Some people might think I’m an optimist but I’m not. I’m a realist that’s going to try to increase the good things in this world if it kills me.
I want to severely push back on the idea that cynicism is any more realistic than optimism. There are good things in the world and there are bad things in the world. Totally ignoring one or the other doesn’t make you more correct.
You also have the power in your individual life to crowbar the long arc of the universe towards justice. Don’t just expect that things will be bad or good. Start yanking. Beat the darkness back with a stick, dammit.
I hope you don't mind me jumping in here, but I wanted to add that this outlook is very much backed up by the peer reviewed research.
Jamil Zaki is one of the biggest researchers in this area. He describes both pessimism and blind optimism as flawed viewpoints that demonstrably obscure how we see the world.
Research shows that even though our society tends to view a cynical viewpoint as smarter or even more moral, cynical people are worse at problem solving and cognitive tasks, worse at telling whether someone is lying, have measurably worse physical and mental well being, and are less likely to vote, protest, volunteer or otherwise take steps to make the world better.
Instead Jamil Zaki advocates for "hopeful skepticism".
Skeptical in the sense that you evaluate people and events from a neutral place based on evidence and personal experience, not on fitting them into an assumed narrative of "people always bad, things will always inevitably get worse" or "people always good, things will always inevitably get better".
Hopeful in the sense of knowing it is possible to make things better than they are now, curious to see possible paths to a better world, and understanding that we all have agency to move the needle in a better direction.
Social media and mainstream news do not provide a hopeful skeptic perspective--they are almost always a barrage of pessimism. This is on top of the already formidable human negativity bias. Most of us have to go looking for sources of positive news and intentionally shift our focus to see the good in other people to balance out the negativity.
If anyone is curious to learn more about this, episodes S9E11-S9E14 of The Happiness Lab podcast are free and do a really good job of covering this research. Jamil Zaki also has a whole book about it called Hope for Cynics: The Surprising Science of Human Goodness.
























