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this may be a hot take but i think maybe:

"not all men are misogynists, i'm a man and i'm not a misogynist! i'm a good guy, i've never treated a woman like that and i never will! i hate misogynists!!" aka the "please tell me i'm one of the good guys. i am not getting defensive because i am in denial of my own misogynistic behaviors! how dare you excuse me of being a bad person because of my gender! you're sexist!" (DARVO-like reply)

and

"not all men are benefiting from or perpetuating the patriarchal behavior/systems you're talking about. as a trans man, being lumped in with bigotted men solely because of my gender identity ignores my lived experience of systemic and interpersonal patriarchal abuse. this harms me and leaves me vulnerably alone. our experiences may not be the same, but please recognize my pain is just as real & valid as yours." (oppressed person seeking support and connection in regard to the same underlying abuses)

are two totally different things. maybe.

bougiebutchbinch

Just to say: I understand frustrations against your trans siblings in this whole ghastly 'discourse'. But if you make sweeping statements about transfems being transandrophobic, or try to downplay and dismiss transmisogyny to further conversations about transandrophobia, you are playing by the transandrophobes' rulebook. You are being transmisogynistic. We don't fuck with that, here.

baeddel-txt

Repeating TERF talking points word-for-word, only replacing "male" and "TIM" with "transmasc" and "TME" doesn't make you progressive, it makes you a goddamn TERF.

learn-how-to-love

Comparing trans men and mascs talking about our experiences to gamergate and MRA activities is a baffling attempt at silencing these conversations for many reasons, not least of which being that actually, trans men and mascs were squarely within the targets of these groups’ bigotry. It’s a take so divorced from reality and obviously so to anyone who was around at the time and affected by it that it raises questions into how the people making the argument behaved during that time as to have such a skewed perception of what it was actually about.

therapatical

imagine how much progress we'd have if the trans community weren't so hell bent on this game of crabs-in-a-bucket they've been playing for the past several decades

that-grassbro

"You should tell random cis men in a community known for being traditionally misogynistic and conservative that you're trans in order to get your healthcare."

would be rightfully thought of as incredibly transphobia and transmisogyny if it were advice given to trans women.

hibi-flower

your feminism needs to include trans men because their existence is rooted in women's rights to self expression. btw

donniehaspronouns

hey young queers. I need you to hear me when I say part of growing up is learning to not care. part of growing up as a queer person is learning to abandon online discourse in favor of a “who cares, welcome to the club” kind of attitude. I promise you, you will feel so much less stress when you stop the infighting over slur discourse and identities you think don’t make sense. adopt a “I may not understand but it has no impact on me” mentality I promise it will be so much better for your mental health.