“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new lands but in seeing with new eyes.” - Marcel Proust.
Marcel Proust beautifully worded precisely how each of these assignments challenged me to see things through different lenses. Other than looking at things from my perspective, I had to consider other systems’ points of view. Here are my five most impactful assignments this semester that changed and informed me.
1. Assumption reflection:
With this assignment I had to identify two assumptions that are in my system that has impacted the ways that I interact with other family systems. My two assumptions were, you are who you hang out with, and not everyone is equipped to be a parent. Other than explaining why I had those assumptions, this challenged me to think of how my assumptions surfaced in my system thoughts and system language. According to Bronfenbrenner (1976), he states, “Children, parents and teachers have a place with macro system by determining how such person are treated” (p. 5).
This made me analyze how I treat other people through my interactions and the outcomes I get from those interactions due to my guarded/culturally biased assumptions. This made me think about my family system influencing and embedding this belief, how this system shows up in my relationship with my community/friends. As an aspiring teacher, this assumption could get in the way of building genuine connections with families, so I need to check my assumptions and be aware if I am biased.
2. Re-Storying Family Comic:
Allen (2007) states, “Dialogue, according to Freire, is very different from conversation. In genuine dialogue, people come to understand another person’s perspective” (p. 68). I created a story that situates my family through the lenses that others have shared in ways I do not value. My parents are immigrants who made many sacrifices for my siblings and me, and in that sacrifice, they spent most of their days working. I touched on the concept of my immigrant parents overworking and being tired. Outsiders judged my parents for not knowing how to speak English and overworked them with mandated overtime, which didn’t give them the luxury of having a work and life balance. I reframed my story by acknowledging and respecting my parents ’ hard work and sacrifice. They came to the United States to give us the opportunities we wouldn’t have gotten in the Dominican Republic. This assignment made me look at my family and school systems because I’m confident I will have multilingual/bilingual students in my classroom who could relate to what I experienced.
3. Family and community treasure set:
This very interesting activity challenged me to think about something meaningful to my family and me. It felt good sharing what my treasure was and hearing other classmates share theirs too. I learned more about my family and friends’ systems and how they move through them. In the future, I hope this helps me know more about my student’s culture and backgrounds when I also use the treasure set activity in the classroom. This activity also challenged me to reach out to other people and to pick a meaningful treasure. Everyone had a different treasure which helped me learn that we all have different values, whether it is physical or nonphysical. Overall, this assignment made me consider Keyes (2002) mentioning the importance of the parents and teacher relationship and emphasizes that teachers are the glue that holds home and school partnerships. (p. 3). This activity would be perfect for connecting a home treasure in the school system in hopes of others learning about each other’s cultural differences.
With this activity, it was interesting seeing the response I got from asking people to describe to me two different days of the week and list some of the activities they do on those days. Some people were more detailed, and others were not very descriptive. This made me look at other ways I could have revised this assignment by asking other systems to be very detailed, explaining what they cook for dinner, and telling me what type of music they listen to on their way to work? Stefaniak (2019) emphasizes that “Maintaining two interconnected sets and relationships, internal relationships, and external relationships are necessary for survival” (p. 2). The parent who participated in this assignment made me think about how other parents might relate to her situation, working full time for survival and being a single mother. In the future, when I plan a family activity, I’ll have to make sure that it is culturally responsive while considering the factors the child’s family system is facing.
5. Breaking down barriers:
This assignment was very out of my comfort zone but challenged me to advocate a barrier in my system. The barrier I chose to share was anxiety. What I enjoyed most about this assignment was setting action goals for myself to prepare me in the future for any unfortunate event that might lead me to feel anxious. I thought about ways children might feel anxiety, such as test-taking and the first days of school. Or parents are feeling anxious about teachers not being culturally responsive to how they discipline their children or the tone we use when communicating with other family members. Allen (2007) mentions that “Spoken words, body language, written communication-- our words speak volumes about who we are and who we see others as being” (p. 96). This assignment challenged my way of thinking by analyzing my communication skills and improving them.
Overall, we habitually make assumptions about other people and need to be conscious of how we communicate with others in various ways. As an aspiring teacher, I need to consider building bonds with family members. By doing so, I need to make sure I am being culturally responsive, open-minded, and less biased with my assumptions.
Allen, J. B. (2007). Creating welcoming schools: A practical guide to home-school partnerships with diverse families. Teachers College Press
Bronfenbrenner, U. (1976). The experimental ecology of Education. Educational Researcher, 5(9), 5. https://doi.org/10.2307/1174755
Keyes, C. R. (2002). A way of thinking about parent/teacher partnerships for Teachers Le Partenariat parent/enseignant: Un autre point de vue una forma de reflexionar sobre la asociacio ́n padre/maestro para maestros. International Journal of EarlyYears Education, 10(3), 177–191.https://doi.org/10.1080/0966976022000044726
Stefaniak, J. (2019). The utility of design thinking to promote systemic instructional design practices in the Workplace. TechTrends, 64(2), 202–210. https://doi.org/10.1007/s11528-019-00453-8