no no please, call me krave

mr. kravedeth was my father

[kravedeth]

30s/him/gaytran my discord is wordburbler come talk whenever i'm bored

[kravedeth]

tbh thinking back on it. it was a very galaxy brained move of my teenage self to drop out of school and get addicted to drugs because the people who actually finished school and went to college/uni and got good grades still can't get a job anyway lmao

like in hindsight, that was time well spent

[kravedeth]

i hate living here roommate stop fucking muttering to yourself by the doorway causing your voice and motions to echo through the whole apt

[kravedeth]

you can tell my brain is blurred out to fuck because my past and present tenses are all screwed up when i type

[kravedeth]

it's funny when you actively see someone reblogging from you and then you lose a follower and it was the same person who had been reblogging literally a minute before lol

one of those reblogs were too spicy apparently

[wokerevolverocelot]

something that is really disturbing abt transandrophobia discourse and this recent wave of shitting on trans mascs and trans men a is that compared to at least my experiences/understanding of past bi and ace discourse, ive seem waaaaay more trans men and mascs willingly submitting and accepting the characatures and negative stereotypes assigned to them, i guess in the hopes that they'll be seen as "one of the good ones."

Maybe its because 2020s queer discourse is already heavily centered on being the most palatable queer person at all times, thanks to the rise of TikTok which relies on this easily consummable and brandable part of the queer community. Because 10 years ago i feel like no trans person would ever be so eager to lay down and become a doormat for lateral aggression. There was a lot more fight and a more clear divide of "people who generally dont like this term/identity do not identify with that term/identity" and "people who do like this term/identity identify with this term/identity."

[kravedeth]

it's probably because we have these sentiments drilled into us the moment we involve ourselves with the queer community, and a lot of people ofc get involved as teenagers, so you're in a vulnerable space and will internalize anything you're told

the problem with transandrophobia has ramped up recently because of transmascs and men bringing the topic to light, but the underlying issues we're bringing to light were always there

eg. even ten-fifteen years ago there was a SIGNIFICANT amount of trans men and transmascs who presented as nonbinary because they felt being men would basically corrupt them. posts like "sometimes I think I might be a trans man but I don't want people to be afraid of me so I just keep saying I'm non-binary and presenting more on the fem side" were ridiculously common

so now yeah ofc, that generation of self hating trans men/masc have grown up and a lot of them still hate themselves. the concept that they're a lesser entity and even a threat within the queer community has been completely internalized now. to them when you fight against this concept you're challenging a basic universal fact

[bittersweetsolar]

i don't even think most transandrophobia deniers see trans men as men enough to hate them for being men. pretty sure they just see them as some sort of bad deviant women who are traitors for aligning with the big bad enemy.

[this-is-transandrophobia]

Saw a post that said “There’s no societal pressure for trans men to pretend to just be masculine women, but there’s plenty of societal pressure for trans women to pretend to be feminine men” <- paraphrased

Now. I’m not a trans man. But even I can tell that this is just not true.

Trans women do experience these things, there is absolutely pressure for them to dampen their own gender identity for the sake of other people, but it’s absolutely untrue that trans men don’t experience the same thing. This was a post that had, like, 2K likes too :(

This is transandrophobia.

[kravedeth]

"but why can't you just be a tomboy or butch woman? you look so good why do you hate your body? you look cute as you are now why would you want to go on testosterone? do you just hate women? smh the trans community is stealing all our butches."

all things i have been directly told by actual people

[smoothoperatorleclerc]

rb to have an extra gay 2026

[orphiclovers-deactivated2026032]

dogs might look like their owners but cat people always have a cat with the same mental illness as them

[sapphic-boy]

[hphatecraft]

The problem with long term isolation is you become insane and weird and unpalatable and unrelatable and it's seemingly impossible to ever forge meaningful connections with people ever again

[yassifiedgollum]

I really have zero patience with the whole "man vs. bear" / "you're alone in an elevator with three adult men BUT you feel completely safe. Who are they" / "male night joggers are the natural predator of female night joggers" thing. Like, it's jokes, but it's also sincere, and it reinforces the idea that it's normal and good for women to be afraid all the time, especially of men.

It is not good for women to be afraid all the time, and we should not encourage it! When you consume a media diet of mostly true crime, buy a surveillance device for your house, and commiserate with the girlies online about how scary it is to see a man in a public place, you are basically cultivating an anxiety disorder. This will make your life more unpleasant, because you have trained yourself to be scared all the time, and it will not benefit you, because your fears are based on memes, not reality. You're not protecting yourself from anything; you're just giving yourself an extra flinch response.

And it plays right into the hands of conservatives! The right wing would love it if all women, especially all white and/or wealthy women, were terrified to leave their houses alone because they might see a strange man. They want you to be on a quest for One Good Man who will protect you from all other men and to be too scared to go anywhere without him. They want you to be on a hair trigger, ready to call the cops on anyone who makes you uncomfortable, because that is your function within their hierarchy.

If you are a woman, especially a white woman, then your fear is used to justify violence against poor people and people of color, especially men. From the perspective of conservatives, this is what your fear is for. And your fear is, in large part, what you are for.

Don't let them use you. Don't cultivate your fear.

[facelessoldgargoyle]

It is far far more likely for women to be hurt, abused, and murdered by that One Good Man. Isolating yourself from others will in fact put you in more danger!

[alice-is-a-mouse]

life feels like this

[kravedeth]

the average person is incredibly annoying and fake and has no actual principles and this is why i can't connect with human beings tbh

[estrogennow]

If you thought her latest "Chasers are worse than pedophiles, actually" take was bad, maybe now you're ready to see what other trans people have been trying to warn you about without calling us transmisogynistic and sticking your fingers in your ears while going "LALALA I CAN'T HEAR YOU" perhaps? No? Okay

[cardentist]

some people will really come out here like "well if a trans man has been on testosterone for 10 years and has top and bottom surgery and doesn't interact with people who knew him before he transitioned or only interacts with people who aren't transphobic and doesn't present as feminine or nonconforming or otherwise queer and is strictly heterosexual and never wants to have their own children and never has any reproductive or otherwise gendered health issues at all and never has any negative experience with the legal system and doesn't experience interpersonal abuse that could require them to seek outside help and doesn't experience any lasting trauma on the journey to getting to that point in life then trans men Basically aren't even oppressed and have it pretty easy in life when you really think about it"

and people are just lining up to be like "Huh Wow.... Pretty Messed Up When You Think About It That Way" like damn, guess nobody's oppressed anywhere for any reason then 😭