“Don’t you want to be alive before you die?”

Rose, 32, Genderfluid (she/he/they) Bisexual Mess

[free-my-girl-tourney]

Welcome to the free my girl tourney!

this is a tournament where we defend all our favorite characters who are also victims of fandom misogyny. this post contains a link to the submission form, but before that, here are some rules:

no real people (obviously there are lots of real life women who are victims of fandom misogyny, but i feel like having those women compete in a poll against each other and also against fictional characters would be kind of disrespectful to the actual real life shit they were put through)

no men!!!! idc if he's like a woman to you, this tournament isn't for him!!!!

obviously, misogyny does not have to be the only factor here, it just has to be one of the factors. if racism, homophobia, transphobia, ableism, etc. are also part of the problem, do not hesitate to bring that up in your submission! it's highly relevant! the last thing i want is a tournament consisting of only cis straight white women, especially because so many of the hated/mistreated women of fandom are also marginalized in other ways that the fandom hates them for.

idk if this is a rule exactly, but just to clarify, this tournament is about which one of these characters is your favorite. it is emphatically not about trying to quantify which character is the biggest victim of fandom misogyny. that seems like an utterly exhausting and pointless thing to argue about, please don't subject me to that. i just want to see people defend their favorite overly maligned or mistreated girlies in my notes, i cannot stress this enough

characters don't have to be overtly hated to be victims of fandom misogyny. they can also be perpetually ignored in favor of men, or constantly characterized as the wise mom friend who the fandom has apparently decided has no desires or goals or needs besides being a sounding board for their favorite white boy, etc.

there's no time limit on this thing. even if the hatred/fandom mistreatment has died down and the character in question has been re-examined since, if there was ever a period in which they were subjected to fandom misogyny en masse, they count.

that said, don't choose characters who are generally universally beloved and always have been but you saw one person shit on them one time in a misogynistic way and got annoyed. i hate when that happens too, but it's does have to be a trend, not just one annoying guy, even if the guy in question is really annoying.

submit as many characters as you like!

you can submit a character here:

Victims of Fandom Misogyny Tournament -Submission Form

[apolladay]

Pet owners, what kind of name does your pet have???

A food-item (Waffles, Peanut)

A color (Pinky, Hazel)

A real-life person (Marilyn, Paris)

A fictional character (Eevee, Simba)

A type of flora (Rosie, Willow)

Animal-like (Kitty, Gator)

A trait (Lucky, Buddy)

Something else

If you have more than one pet, choose the most applicable listed (ex: you have three pets named Cookie, Cream & Rocky, so you choose the “Food” option). Also, would be interested if you reblogged your pet’s name(s) in the tags and the reason why you chose it ^^

Pet owners, what kind of name does your pet have???

A food-item (Waffles, Peanut)

A color (Pinky, Hazel)

A real-life person (Marilyn, Paris)

A fictional character (Eevee, Simba)

A type of flora (Rosie, Willow)

Animal-like (Kitty, Gator)

A trait (Lucky, Buddy)

Something else

No pet

Voting ended onJun 11

If you have more than one pet, choose the most applicable listed (ex: you have three pets named Cookie, Cream & Rocky, so you choose the “Food” option). Also, would be interested if you reblogged your pet’s name(s) in the tags and the reason why you chose it ^^

[skelotan]

Just another day in the life of an NPC! : )

[newlyy]

Not that I think all marriages are doomed but when deciding who to marry you should ask yourself “is this someone I’d want to divorce?” As in, is this someone I believe would be mature and fair, even when they’re upset and don’t particularly like me at the moment. Is this someone I could continue to trust while going through an adversarial process? And if the answer is no, don’t marry them.

[lacontessemadi]

Officially past the cutesy stage of crushing and am just mega horny for them

[lacontessemadi]

Um, so, maybe crush mutual?

[lacontessemadi]

I saw someone on threads talk about people being 'parentified' by their partner and I... that really can't happen? Unless there's a secondary definition I've never come across maybe?

It feels really off to me though.

I'm not saying you can't have a dynamic where one partner feels pressured/coerced into taking on a caretaker/parental role in a relationship, but parentification is specifically about a child being forced into an "adult" role and expected to care of your parents and/or siblings* either emotionally, practically, or both... and the affect that has on a child.

I feel like we're in danger of muddying the waters and making it harder for people with parentification related trauma to get proper support and resources by using the term more widely.

*nuance here of course, there will be other relationship like guardian, grandparent, cousin etc. depending on specific family set ups

[lacontessemadi]

Are you telling me this tank is a top?

[lacontessemadi]

Told a friend about my crush on a mutual friend and they said they'd "thought before that we'd be good together" and they've "definitely noticed them flirt with you before" 👀

[spin-the-wheel-polls]

you have this superpower! BUT you have this side-effect

is it worth it?

yes!!

the side effect is bad but ITS WORTH IT

meh it's okay

the side effect makes it unusable/not worth it

Results/option I didn't think of

Voting ended onMay 20

[lacontessemadi]

They should invent a way of scrolling your crush's social media without the risk of accidentally liking something

[francesderwent]

reblog this and tag with a food you no longer have access to (closed restaurant, state you moved away from, ex’s mom’s cooking, etc) that will haunt you until your dying day, mine are the spicy chicken sandwich on the employee menu at the fine dining restaurant I was a prep cook at, and the onion bagel from the kosher place down the street from my house when I lived in the city

[lacontessemadi]

The thing with this new "you can't see mature content unless you scan your ID" thing is I literally only know about it cause I see posts discussing it.

Other than that, I can no longer see mature posts, but nothing tells me how to change this, I just get a "this post contains mature content" bar, and no way to click on it or no info about what I'd need to do to view it

[lacontessemadi]

I may have dangled a project I need help with in a group chat, knowing there was multiple people who could help, but secretly hoping that a very specific person would offer...

[dragon-in-a-fez]

people act like having breakfast for dinner is weird and special when in fact it's the most widespread and normalised meal identity transgression out there. talk to me when you're having dinner for breakfast, snack for dinner, lunch for brunch,

[lacontessemadi]

.

[lacontessemadi]

I have to have an ultrasound of my ovaries, which requires a full bladder... and it's torture