ hurting yourself/hurting others

+ suppressing your emotions

+ thinking that you should have it all together

+ not processing your emotions

+ not allowing yourself to feel those negative emotions

+ completely isolating yourself from everyone

+ refusing to get help

+ not being active/staying indoors all day/not getting any fresh air

+ believing that you are deserving of the pain you feel

+ carrying around guilt or shame

[budgetrealgood-deactivated20210]

“Self-care is often a very unbeautiful thing.

It is making a spreadsheet of your debt and enforcing a morning routine and cooking yourself healthy meals and no longer just running from your problems and calling the distraction a solution.

It is often doing the ugliest thing that you have to do, like sweat through another workout or tell a toxic friend you don’t want to see them anymore or get a second job so you can have a savings account or figure out a way to accept yourself so that you’re not constantly exhausted from trying to be everything, all the time and then needing to take deliberate, mandated breaks from living to do basic things like drop some oil into a bath and read Marie Claire and turn your phone off for the day.

A world in which self-care has to be such a trendy topic is a world that is sick. Self-care should not be something we resort to because we are so absolutely exhausted that we need some reprieve from our own relentless internal pressure.

True self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from.

And that often takes doing the thing you least want to do.

It often means looking your failures and disappointments square in the eye and re-strategizing. It is not satiating your immediate desires. It is letting go. It is choosing new. It is disappointing some people. It is making sacrifices for others. It is living a way that other people won’t, so maybe you can live in a way that other people can’t.

It is letting yourself be normal. Regular. Unexceptional. It is sometimes having a dirty kitchen and deciding your ultimate goal in life isn’t going to be having abs and keeping up with your fake friends. It is deciding how much of your anxiety comes from not actualizing your latent potential, and how much comes from the way you were being trained to think before you even knew what was happening.

If you find yourself having to regularly indulge in consumer self-care, it’s because you are disconnected from actual self-care, which has very little to do with “treating yourself” and a whole lot do with parenting yourself and making choices for your long-term wellness.

It is no longer using your hectic and unreasonable life as justification for self-sabotage in the form of liquor and procrastination. It is learning how to stop trying to “fix yourself” and start trying to take care of yourself… and maybe finding that taking care lovingly attends to a lot of the problems you were trying to fix in the first place.

It means being the hero of your life, not the victim. It means rewiring what you have until your everyday life isn’t something you need therapy to recover from. It is no longer choosing a life that looks good over a life that feels good. It is giving the hell up on some goals so you can care about others. It is being honest even if that means you aren’t universally liked. It is meeting your own needs so you aren’t anxious and dependent on other people.

It is becoming the person you know you want and are meant to be. Someone who knows that salt baths and chocolate cake are ways to enjoy life – not escape from it.”

-Brianna Wiest, in Thought Catalog

[terefah]

october light

[oatmealo-remade]

btw if youre ever stressed there’s this website that plays the animal crossing music according to your time its really relaxing: http://tane.us/ac/nl.html

[oatmealo-remade]

oh and if you prefer the original ac soundtrack: http://tane.us/ac/

[oatmealo-remade]

and if you fancy wild world or city folk, here’s theirs: http://tane.us/ac/wwcf.html

[alien-thembo]

No one:

Literally no one:

Not a single soul:

Gays at ungodly hours of the night: I YEARN for a lover to spend winter nights cuddling in my log cabin in the woods with my 7,354 cats and plant children eating freshly baked bread watching movies from the 80s

[harryhubba]

happy ask list for when you’re sad:

sunflower: if there was a door that went to a city that was a good representation of you, what city would it be and would you go through the door?

pink: sunsets or sunrises? 

freshly cut grass: are you an early riser? if not, is this because you stay up late? 

journal: would you dye your hair if you had the opportunity? why or why not? 

painting: in what ways are you creative? 

waves: is there one music genre you can’t listen to? 

writing: do you write letters? if not, would you like to be? 

waterfalls: describe your perfect date.

freckles: what’s something that makes you happy? describe the first thing that comes to your head. 

dimples: would you rather be inviting on a hike or a night out? 

blushing: describe a rad person you know. 

watercolour: talk about something someone you are interested in can do that never fails to make you find them attractive? 

pine: if you could only smell one scent for the rest of your life, what would it be? 

pink eyeshadow: pasta or pizza? 

icy: homemade or takeout? 

rosè: what’s your opinion on shyness? 

clouds: list your top 5 songs at the moment and how they make you feel 

silk: list songs you listen to for a jam 

white sheets: where’s somewhere you would love to travel to? why? 

black nail polish: what do you do to pamper yourself? 

hidden beaches: do you prefer to hang out in a big group or one on one? 

crossed fingers: using no negative words, describe your hair. 

mocktails: cold weather or hot weather?

[valtsv]

the first people to ever use terms of endearment for each other must have been so in love i'm in tears just thinking about it

[valtsv]

can you imagine living in the 14th century and hearing your lover enter the house and call out "honey, i'm home!" and then realizing that they're talking to you, and that they're calling you "honey" because they think you're sweet like honey... oh my god. ooooh my god

[luxet]

Unusual Asks

Spotify, SoundCloud, or Pandora? 

is your room messy or clean?

what color are your eyes?

do you like your name? why?

what is your relationship status? 

describe your personality in 3 words or less

what color hair do you have?

what kind of car do you drive? color?

where do you shop?

how would you describe your style?

favorite social media account

what size bed do you have? 

any siblings?

if you can live anywhere in the world where would it be? why?

favorite snapchat filter? 

favorite makeup brand(s)

how many times a week do you shower?

favorite tv show?

shoe size?

how tall are you?

sandals or sneakers? 

do you go to the gym? 

describe your dream date

how much money do you have in your wallet at the moment?

what color socks are you wearing? 

how many pillows do you sleep with?

do you have a job? what do you do? 

how many friends do you have? 

whats the worst thing you have ever done? 

whats your favorite candle scent? 

3 favorite boy names

3 favorite girl names

favorite actor? 

favorite actress? 

who is your celebrity crush?

favorite movie? 

do you read a lot? whats your favorite book? 

money or brains? 

do you have a nickname? what is it? 

how many times have you been to the hospital?

top 10 favorite songs

do you take any medications daily? 

what is your skin type? (oily, dry, etc)

what is your biggest fear? 

how many kids do you want? 

whats your go to hair style?

what type of house do you live in? (big, small, etc) 

who is your role model? 

what was the last compliment you received?

what was the last text you sent?

how old were you when you found out santa wasn’t real?

what is your dream car? 

opinion on smoking?

do you go to college? 

what is your dream job? 

would you rather live in rural areas or the suburbs? 

do you take shampoo and conditioner bottles from hotels? 

do you have freckles? 

do you smile for pictures?

how many pictures do you have on your phone? 

have you ever peed in the woods? 

do you still watch cartoons? 

do you prefer chicken nuggets from Wendy’s or McDonalds?

Favorite dipping sauce? 

what do you wear to bed? 

have you ever won a spelling bee?

 what are your hobbies?

can you draw? 

do you play an instrument?

what was the last concert you saw? 

tea or coffee?

Starbucks or Dunkin Donuts?

do you want to get married?

what is your crush’s first and last initial?

are you going to change your last name when you get married? 

what color looks best on you? 

do you miss anyone right now? 

do you sleep with your door open or closed?

do you believe in ghosts?

what is your biggest pet peeve? 

last person you called`

favorite ice cream flavor? 

regular oreos or golden oreos? 

chocolate or rainbow sprinkles? 

what shirt are you wearing? 

what is your phone background?

are you outgoing or shy?

do you like it when people play with your hair?

do you like your neighbors? 

do you wash your face? at night? in the morning?

have you ever been high? 

have you ever been drunk? 

last thing you ate? 

favorite lyrics right now

summer or winter? 

day or night? 

dark, milk, or white chocolate? 

favorite month? 

what is your zodiac sign

 who was the last person you cried in front of? 

[nogloryinlove]

400 lux is so full of v simple yet incredibly tender lyrics... like “you buy me orange juice”... and “you pick me up and take me home again” they’re all such simple underrated things - nothing grand and romantic!!! but still they make my heart ache so!!!! also not to mention the straightforward & earnest yet tentativeness of “and i like you” repeated over and over again.... literally jenny slate nasa scream

[ragsofthesun]

“you keep the car on while you’re waiting out front// you buy me orange juice” romance, literally romance

[ragsofthesun]

400 Lux so perfectly encapsulates the feeling of companionship born from boredom and how sometimes you love someone in a quiet n comfortable way but there’s this like…. atmosphere of sadness and anxiety abt the future that you don’t address n you’re both escaping

[wildestdream]

When is Lorde releasing a new album I need to feel emotions

[princesofphithia]

jo march in little women (2019) was like [you’ll be bored of him in two years and we’ll be interesting forever] [i love my liberty too well to give it up anytime soon] [can i call you teddy] [but i’m so lonely] [i want to be loved] [i can’t believe childhood is over]

[rumorsfrominez]

you tellin me that jack antonoff didn’t get producer of the year. deadass. the man who produced norman f****** rockwell. the man who produced melodrama. 1989. masseduction. reputation. lover. grammys cancelled.

[orbvan]

[deaddolin]

you are gay. you are

[diarygirls]

lorde b like. chest. teeth. lungs. and we all scream and cry on public transit for it