Midnight on the Edge

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[misssmeat-deactivated20251019]

Last night L used me for the first time in months.

Many of you know that I’ve been focusing on my mental health this year, and it has caused us to pause the sexual side of our dynamic. I’m so thankful to have a partner whose love is not conditional and a Dom who can exert the control I crave without reaching for my body first.

There wasn’t a huge build up. He teased me a little. Edged me a few times. (L never lets me orgasm without edging me AT LEAST 3 times.) But he didn’t play with me too long before ordering me to scream for him.

Normally, it probably would not have been a very powerful orgasm. But after two months of no touching, an orgasm can be a shock to the system.

I cried. A lot. And L stayed. He quietly comforted me. Told how precious I am to him, how safe I am under his control, and that he’s not going to leave me.

I know I’m preaching to the choir, but the beauty of D/s is not in the rough sex and the name calling. It’s the safety we create for each other. Spaces to be ourselves without shame.

L reminds me of that fact through the love and care he shows me - on the good days and the bad. When he can call me his whore and when he stays with me through anxiety attacks.

I’m safe with him.

Also, my throat hurts from screaming. 🥰

[femsubdenial]

Missmeat's stuff is always hot, but when she wrote

I know I’m preaching to the choir, but the beauty of D/s is not in the rough sex and the name calling. It’s the safety we create for each other. Spaces to be ourselves without shame.

that's what catapulted it to a level where I said "holy fuck!" out loud!

[katedreaming-deactivated2019102]

Why Chastity & Denial

I’m on kik (of course, right?) and i’m shocked by how often both dominants and submissive are either surprised by or, worse, put off by my penchant for denial. It’s a particularly strange thing for me to hear [alleged] submissives exclaim, “Oh, I could never do that. I live for orgasms.” Maybe I’m old fashioned. Maybe I’m just old. But here are some reasons why, in no particular order:

I have impulse control issues. I need to be controlled.

My submission is more natural and strong when I’m kept denied.

I should not play with things that aren’t mine. 

Desperation, neediness and desire is a good look on me.

It is humiliating to depend on someone else for such a basic need/want.

Chastity belts are often beautiful.

It’s my purpose to bring pleasure, not to be pleasured.

Bodily mortification is healthy in many respects.

When denied, my brain is a little more mushy. I’m simpler.

Constant dripping.

[female-orgasm-denial]

There’s a girl after my own heart. Great blog if you don’t know it. Kinda fucked up in the best way.

[just-a-silly-innocent-good-girl]

And I tend to turn people off because I’m on denial and strict no touch. 🤷‍♀️

[just-a-silly-innocent-good-girl]

I know that I just reblog a post on chastity and denial, and of course my blog focus very much on denial, no touch, permanent denial and mental edging.

I read another post, in fact I came across similar post and comments before, as well as chatting with others....on the topic of orgasm denial. Not everyone is into it, this may not work for some people and with certain health concerns. Well, there is nothing wrong with orgasms. If you are happy with what you are doing and orgasms work for you, just do what works for you. Denial works for me, no touch works for me. You don't have to do what other people are doing. Denial doesn't determine whether one is a sub or not. If you identified yourself as a sub, you are a sub.

I do not wear a collar, but I'm a sub. Similarly, I am a sub, be it on denial or not. I am a sub because I am. No one can define who I am, based on my kinks or how kinky I'm and my relationship.

[tightlacedchaos]

How is your resolution coming? Pardon the pun :P I’m surprised you haven’t completely melted your brain yet

So far so good! Halfway through the year and still going strong :-)

[yeah-thats-not-it]

flustered and embarrassed girls are literally my favorite

[kymed]

Oh yes.

I'm not sure what you call that particular kink, but absolutely.

[hornypornyandcorny]

ynffffff fuckkk

I just want to edge until my brain is gone. I’ve got my lush in, on high, grinding on a pillow, and pulling and twisting on my poor aching nipples. nothing is enough. my need never goes away. Ungfff fuck i just wanna cum so bad!

[cherishedproperty]

Tell Me Why

One of the things that fascinates me about this community is how people can be drawn to the same act for so many different reasons. Fetishes, sex positions, rules and protocol… It’s so easy sometimes to match up a list of fetishes and think you’re on the same page as someone. But that only gets you halfway. Maybe. And it’s because the reasons are what matters, not the act itself.

I dated a man once who confessed his interest in tail plugs. It wasn’t something I’d ever considered before, but I was open to it. Especially in the context of this relationship, I assumed it was a humiliation thing. He liked to make me beg for things I didn’t want, then show me how wet it made me. I assumed the tail plug stemmed from the same desires. It made sense to me. He wanted a tail holding my ass open while I crawled for him. He wanted me low.

But I was wrong. That wasn’t his vision at all. For him, there was a softness to it. He wanted me to curl up against him while he caressed me—down my back and over my tail and my thighs. The tail unlocked a different kind of connection for us. It was not the mind fuck game we usually played. It was free of all that. Innocent and light. Vulnerable and tender. It gave him the freedom to touch me absentmindedly without words or expectations. It was so much deeper that I ever expected.

It’s rarely the act itself; it’s what we feel and where it takes us. It’s how we access new parts of ourselves and each other. It’s how we learn who we are at the core of our being. It’s how we grow and discover together. At the core of every act that drives us, there is meaning. The meaning is what connects us and allows us to feel truly seen—but only if it’s shared.

So you have to tell me why. Why do you like it? What is it that speaks to you? Is it that moment right before? Is it the way my cheeks blush as I obey? Is it the way I feel after, soft and sweet curled in your arms?  Where do you feel it? In your heart? In your groin? Somewhere deep in your bones? Tell me what it means to you and where it touches you. That will tell me more than any fetish list ever could. 

[good-girls-edge]

Are there any toys or tools you think every girl should have?

Here are a few that I prefer. This is aimed at long-distance D/s.

1. vibrator (preferably multispeed - low speeds for teasing, higher for edging)

2. humping buddy - this has a dual purpose, it can be a stuffed animal, pillow, or anything soft that a girl can hump but also cuddle if she crashes after an orgasm

3. anal plug - for an extra sensation now and then while edging as well as trips out of the house

4. dildo (if the vibrator itself is not one)

and on a more personal level

6. fox tail anal plug - for when Sir wants to play

7. anal dildo -  for when Sir wants to take her ass

8. nipple clamps (and clothespins) - for punishment and or funishment

9. suction cup dildo - for self-pleasure as well as viewing pleasure

(Kegel balls can also be a fun addition for a stuffed feeling. She can mix it up with a vibrating kegel for a night out on the town.)

[hornypornyandcorny]

I’ll be real, i had full intentions of cumming last night with my hands tied and my lush on high. I was riding the edge, lost in a delicious hazy fantasy… and i fell asleep. Just faded from consciousness. I woke up an hour or so later, lush dead in my cunt, arms still restrained, hands tingly. I was so tired and confused that it was all i could do to untie my hands. Left the lush in…. well FUCK did i wake up needier and more desperate than ever. My cunt is on fire, dripping with need. My nipples are sore from needing attention… fuck

So today will be an edging day until i have to get ready for work. Will def be posting on snap. Come and see, fromtumblr98 🥰🥰

[kymed]

Intended to cum, but didn't. Waking up, and edging even more. A whole lot more.

Girls wanting to know what it takes to be really, truly good could learn a lot from you.

[art-of-domination-deactivated20]

Wants

This isn’t about me fucking you.  

I don’t want to just fuck you.

This isn’t about me tying you up.

I don’t want to just tie you up.

This isn’t about making you moan or scream.

I don’t want to just make you moan or scream.

This is about me exerting my complete power over you.  

[missmiffle]

Beautifully put.

[praiusultsch]

Today I gave my orgasms away

…to a very special person. She looked after them for me for a short while, then She showed them to me, She gave them back in moans and lust and sweat and love.

I gave them to Her, and She took them from me, and realisd them as I watched, denied, and dripping.

It was wonderful.

[good-girls-edge]

I am new to edging, could you please give me some tasks that will help me be a good girl? I don’t want to accidentally go over without permission

The hardest thing for those new to edging is stopping before they go over.  For some girls, it feels to good to stop. For others, they are not familiar enough with their body to properly ride an edge.  The following is my suggestion, as this technique has worked well for many good girls starting out.

There are two kinds of edges. A hard edge and a soft edge. A hard edge is when you stop just before you have an orgasm. That one is the hardest to do when you are new. But there is also a soft edge. With this type of edging, you will stop just when you feel yourself starting to climb that hill.

For the next seven days, I want you to try and do three soft edges a day. Spread them out so your body has time to cool down between each one. (I am a huge fan of the morning edge because that help sets your mind frame of being a good girl.) Do not tempt fate, stick with soft edges the entire week.

When your week is up, I want you to try a hard edge.  If you successfully hard edge without going over then continue for another week of doing one to three hard edges a day.

Most important of all, don’t get discouraged if you go over. Your body has to adjust to you wanting to edge. If you do go over then start with soft edges again for a couple days and then trying a hard edge.

We would love to hear how everything turns out.

[good-girls-edge]

Good Girl Task

Window edging. Three edges today. Each edge must be at least 2 hours apart and one of those edges will be performed in front of a window.

4/25/19

[tightlacedchaos]

14 months. 423 days.

Holy crap.

That’s a long time to go without orgasms.

There’s so much longer to go too….

I’m losing my mind, slowly. I’ve almost worn my collar to work several times, to the point I’ve given up and made myself something suitable to wear daily in lieu of my actual real, buckled on, obvious, collar. I don’t know where this obsession originated. It just happened.

I’ve also started wearing my plug a whole lot more… Overnight and more consistently…

Everything sets me on fire. The water in the shower, the sheets on my bed, how tight jeans push my plug in, just that little bit more. I squirm my way through my day, trying not to moan it whine out loud.

I find myself craving being dressed to edge, not even needing to touch, just to feel the corset hug my body and hold my waist. To feel the weight of my collar around my neck.

I almost came from playing with my nipples the other night. As in, legitimately, actively, holding back. All I can think about is being tortured with 100 orgasms, forced from my body, while bound and unable to escape. While at the same time, not even wanting to cum because I want to feel like this forever…. Talk about juxtaposition in my brain !

14 months is a really long time without orgasms. Not so long as two years, or forever, but really really long, right now.

I don’t know if there will be any sanity left at the end? Or if even orgasms will bring it back?

Good girls don’t cum.

[eclectic-peanut]

Why you should never ever ever let sadists handle your orgasm denial

They’re evil, duh.

They will use anything you said against you when it suits them

They will take what you think you might like a tiny bit, amp it up till eleven, and still find a way to make you beg for it

They will laugh at you when you’re vulnerable

They will rub it in your face when you can’t cum in whatever ridiculous way they decided you get to cum

They will hook you in with shits and giggles and inescapable adorableness

They will just sit back and relax till you work yourself up into a desperate ball of frenzy just begging to do what the hell ever evil concoction of depraved things makes them tick, just for their amusement.

Hence the probability of cumming when you think you need to is probably about 0.00392%

I told you, they are Capital E -vil.

Why you should absolutely have a sadist handle your orgasm denial if you don’t already

They’re evil, duh

They will use anything you said against you when it suits them

They will take what you think you might like a tiny bit, amp it up till eleven, and still find a way to make you beg for it

They will laugh at you when you’re vulnerable

They will rub it in your face when you can’t cum in whatever ridiculous way they decided you get to cum

They will hook you in with shits and giggles and inescapable adorableness

They will just sit back and relax till you work yourself up into a desperate ball of frenzy just begging to do what the hell ever evil concoction of depraved things makes them tick, just for their amusement.

Hence the probability of cumming when you think you need to is probably about 0.00392%

I told you, they are Capital E -vil.

[thewanderinglion]

😈😀

[dontgetwisewithme]

Denial is good for her

Here’s why. Because there will come a time where she becomes so desperate to cum that she’ll do anything to be allowed to cum. The amount of depraved and disgusting things she will do in order to earn an orgasm from you will be incredible. So deny her until she has no shame left in her body and make sure she proves it.

[mrmattegrey]

My greatest joy

My greatest joy, and pleasure in regards to being a Dom isn’t all the kinky sex, it’s not all the rules, or punishments. It’s being my Submissives biggest fan, supporter, and what ever else she needs of me so that she can be the best version of her self, and to help her accomplish of the goals she has set for herself.

I will do anything and everything I can in regards to those two things. If she needs someone to help with homework, chores, cooking, cleaning, diet, guess what? That is all easy for me to do. If she needs someone to pick her up and carry her when the world has beat her down, guess what? I’ve got a strong back, strong arms, and I will protect her until she can stand on her own again. If she needs someone to help her fight her own thoughts, and her own demons, I’m going to be there right by her side every damn step of the way. If she needs a night out with her friends and someone to pick her up at the end of the night? Guess who’s going to be there to drive her home, make sure she has some water, and gets what she needs in the morning if she has a hangover? Me. If she gets sick and just wants to watch disney and cuddle with soup and tissues all day, I’ll have it all together before you can snap your fingers, and whistle.

That is what being a Dom means. It’s not shouting orders, it’s not spanking or beating someone until they’re purple and blue.

It’s doing everything you can to make sure that person who has trusted you, and submitted to you, has everything they need to be the best version of themselves. That they have everything they need to accomplish their personal goals.

And I swear if anyone stands in her way of doing this, well I will clear the path for her.

[indulge-her-through-denial-blog]

WE wish that every single Dominant, Master, Sir, Husband, Boyfriend or whatever he may call himself would take the time to read this passage. 

Every sister in the sorority that is single was swooning over this dominant’s response and every sister that has a Dom was either smiling ear to ear because she knows what it feels like to have a man treat her this way or on the opposite side questioning her dynamic.

GENTLEMEN… TAKE NOTE… if she thinks you are worthy of her submission you better  prove her right every single day!

[kymed]

Absolutely.