Within the past four days I’ve had several encounters with different, I don’t want to say men, because real men wouldn’t of acted this way, so ill say boys, middle aged boys. And what happened is disgusting and wrong. They all thought they were entitled to make comments to me and touch me, I just want to say that I’ve taken care of the incidents so don’t worry, everything’s fine now. But what made me feel sick was that they honestly thought what they were doing was justified because they were men. Calling someone sexy, baby, hunny, etc is all okay if you are in a relation with the said person and that it was harmless, but to say it to a complete stranger (This goes to women who do the same thing to men, and men to men, and girls to girls) is wrong and makes you look horrible. And asking someone to meet you after work in your car also is just plain horrible. Just because you think your stronger, inferior and just better, doesn’t mean that you are any of those things. No means No, Pushing a hand away, means I don’t want it there and to not do it again, it does not mean do it again. If you see that its making the person uncomfortable, then just stop, if you don’t, then that’s harassment. I feel like now these things are almost getting over looked and aren’t addressed as much as they should be, I don’t want to stereotype all males, and women do this as well, but all you here about is the males who hit women, or strange men touching women on the street, and men raping women. This is America we are suppose to have rights and not be terrified to be in a room full of males or afraid to walk out at night, because there’s a possibility we might be attacked. Women take women with them to the bathrooms for these reasons, not usually so we can gossip, its because we have been taught since we were little babies that we are fragile and that bad things happen to pretty little girls when they are alone. I personally have been through the abuse of men and sexual abuse. I know that’ll make a lot of you uncomfortable knowing that and that you’ll cringe and be like she shouldn’t have said that and why? Because its something that should be hidden in embarrassment? Something that you can’t just announce because you wont know what to say? These things shouldn’t be something that people are afraid to talk about, it happens more often than anyone would like to admit, GUYS GET RAPED TOO. Guys also get abused and hurt just like women, but because they are men they are taught that to admit to abuse than you are no longer a man you are a “pussy”. That’s just as wrong a women being told all shes good for is to cook clean and let the men take care of them. Starting today whenever i see something that doesn’t sit well with me that involves any form of harassment i will say something, because i know what its like for you to want someone anyone to say something and make it stop, for years, 6 all the way to 15, i was treated poorly by men, thankfully none of the men who are close to me, all the males in my family are great guys and i’m lucky enough to have such great family, and i always wished for the day that someone would say something and i was set free. I’m not going to apologize for this post, i’m not going to say sorry because it made some of you uncomfortable, or angry or your mad because you think this stuff doesn’t happen, but it does and im only going to say sorry for you for thinking that just because its out of sight its out of mind. The world does not just revolve around just one of us, but us as a whole, we are on this planet together, we have to make this world worth having, we have to help one another. Take this post as you will, but just know that these things are serious, and need to be addressed.
