This week we had Valentine’s Day. A day where you express how much you love and appreciate the people in your life. A day full of emotionally charged conversation.
A day where I have never been so grateful for digitally mediated interaction…
A couple of days before the looming event, my boyfriend asked me “What do you want to do for Valentine’s day?” This seemingly innocent question elicited a variety of responses from “ahhh cringe, let’s not do anything” to “dinner and a film could be cute.” He conveniently posed the question via text, so I had time to construct an answer “Could we go to lunch at Yolk :) <3?” I could appear relaxed and excited about the situation, in comparison to the inner freak-out session that actually happened. Text is a fabulous emotional buffer.
In the text, I sent the ‘<3’ and ‘:)’ emoticons to indicate the positive tone of the message. I could have responded with a phone call, which would have plainly conveyed my excitement but this way, I avoided anyone overhearing my awkward conversation. In other words, I lowered the transaction cost. Why should I reveal my social ineptness when I don’t have to? Text makes it possible to have a synchronous conversation, without the pain. An affordance I abuse regularly.
How you express yourself can make a tremendous difference to how others perceive you. Valentine’s day is daunting, as you are under a lot of pressure to perform. Luckily, we have digitally mediated interaction to help. You can be discreet, and present yourself as a competent human being, through less rich media.
Please feel free to share stories where you have been saved by digitally mediated interaction.
I think talking on messenger can also save you in arguments. I'm not a confrontational person at all and arguments freak me out! However, when arguing with a friend and I'm actually getting really annoyed but can't be bothered to argue, I can type out a reasonable nice response to solve a situation. Whereas in reality I'm absolutely fuming and have just rang my Mum to tell her all about it. Very passive aggressive, I know, but also avoiding pointless arguments! Have you ever been in this situation?











