Honeymoon

sweet as sugar. 22.

[theblackcourtesan]

To have the upperhand in the relationship, the men in your life must love you more than you love them. The only way that this can work for you is if you love yourself more than you love any man.  - Celeste Mgboli

[loehmanns]

[russiancleopatra-deactivated201]

Why Zsa Zsa Gabor was the ultimate trophy wife of Old Hollywood

She was married nine! times & her husbands were all dirty rich men, mostly: hotel mogul, investor, businessman, an earl & and a prince. She’s been known for being a huge siren and was good friends with icons like Marilyn Monroe, Frank Sinatra and Greta Garbo.

“I never hated a man enough to give him his diamonds back.”

I always said marriage should be a fifty-fifty proposition. He should be at least fifty years old, and have at least fifty-million dollars.“

“I believe in large families. Every woman should have at least three husbands.”

“My husband said it was him or the cat. I miss him sometimes.”

“How many husbands have I had? You mean apart from my own?”

“There’s no better money to spend than your own.”

“My most favorite joke is that to keep a marriage, the husband should have a night out with the boys and the wife should have a night out with the boys, too.”

“I don’t take gifts from perfect strangers—but then, nobody is perfect.”

“I want a man who’s kind and understanding. Is that too much to ask of a millionaire?”

“I’m a marvelous housekeeper: every time I leave a man - I keep his house.

[sugarbabyash-deactivated2022121]

POT 1st Date Conversation

I am typically very nervous and anxious before a POT date. In order for me to feel more comfortable, I came up with a script so I have talking point to avoid awkward silences.

Before a date I typically heavily research their job and look up a few current events articles that pertain to their career. This is to get an idea of not only how much they make but their job responsibilities so we can have an interactive conversation when we speak about his job.

Script Format:

Introduction

I ask how his day was

Then I ask if he has been to the restaurant before

If yes, does he come here often? What does he recommend?

If no, I heard great things about the restaurant. Apparently, the (name of dish) is to die for!

Talk about the ambiance, vibe, and decor of the restaurant

Then I have 3 Phases of questions prepared

Phase 1: Work

So you are a (his job title) that is so interesting I’d love to hear more about it.

Follow up questions

How do you like your job?

Where did you go to school?

What was your major?

What made you choose this career?

Use words like interesting, fascinating, paramount, etc. when responding. This basically inflates his ego while showing him you’re interested in what he has to say.

Phase 2: Get To Know You Questions

What do you do outside of work?

What are your hobbies?

Do you prefer watching tv shows or movies?

What shows/movies do you watch?

Do you like to read?

What are some your favorite books?

What is your favorite type of food? Favorite restaurant?

Do you like sports?

What’s your favorite sport/teams?

What type of music do you listen to?

Have you been to any fun concerts recently?

Always prepare your responses for these questions and have follow up question as well. The follow up questions and your responses help make the conversation flows and makes it seem natural. If you don’t have any hobbies make up some! Make sure it’s not a common one and RESEARCH that hobby (makes the lie seem more believable).

Phase 3: Silly/Random Questions

This keeps the date lighthearted and fun

Are you a morning bird or night owl?

What do you prefer coffee or tea?

Cats or dogs?

Do you consider yourself a pessimist, realist, or idealist?

What are yours biggest pet peeves?

If you could eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?

These phases typically take up the whole dinner date. Try not to sound rehearsed or robotic to make the conversation seem more natural.

Nonverbal communication is also extremely important! Almost as important as verbal. This shows you are interested and having a good time.

Face your feet and body towards him

Shoulders straight

Chest up and out

Eye contact

Flutter and bat your eyes

Smize (smile with your eyes)

Smile

Laugh/giggle

After the 3 phases I say something along the lines of “I’m very curious why are you on the site?”. This transitions the conversation towards the arrangement and allowance discussion. Then ask what he’s looking for in an arrangement and allowance expectations. I try to never say a number first (that’s the first rule of negotiation). Have him throw out a number then you counter.

Since having this script and rehearsing the conversation, I’ve had more successful 1st POT dates. I highly recommend scripts to every SB.

[sk-lumen]

Once you get a taste of bettering yourself, it becomes addictive in the best sense, it becomes a priority to put your wellbeing first, your health, your growth, your education. All you’re going to be focused on is how to become the best version of you possible. This is the most powerful form of living; as all the energy otherwise wasted on comparison, doubt, etc is invested into you, as it should be.

[queensofrap]

Foxy Brown - I Can’t

[fendi-in-pariii]

Thisssss song is the sugaring book

[federiac-deactivated20250916]

Men really have the nerve to ask women for everything. They’ll ask you for sex the first time you met them. They’ll ask you to split a 10$ bill. They’ll ask you to cook for them, to do their laundry, to accept their 4 babies with their 4 baby mamas. They’ll ask you to stay with them while they don’t even have a job and are living at your place. Men are capable of approaching a doctor, a lawyer, a CEO woman while being totally uneducated. They will want you to be in shape and well dressed while they will hang out with the same hoodie even at a restaurant. So, why are you ashamed of having standards? Why do you need a paid guide from some random coach to ask for things? Hypergamy and sugaring are easier than all of you think, but of course, if you start as insecure, you will get nowhere.  Don’t try this lifestile if you are insecure. Your step number one in your level up journey should be being confident, then comes sugaring, escorting, hypergamy or whatever. 

[sugarbabyrudeness-deactivated20]

“Do not reward a man’s bad behaviour with your female attention.”

[sheholdsyoucaptivated]

Margot Robbie (on her character Naomi Lapaglia in The Wolf of Wall Street, 2013):

“As for my character in particular, the nudity and the sexual side to her is her main power over Jordan. She uses that to manipulate men to get what she wants. That’s her form of currency in a world where she’s surrounded by millionaires, and she’s come from nothing. She didn’t have any money whatsoever. That’s how she became a millionaire, you know? So she definitely wouldn’t see it that way. She wouldn’t feel sorry for herself for having to take her clothes off. She would do that willingly. In fact, she would pity the men that are dumb enough to fall for it. It’s her form of power, so it wouldn’t feel exploitative for my character at all.”

[elie-sugar]

I do this for the money and the life I will have, not the men. Never the men.

[nerdystripper]

The hoe’s beginner guide to investing

I am NOT an expert by any means, but in the two years or so since I started investing I’ve made a pretty decent amount on the stock market. Also I think it’s super important for everyone (but especially sex workers) to get comfortable with the stock market. Whether you want some passive income or you’re planning for retirement, you’re going to get a lot more out of putting your money in the stock market as opposed to that money sitting in your bank account or safe where it’s actually depreciating in value due to inflation. Be a smart ho and have your money make money for you! 

Where to begin

It’s kind of daunting to start investing if you’ve never done it before, but everyone starts somewhere. Personally, I use Fidelity but you can google any brokerage firm and lots of different places will come up like Vanguard, Charles Schwab, and TDAmeritrade. It should be noted, however, that each of these firms charge fees to make trades. Meaning every time you buy or sell a share of stock or other secuirty, the brokerage firm will charge you a commission fee, usually $5+. A really great app for beginners is Robin Hood. They don’t charge any fees at all which is awesome for newbies. However, when you start an account with a big firm there are lots of benefits that Robin Hood doesn’t have, such as no fee mutual funds/ETFs and investing/retirement advice. Consider your options and pick the right firm or app for yourself. More info: Robinhood

What kind of account should you open

This depends on what your goal is. If you just want to play around with investments a bit and want to be able to take your money out when you want you can open a standard brokerage account. However, it should be noted that any profit you make from this account will be taxed, as standard brokerage accounts have no tax benefits and are taxed as regular income. Personally I’m a big proponent of Roth IRAs. This is a type of retirement account that is basically tax free money when you withdraw it (after age 59 ½, before that you get penalized because this type of account is designed to be taken out when you’re of retirement age). You wont get a tax deduction when you contribute to it but when you take it out in 30-40 years all that money will not be taxed. I encourage everyone to open one up. Tax free money is good money! There’s also another type of IRA that’s called a Traditional IRA it is similar to a Roth IRA however it is tax deferred. That means that when you contribute to it, you get a deduction on your taxes but when you take it out you will be taxed on it. The limit for BOTH IRA accounts is $5500. So that means between your Traditional and Roth you cannot contribute more than $5500 per year. More info: 7 Advantages of Investing in Taxable Accounts, Traditional IRA vs. Roth IRA, Tax Benefits of a Brokerage Account vs. Roth IRA

So you picked a firm and an account type, what now

There’s lots of different securities you can invest in but I’m going to cover the four most common and ones I personally understand the best: stocks, bonds, mutual funds, and ETFs.

Stocks: Investing in stocks is a great way to start your portfolio. They’re probably the most common security, even people who have no idea about investing know the term “stock market.” Buying a share of stock is like buying a little piece of the company. So when they’re doing well and making a profit you get a little piece of the profit as well. Before buying a stock it’s important to do your research. I suggest starting out buying stock of companies you already know and trust. Do you use your Visa card a lot? Look into their stock price! Go to Walmart a lot? Same idea. If you’re a new investor you want to buy stocks that are already well established companies and you know you can trust (so far as their financials go, ethically is a different story). Google the company and see if there’s been any scandals recently. Look at their financial statements (google the company + “income statement”) and see how they are doing financially. Are they turning a profit? Do they have a lot of debt? Look at the past stock price (google the company stock ticker and Google will come up with a graph of their stock price). Has it been steadily going up? Or is there wild swings up and down? You want to stay away from volatile stocks until you understand the stock market a little better. More info: Understanding the Income Statement, How to Invest in Stocks, Stock Basics Tutorial, The Complete Beginner’s Guide to Investing in Stock

Bonds: A bond is basically a loan you give to a company (or government) with the promise that they will pay you back your original amount plus interest earned. Like when you take out a car loan from a bank except you’re the one loaning the money. The good thing about bonds (especially from the US government or another big, successful institution) is that it is very low risk. But with low risk comes low rewards. Bond interest rates are typically much lower than the rate of return on other securities. For this reason, I don’t own any bonds. My approach to investing is aggressive growth, but that doesn’t mean bonds are a bad investment. Quite the opposite actually. Especially for investors who want to be a little more conservative with their money. More info: How to Invest in Bonds, How to invest in bonds: a beginner’s guide

Mutual funds: Mutual funds are a great way for new investors to make money but not put in a whole lot of effort. They’re basically just a huge fund that multiple people and groups put money into so the managers can buy and sell securities within them. Basically, you buy into a fund and professional fund manager manages the securities (bonds, stocks, etc) within it so you don’t have to manually buy and sell share yourself like you would with regular stocks. A few things about mutual funds: a lot of them have a minimum investment amount, usually around $2500 (although some firms have mutual funds with starting investments at $500 but they’re not as common). Which seems like a lot but a mutual fund is one of the most secure and stress free ways to make money on the stock market. After you invest the initial $2500 you can continue to invest any amount you want. Let’s say you bought $2500 and now you just want to invest another $100 into the fund, you can do that. It’s important to research the fund as well. This is where having an account with a brokerage firm will come in handy, many of them have their own mutual funds that you can buy into for no extra fees. When you’re researching mutual funds look at the past history, how much risk is involved (most brokerage firms will rate the risk on a scale), how many times the fund manager has changed (you want a fund with a steady manager). You also want to look into the top holdings. Most funds will be grouped based on category. So one might be a tech centered mutual fund, one might be emerging markets, one might be medical devices, etc. I’ll go into diversification in a bit. Another type of mutual fund is called an index fund. These funds basically track the overall growth of the market. So they’re not super profitable but they’re normally pretty stable (assuming the market is stable, but I’ll go more into that later). More info: Trading Mutual Funds for Beginners, 5 Mutual Funds to Get You Started, How to Get Started Investing With Mutual Funds

ETF’s: An ETF is like a mutual fund that trades like a stock. ETFs are similar to mutual funds in a lot of ways. Most of them are index funds that track a certain market or sector’s index. There are some key differences however. Number one, since they’re based on an index they’re not actively managed like a mutual fund, meaning there’s lower fees. Number two, there’s no minimum investment like there are with mutual funds, making them a great investment alternative for someone who doesn’t want to put up $2500 right away. There’s also various other differences like options trading and short selling but that’s beyond the scope of this guide. If anyone wants to learn more about those I’ll include some links below. As always, just like with stocks, bonds, and mutual funds, research ETFs before you buy into them. Know what you’re getting yourself into! More info: Why Invest in ETFs?, 3 Top ETFs for Beginners, 7 Best ETF Strategies for Beginners, Options Trading, How to Sell Stock Short

How much to invest

This really depends on your income, bills, savings goals, etc. DO NOT invest anything you can’t afford to lose. Take care of your rent, utilities, emergency savings, etc first. Let’s say you have $5000 saved up (aside from your emergency fund) and it’s just sitting in your savings account earning 0.5% interest. You could take half of it and play around on the stock market a bit. Even if you don’t make 7% in the first year you’re bound to get a better rate of return than that savings account is giving you. Even if you only have $500 to start with that’s fine too! Whatever you feel comfortable with potentially losing, especially while you’re first learning about investing. More info: I Make $50K a Year: How Much Should I Invest?, Saving vs. Investing Money

Diversification

Diversification is basically like insurance for when certain sectors of the market take a dip. You don’t want your whole portfolio to consist of one type of stock or even securities from just one country. I’ll give you an example. Let’s say your portfolio consists of a share of Apple, a share of Samsung, and a share of Google. These are all well known, profitable companies so you may think you’re doing great. But then there’s a scandal in the tech world or one of the materials they need to make processors spikes in price. Now the whole tech sector is experiencing a slump. Because that’s all your portfolio consists of, you’re basically putting all your faith in one sector of the economy which is bound to have dips (every sector will). Now if you invest equally in the tech, energy, and industrial sectors, when one isn’t doing so well your portfolio won’t take a huge hit. It’s the same with only holding securities from the US. When the Cheeto in chief does something stupid, US stocks may slump. You can counteract this by investing in different countries and emerging markets. Recently I’ve invested in Chinese, Japanese, Korean, and European markets to offset whatever damaging effects our president is doling out. This is where mutual funds and ETFs come in handy. A lot of them are already diversified. If you know what sector you want to buy into you can google “emerging markets mutual fund” and a bunch of results will come up that you can research from there. Don’t be afraid to branch out into up and coming markets. More info: The Importance Of Diversification, Here’s Why Diversification Matters, 5 Big Mistakes Investors Make When They Diversify

Holy shit the stock market is tanking what do I do

First of all, don’t panic. The market “ebbs and flows.” There are great times in the market when it’s peaking and then not so great times when it’s dipping. The good news is, if you’re a long term investor, the ebbs and flows won’t matter much. Even in the event of a recession. For example, yes in 2008 people lost a LOT of money in the stock market. However, 10 years later many long term investors have made up those loses and have made even more money since then. It’s also important to note that not every dip in the market means there’s a recession coming. Warren Buffet (who’s probably the most prolific investor of our time) always advises to hold instead of just sell sell sell immediately when things go south. Let’s say you buy a share of stock for $100. Two months later it’s down to $50 so you freak out and sell it for a loss of $50. Then three years down the line it’s price is $300. Had you held it you would’ve profited $200. Now, not every stock is like this. And if you see you’re losing money and the stock is not rebounding with the market as a whole, you should consider selling. But I prefer to hold and wait things out to see how they go. A good idea is to set up a stop loss order for your securities. Basically you pick a price and when that security drops below that price, your brokerage will automatically sell it for you. So you don’t have to constantly be monitoring it. Another good thing about downturns in the market is it’s basically when everything is on “sale” so to speak. Stocks drop in price so it’s a good idea to get in while they’re cheap so when the economy is doing better you’ll make money. Be wary of stocks that are tumbling downward very fast though. Again, look at their financials and google google google them. See what the experts are saying about this company. More info: How to Deal With a Stock Market Drop, Why The Stock Market Sold Off, And What You Should Do Now, The stock market is dropping—here’s what you should do

Good luck!

I know this is a long guide, it’s a lot to read through. Don’t get discouraged. It’s good to be well prepared and knowledgable about the stock market before you jump in or else you may lose a large sum of money (well, you may lose a large sum of money anyway but that’s beside the point). If you’re not 100% comfortable investing real money there are several investing “games” where you are given something like $100k in fake money and trade stocks at their actual values. I started doing this when I was 15 (before I had any real money to trade with). It’s a great way to get your feet wet with no real risk and get comfortable with the trading aspect. I recommend MarketWatch. Also realize that investing advice is not one size fits all. Some experts will disagree on certain strategies, stocks, outlooks, etc. It’s important to take everything you read about investing with a grain of salt (including this guide!) A smart investor is an informed investor who knows what they’re doing. Remember: research, take your time, and don’t invest anything you’re not comfortable losing. Happy investing hoes!

[staroidi]

How I Teach Men Not To Talk Over Me: from one feminist to another, when basic respect is lagging and conversations are impossible

I’ve done this to several men, and they catch on rather quickly. You’ll be able to have a conversation right then and there, and it works long term too - they might’ve forgot their manners by the time you talk to them again, but by repeating this, they’ll eventually learn to let you talk without you having to do this at the start of every convo. Source: I have a very stubborn older brother, who eventually learned too.

1. When they interrupt you, stop talking. Don’t try to raise your voice or battle them. Be completely quiet and wait.

2. Ignore everything they’re saying. Do not actually listen - just wait until they shut up. Don’t make a point of anything they say, do not answer to anything they say, do not refer to anything they say here. Literally do not listen a single word. Let them rant as long as they want.

3. When they finally shut up and wait for your reaction, say: ”I wasn’t done talking.”

4. Start over whatever you were saying when they interrupted you. I don’t care if it was a 10-minute explanation of rocket science. Start. Over. Repeat you original thought, but do not add anything related to what they just said while talking over you. That gives them the idea that it’s okay to interrupt you, you’ll still listen and pay attention and they’ll get their point clear without having to listen to yours. (It’s especially funny when you get done and they expect you to keep going talking about whatever they talked over you. The face when it sinks in that you didn’t listen a single word is glorious.)

5. If they interrupt you again, return to step 1. If you find yourself repeating the cycle over 3 times, tell them: ”you’re not letting me speak. Either you listen and wait for your turn, or our conversation ends here.” If they try to make excuses, laugh it off or keep interrupting, end the conversation. Prove them that if they wont let you speak, they’re not worth your time.

Why does this work? First, because sometimes talking over is internalized and men don’t actually notice they’re doing it. Being vocally called out makes them realize it and pay attention to it - especially if it happens more than once. Secondly, by refusing to aknowledge anything they say when they interrupt you, they’ll soon realize they will not get their own point across if they keep doing that. Peoole and especially men have the need to be heard and paid attention to when they talk - when you make it clear that by talking over you, they will not have your attention, they’ll learn to wait until you’re done, because they know that’s when you will be paying attention and actually listening.

Go my darlings. Have some actual conversations where your point of view is just as valid as his. Demand the basic respect of being heard. You can actually have some interesting conversations with men when they’re forced to listen too, when being louder is not going to make them feel like they’re dominating the conversation or winning the argument.

[astr0libra]

air element

(libra, gemini, aquarius)

[aidashakur]

i get prettier every time a man disappoints me

[musingisms]

“Always be fuckable. Even if you are standing in line for a Baguette”

— How To Be Parisian, Caroline de Maigret. (via chic-a-gogo)

[spoiledandclassy-deactivated202]

Whale Daddy Turned Salty During Trip: My Experience

It finally happened, I met a generous whale or so I thought. I've been debating if I should share experiences like this here or I should just stick to advice & inspiration in the bowl but I want to share my experience on why you should always stay alert even if a man seems generous at first.

How We Met

I was at an upscale hotel bar with my girlfriend & he approached us as we were about to leave. He was here on vacation, I gave him my number & left.

First Impressions

He was dressed very casually in shorts, a t-shirt & palms. He wasn't someone I'd notice twice. The next two times I saw him, he was very generous with cash & expenses so I thought I'd hit jackpot & he seemed like a nice person. He asked me to travel to see him in a different city a few days later & stay for 5 nights & 4 days & I agreed.

Red Flags

At first everything was going well until the 3rdth day. Here are some of the things I noticed.

He was always asking personal questions like who details about who took my virginity & my exes.

He got angry & sulky whenever other guys were admiring me or calling me on the phone.

He started looking for fault in everything I did & wore. He said he wanted to see how I was like when I get mad.

He didn't want me to explore the city on my own or attend at least one networking event I wanted to take advantage of. He went everywhere I went.

He started complaining about money whenever I brought up anything even minor meanwhile he was wasting thousands on expensive hotel transportation alone.

He stopped having sex after the 2nd day after I said I don't like cuddling when I want to sleep because I need my space.

He said he was taking me shopping for some things I could take back home but backed out in denial when it was time to pay.

He kept on bragging that no man had ever taken me on a trip before, bought me something like a phone or had given me that experience before. He was constantly mentioning all the things he had done for me.

On the last day he wanted me to show my gratitude for the phone with sex & I refused so his mood immediately got worse & he didn't follow me to the airport.

The Good, Bad & The Ugly

I expect you to take care of my transportation, accommodation & feeding when you invite me to travel with you so those are standard. The best thing he did during the trip was getting me a new phone on day 3. He didn't give me any money to take home with me except the transportation from the airport.

Lessons learned

A generous sugar daddy can turn to a salt daddy. Never depend on any man, keep your options open.

Make sure you mention that expenses aside, you're getting paid for that trip.

Don't travel without emergency money. Anything can happen, you need to have an exit strategy.

Never tell any man about other guys in your life even if he seems cool with it. He will use it against you in subtle ways aimed at causing pain.

Know when to call it a day with finessing a guy. Ho & sugaring tactics can only go so far. Get what you can & move on.

Don't get familiar with any man & don't let down your guard just because you're on vacation or supposed to be having a good time.

Summary

Never let your guard down by thinking he might be different & make sure you get all you can before moving on to the next ladies. Wish y'all the best!

[germansugarbaby]

The Hot and Cold Method

- Using a hot and cold method is the best way to show confusion and desire inside a person's heart.

- It also creates weakness in him that will shift the power to you. It makes him feel weak around you.

- The most addictive relationships you’ve ever had, those you remember the most were the ones that had high ‘highs,’ and low ‘lows’.

- The higher the ‘highs’ and the lower the ‘lows,’ the more addictive

- It's not the ones that we love and feel tender emotions for, but the ones that cause us the most pain and while instantaneously causing us the most pleasure

🔥Hot Part:

- Hot is giving any form of attention. The hotness is what alleviates any fears or confusion.

- It shows validation, showing that you actually like the person

- He needs something to refer to when he feels down. He needs to remember good warm memories filled with intense emotions.

🔥When to use Hot:

- whenever he’s doing the right thing (acts like a gentleman, is generous etc)

- warmth is what reinforces whatever behavior you want him to enact.

- That warmth will make someone feel like, “Ooh I like this. I’m going to keep doing this!”

🔥How to use Hot:

- When he texts you, you text him back fast. You send him good morning texts. You tell him about your day.

- When you’re with him you make strong eye contact, you rub his head and make him feel good.

- Even though he may be skinny, touch his muscles like “Oh baby, damn! look at those muscles! Oh my God, you’re so hot.” Don’t worry about sounding fake. When someone finishes working out they know they look bigger.

- Sometimes when you reward a guy, what you have to do next is have a period of coldness: Up, down, up, down, up, down.

- In order for him to keep that motivation up, he has to feel like he lost validation, and needs to gain it again; so he starts working out again.

❄️Cold Part

Cold is when you remove attention – in any way or form

❄️When to use cold

- Right after he does something that could be interpreted as wrong

- You don't do it just randomly. If he didn't do anything that could be seen as bad, and you don’t text him, he’s not going to feel any guilt. He’a not going to feel like I did something wrong. He’d just be wondering if you’re being a bitch, or who you’re with.

- Another situation where you can use coldness is when you feel like the guy is getting too comfortable, and not working on himself anymore.

- Don’t use it out of emotion, but rather out of strategy. Remember, the punishment has to fit the crime.

❄️How to use cold

- Act like you're bored in that relationship for a couple of minutes or days .

- act uninterested and selfish. One day be very happy; the next day, don’t be happy.

- Disapear. When you’re not around, his mind will fill in the gaps and fantasize how good it’d feel to alieviate the discomfort of not being around you.

- Let him fall in love wtih you through his imagination. It enhances your perception.

- the longer you are in a relationship, the more subtle the coldness has to be.

- So just do light things; light little bits of punishments, light coldness. And make sure to reward him right after the punishment. Be cold but right after the coldness, show attraction

- For example, rather than not responding to a text (like you would've done earlier), you reduce the amount of ‘LOL’s, and reduce the amount of words that you use in the text. It's subtle, but guys will notice that it's not as happy as you used to text.

- You cannot be so cold to the point where guys start suspecting that you're cheating. You've got to be cold to the point that he might think, ‘Oh shit, this is just me being insecure’

- The best way to use it, is so that when he hears from you a couple hours or so later, you say, “Oh I'm sorry baby, I didn't mean to do that. My phone died.” Now his mind is like, “Oh, I was just acting crazy. That was just me, I guess. Damn, I really like her, I guess.”

- Act as though it was an honest mistake, in order for you to not get caught. You need to have an air of innocence. You need to be seen as though you're weak; as though you're innocent and vulnerable

Other ways you can use the hot and cold is to have contradicting personality traits

- one day you're more critical, and the next day you're more accepting with the person.

- One day you're happy, and the next day you're sad. One day you give your support to him, and the next day you disappear.

- You want to be more unpredictable. It has to come out of nowhere.

- The fences go down when people are unpredictable. He never knows what to expect next.

Source: How to Make Him Chase You Back – The Hot and Cold Formula to Make Any Man Fall by Alex From Mindful Attraction

[lais-noire-deactivated20260601]

thank you universe! I was a little confused about practical coquettish behavior.