First of all, I never said ONE THING about lesbians. I am not a lesbian, so I thought best not to even address this topic. Especially because I am, in fact, aware that lesbian loneliness exists.
Okay, so lemme tell you one thing: I am a het (possibly bi) woman and I am lonely and I believe that having a partner would make me less lonely. I have also been single all my life, so I can pretty much tell you that all those "wonderful connections with other women" are simply not popping around for every one of us.
I do (or, rather, did, before I moved) have connections with friends and family. And guess what? They are not enough. As I said in a previous post, humans are social creatures and mostly (asexuals aside) looking for another person to mate with. You can't mate with your friends and family. As you age, other people around you tend to partner up as well and make their own families their priority, instead of friends - let alone making new ones. Or most of them already have closs friends, and the energy and time invested in making a new friendship is simply not required to keep an old one. As for family, you can move away from family, and then what? All of a sudden you have absutely no ties to anyone. And then being the Forever Single Friend gets old really, really fucking fast. Not because a romantic relationship makes up for all those lost ties (regarding the isolating aspect of your post), but because all of a sudden you have no other connections to mask the fact that you are alone (romantically speaking) and have always been.
I speak from personal experience on all of this. And since this planet has some 6 billion people, half of them women who are in their majority heterosexual, I highly doubt I am the only one feeling like this. Thus, I would like you not to dismiss my experience, thank you.
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