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this is too awesome

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hands-down one of my all time favorite taylor moments

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What fucks me up about this is that he’s using a classic abusive behaviour on her.

He starts out by doing something that seems innocent but which is often a tactic used by abusive men to get past women’s defenses and justify their own behaviour. “I’m a nice guy. I’m not mean. I wouldn’t do anything bad.” And without being specific to this guy, TSwift calls him on it: she points out that there’s a very high correlation between self-labeling as a “nice guy” and not actually being very nice. It’s as polite as she can be without actually saying explicitly that this guy’s a jerk, but everyone listening knows that she’s basically just said, “Hey, you just did this thing that’s shitty.”

And his response is to try to gaslight her. Gaslighting is when you try to manipulate someone by making them doubt their perception of reality. It sounds like it would be impossible, but it’s actually incredibly common among abusive men, and often appears hand in hand with this creepy “I’m nice” crap. What he does is, rather than argue with her about whether most guys who self-label as nice are actually jerks, or move on to another topic, or shout her down—-what he does is DENY REALITY. Guys who self-label as nice aren’t nice? Cool—he’ll just assert that he never did that. Despite the fact that he JUST DID IT. ON CAMERA.

People who date men: if a man ever does this to you, run like hell. It’s the beginning of a very steep slope. Men who lie to you about behaviour you’ve observed—who lie to you about documented reality—in order to serve their own ends are not men you can trust. They are not good people. RUN THE FUCK AWAY.

Meanwhile, a million props to Taylor Swift for calling that shit out.

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what is the MAGIC

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it’s called mochi!

it’s like ice cream in a soft skin!

also, it’s fucking amazing!

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This is もちアイス (mochiaisu) and the “soft skin” is pounded rice cake. The white stuff you see on the outside is powdered sugar so they won’t get sticky. It’s very delicious on a hot day and you can get these at the right self-serve frozen yogurt joints. Unfortunately North America sells one mochiaisu for a dollar and some cents whereas in Japan you can get these by the boxful in any supermarket.

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Want it. Nnh

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you can make it yourself at home folks! Mochi is really simple to make, all you have to do is take 2 cups rice flower, mix with 1 cup water and ½ cup sugar, boil it in a pot or put in a ceranwrap covered bowl and put in microwave for 7 minutes. turn off the heat and stir it until it becomes solid and sticky. Then you can roll it into balls with a little bit of rice flour on top to keep it from being too sticky. Then you can eat it just like that, cover a scoop of ice cream and freeze it to make this, or you can make Strawberry Daifuku which is strawberries and red bean paste (anko) wrapped in mochi. I make it all the time!

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Aww damn i gotta do this!!

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Y'ALL TRADER JOES (American grocery store, dunno if it’s international) HAS THESE TOO AND THEY’RE CHEAP AND DELIGHTFUL

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I thought people were EATING Lush bath bombs 😂😂😂😂😂

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😂😂😂😂😂☝🏿☝🏿☝🏿☝🏿

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I’ve heard about these…and I want one!

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I NEED THIS IN MY LIFE

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(via https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mg0s3CDkbvQ) Yup. Practically me in nutshell. “Not being a lady doesn’t mean you’re not a woman.”

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16 Creative Ideas for Healthy Yogurt Toppings

I’m hungry. :c

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“This says it all.

“In the mainstream Baltimore media and all over social media, people were posting these pictures yesterday supposedly showing white people defending each other against Black protesters and thieves. The racists on the internet were going nuts calling people ‘animals.’

“Thanks to social media, however, we get the real story: these pictures are actually of white protesters fighting with a provocative white racist woman; and she was actually trying to take the Black man’s bag (not the other way around!)

“The media loves the story of a ‘race riot,’ when in fact you had a diverse crowd confronting a bunch of drunk racists.”

Via Ben Becker