So I'm binge watching The Real Daytime because I love these ladies and I just watched the video where they talked about Ciara's video concerning being a wife to a man.
The man in the video talks about how straight women with boyfriends who are interested in marriage but have the "character" is not that of a wife.
I feel so bad for straight women (I mean I'm almost straight myself and have always been in het relationships) because there is so much misogynistic standards men expect women to "meet" before marrying them. I'm guessing those standards include clothing and basically being a slave to the man and there are zero videos of men having to meet some standards if they want to be a husband.
It reminds me of being in that "Salafi" cult where every single sermon was directed at women meeting some impossible standards for men. Now, men who speak like that/agree with that, I'm going to ask you, who exactly do you think you are? What qualities do you have that make you so excellent and brilliant that straight women need to better themselves for you? Who are you? You're a man, so that automatically entitles you to marry a woman who meets all your impossible standards? You need to improve yourselves for women, considering how much news there is of how men treat women, you MEN need to learn about socialisation, misogyny and so much more!
Honestly the patriarchy is so disgusting and I can't believe that women watch this video and think "Yes! I need to improve myself for a musty disgusting entitled man-child whom I have to do anything for!"
I guess I can believe it because I thought the exact same way.
Straight women, please do not let any man tell you that you need to "improve" yourself in order to be with him. If a man doesn't treat you the way a woman would in a relationship, or if a man doesn't treat you in the human way you treat him, he's the one who needs to improve himself. In fact, if any man tells you that you need to improve yourself for him because you're not "wife" material, spit right in his face and dump him
