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First time dom/mummy/daddy guide

If you’re not a natural dom, mummy, or daddy you’ve likely been introduced to DD by your partner’s diaper interest. You’re probably worried about the impact of DD on your relationship if you’ll ever grow to enjoy it (it might even be a complete turn-off) and feel out of your depth in how to engage with DD. If this sounds right please read on.

First please don’t feel like you’re alone in this, we’d say that about half of all now active DD dom partners started by being introduced to DD by their partner and grew into their position slowly.

The key thing you need to decide on is if you’re fully committed to your partner. Getting into DD can be hard at first and will require work. If you’re not confident in your relationship this might prove to be too much. If however you really do want to try to make it work, it’s very much possible to go from someone uninterested in DD to actively enjoying playing your part in it. The benefits section of this website goes into more details but you can expect to build an extremely strong relationship once DD is introduced.

If they’re ABDL you need to remember their interest in diapers is not going to go away. They probably feel a lot of shame about it (completely unwarranted as there is nothing bad about ABDL) and DD will provide you a framework to include it positivity into your relationship. It will help them accept who they are, improve their lives, and provide them with fulfillment without shame. Doing this for a partner is an incredible gift and definitely something you can use to your advantage to ask for other changes to improve your life together (more chores, your own kinks, more relationship commitment, etc).

For yourself taking it slowly, but with a commitment to building up your involvement is the path we’d recommend and have seen work time and again. Because of this, you’ll probably not want to start your partner on the stricter levels of DD but we recommend starting at about regular DD level.

It’s likely your partner wants DD so initially, your only involvement can be to enforce their wearing and hold them to account. Decide what days they will be wearing and then make sure they are, if they’re not tell them they need to go put one on. Don’t discuss it, just tell them, your authority will be enough. This is an area some people struggle with as they think “how can I  force them to wear and use diapers” but remember they want or have agreed to wear and just need that push when sometimes it feels inconvenient or they feel ashamed.

Once you’re enforcing their wearing and use of diapers, try to get more involved in checking and changing. First, start with easy diaper changes such as a morning/evening one after a shower which is just putting them in a new fresh diaper. Then move up to doing some wet diaper changes. Our biggest advice here is to take your time, be loving and make sure to wipe thoroughly.

Checking diapers can feel like a big responsibility so ask them to come to you when they think they need a change. You don’t need to do the change yourself but this does two things; first, it increases their dependence on you, and second, you get to learn about the signs of a diaper wet enough to warrant a change. Unlike baby diapers which you may have experience with, high-quality adult diapers can and should be worn until significantly used so you’ll want to see that diaper sagging and wet across a large area.

Try to normalize their diaper wearing in your conversations and interactions. Tease them about needing diapers when you see they’re wet, call them your baby boy/girl, and touch their diaper when hugging them. You and they should be aware they're in diapers and have to use them, try not to hide it from yourself. Around the house have them wear clothing that doesn’t hide their diapered state; onesies, pj’s, or just a t-shirt are great for this. 

You should also take a more active role in buying their diapers, and make them shop for them with you online. Pick out some of your favorite designs for them or get them to buy other elements such as an adult baby bottle and pacifier.

You’re now enforcing diaper wearing, doing some checks and changes, and acknowledging it as part of your life together which is a great start! It’s now time to get used to another key part of DD which is messing. Messy changes are something you’ll probably want to avoid for a while and although we don’t encourage it, it can be something you always make your partner take care of. 

But you do need to get used to your partner in a messy diaper and get over any disgusted feelings you might have from this. For partners new to DD we highly recommend you start your partner on internal deodorant tablets as this will massively reduce the smell and make it much easier for you (and them). Then comes crossing the mental block you might have, to which the cure normally is just a matter of exposure and getting used to it. Some good ways to do this are:

make your partner mess their diaper in the morning (either naturally or forced with a suppository) and don’t let them change for at least an hour. In this time cuddle or spoon them as normal or watch a show in bed, anything normal really.

check their messy diapers by patting the back of it, and get used to the idea that they need to use their diapers for everything.

don’t allow them to change out of messy diapers straight away, maybe start a rule that they must stay in it for at least 1 or 2 hours before you’ll permit a change. This will help you and them get used to it and don’t worry about rashes as long as you’re using powder and rash prevention cream.

tease them about their messy diapers and try to find the humor in a fully grown adult pooing themselves.

Soon the idea of them messing themselves and being around you while in a messy diaper will move from disgusting to normal. A good majority actually end up enjoying seeing their partner like this.

The other key part of DD is that it extends beyond your house, they should be wearing and using diapers in public. The biggest worry you’ll both have is being discovered but this is extremely unlikely. Most long-term DD couples in diapers 24/7 have managed to avoid even friends/family realizing one of them is in diapers, so a member of the public detecting it is near zero. Even if they do, they’ll assume it’s medical and no questions will be asked. In the exceptionally rare event, someone did mention it just say it’s a short-term medical problem and leave it at that.

In public wearing a plain onesie is recommended as this prevents the diaper from ever being exposed and gives confidence to your partner wearing diapers. Then like messing you both just need to get used to it. Make sure some wearing days you spend the majority of the time out of the house, do day trips, and eat out as normal. Initially, it’s fine for the diaper to just be used for wetting as most people can hold a bm until they get home anyway.

Make sure you subtly mention their diapers while out in public. Discrete questions can include “Will you need to change when we get home”, “how full are you”, “how’s my baby holding up”, etc. An occasional bum squeeze or tap won't raise any eyebrows but will remind the both of you they’re diapered.

At this stage, you might be a few months in DD but you should now be forcing them to wear and use diapers, checking and changing them more often, and used to being with them in messy diapers and in public.

This might be enough but you should try to take a few more steps to become more involved in DD and hopefully also enjoy it more. Try to discover the areas you enjoy, maybe you like teasing them, or how dotting they become when wearing or needing a change, or the new control you have.

Start adding some more DD elements:

Get involved in picking out their clothes and dress them in ABDL style onesies etc

Give them their evening drink in a baby bottle. Cuddling while you hold a bottle for them can be a very intimate and loving experience.

On days where you’re both not working (e.g. a Saturday) don’t let them ask for a diaper change and instead check and change them yourself.

Try a 24/7 week where the toilet is completely out of bounds. Alternatively have a 24/7 diapered vacation.

Baby them more, hold their hand when crossing roads, sweat talk to them, and ask embarrassing questions at home if they’ve used their diaper, etc

Use punishments more regularly and push both of your comfort zones.

You’ll now have an extremely happy partner and hopefully, you’ll be enjoying many aspects of DD if not all of it. Time will make this better and be assured by the fact that many people have been in your shoes and come out the other side advocates for DD.

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Helping your partner go 24/7

We’ve talked quite extensively about the benefits in having your partner wear diapers 24/7 (or as close as possible) for their mental health and your relationship.

But getting to 24/7 or having diapers as their default underwear isn’t super easy especially in the first few weeks. Many people reading this will have tried 24/7 and managed a week or two before it fell apart or watched their partner say they want to try 24/7, start and then silently let it slip away a week or so in.

This is where you as a partner to a diaper wearer can make a critical difference and ensure it’s a success in the long term.

But first some hard truths about 24/7:

- It would sometimes be a lot easier for them to not wear a diaper

- It add extra planning and inconveniences to trips out of the house

- Sometimes things can get smelly or embarrassing

- Throwing on underwear would be quicker when they’re in a rush

- They will sometimes not want to wear a diaper or feel shame/regrets about the whole 24/7 idea

So how can you help?

Internalize the idea that they NEED to wear diapers and this is a PERMANENT thing.

If you’re hoping this is just a phase and don’t really want them to succeed in going 24/7 it most likely won’t but your relationship will likely suffer as a consequence.

Also try reset your expectation of them to being that they wear diapers all the time and they need them to avoid accidents.

Provide consistent encouragement, especially in the first month

It’s extremely likely they will be feeling worried & anxious about how you are finding them being 24/7 and will be plagued by all the fears they’d had growing up about having these desires.

Being silently ok with it isn’t enough and they’ll probably just assume you’re hating it & them. So make sure to provide encouragement to them for wearing and using their diapers.

There are several areas of encouragement to provide:

1. Acknowledge their diapers as being normal.
Tell them you’ve laid out a fresh diaper for them in the morning, ask if they’ve packed a diaper bag before leaving the house, ask if they need to order more diapers or if you should pick up more baby powder when shopping.


2. Provide praise for wearing diapers.
Tell them that diaper looks cute on them and that you’re glad they’re now wearing all the time. Check they’re wearing a diaper when they get into bed or when you leave the house and say something like good boy/girl for wearing it. If you see a public restroom or have to go yourself mention that they’re lucky they’re wearing their toilet (this makes my baby blush)


3. Provide praise for them using their diapers.
Talk about the state of their diaper in a positive way for example saying “I’m glad to see this diaper held all of your pee ok” or “remember you should just let go straight away now you’re in diapers”.

Messy diapers will likely cause them the most anxiety so be extra aware in those situations and don’t just ignore it. If you detect a messy diaper acknowledge it with something like “Is that a messy diaper I can smell” or “I think someone might need a change” it can be slightly embarrassing but just saying something shows that you’re not surprised or annoyed they’ve messed.

If you haven’t noticed a messy diaper in a day or two, ask them if they’ve need some help to use their diaper and tell them explicitly that you expect them to use it for everything. Administering a suppository to help force the issue can also be a great way to show you’re serious.


4. Assure them it is discreet.
A fear when wearing diapers 24/7 is other people noticing as often they’ll be wearing in public more than before. Provide simple assurances that their diapers are discreet and that even you struggle to tell.

Even an obvious diaper bulge to you would go unnoticed by the vast majority of people so a small white lie to give them confidence will help a lot even if you can just see the outline of it. Interestingly the more confident they are the less likely others will notice as they wont be touching their bum etc out of fear it might be noticeable.


5. Make it clear this is permanent 
Them wearing diapers 24/7 is now the new normal and you should make sure they know you’ve accepted and expect that.
Talk about diapered plans far into the future, for example if you have a vacation coming up in a few months mention that you’ll need to make sure to order enough to last or discuss if shipping diapers to the hotel is the best option.

Start discussions with confirmation of this reality, e.g. “Now that you’re going to be in diapers for the rest of your life…
…maybe we should convert the guest room into a changing area”
…lets look into laser hair removal for your groin”
…we should order diapers in bulk”
…I’m going to throw away your old underwear”

Tell them things like “It’s funny to think you’ll never use the toilet in the house again” or “I’ve got used to the fact you’re now always going to be in a diaper”, or “I wonder how long it will be before you lose control at night and in the daytime”

You’ll like notice a positive improvement so assure them you’re happy they’re now 24/7:
“Things have been better now your always in diapers so I’m glad this is permanent”
“I can’t imagine you without diapers now “
“I’m keeping you in diapers from now on, I hope you know that”

Be prepared to “force” them to wear

I can almost guarantee that one day you’ll see them putting on underwear instead of a diaper or realize they’re not diapered when they should be.

Do not be silent. Tell them in no uncertain terms that they need to be wearing a diaper and to get changed immediately, ideally take them and diaper them yourself.

Equally something might come up where they ask if they can not wear a diaper. Maybe you’re going out for the day or some other activity where diaper wearing will be more inconvenient. Push back heavily on this unless it was a pre-agreed exception and tell them no, they must be wearing a diaper.

The other high risk time is post orgasm especially in male partners. The low following this is prime for feelings of shame and regret, so even if they don’t say anything make sure to put them straight back into a diaper and provide positive encouragement about their diaper wearing.

Be prepared for challenges

While you’re both getting used to the new reality of 24/7 it’s very likely some things might go wrong.

Their diaper will probably leak at some point onto clothes or furniture, try laugh these off and learn from them.

Their messy diaper might cause you to react instinctively in a way they perceive as disgust and cause them to feel ashamed. Counter this quickly by apologising and assuring them you do want them to use their diaper for everything.

They might forget to bring a spare diaper with them on a day trip and need to change. Ideally you should approach a problem like this with the mindset that they need diapers so just changing out of it isn’t an option. Go into a drugstore with them and buy some more diapers to wear as a temporary measure, the embarrassment of this will likely help you both make sure a diaper bag is always with you.

Normalize diaper wearing in your house

Now they’re diapered 24/7 and the expectation is they need diapers and use them, it shouldn’t feel hidden or secret.

A dedicated changing area should be setup with lots of diapers and changing supplies on display. Invest in a diaper pail / genie to make disposal easier. Hang up their ABDL clothes in this room. Empty their underwear draw and replace with diapers.

A spare bedroom can often be converted for this purpose. Design it in a way so the room can be locked or items easily hidden if you have guests.

Buy a diaper bag and have it packed and ready to use for any trips out. This can be a real diaper bag but for more discretion a small backpack can be used, ideally buy one that’s more juvenile than a plain black one.

Add a mattress protector to your bed to protect against inevitable leaks.

Convert their wardrobe to suit their diapered status

Early on after making the switch hold a fashion show where they try on their clothes while wearing a thick or wet diaper. Anything that doesn’t hide their diaper well put to one side to go to goodwill.

Next go shopping while they’re thickly diapered to find new clothes which work well. General rules are darker & loose fitting bottoms hide diapers well and dresses and skirts are great for women. Overalls can be super cute and combined with onesies for discrete abdl wear. Longer tops can help hide the extra padding around their bum.

It also might be worth expanding your ABDL clothing for use at home so they have a full wardrobe of options to wear daily.

Get involved

The best way to show your support is to get as involved as possible in their diaper wearing.

Ideally try take control of their checks and changes when you’re around. If you’re uncomfortable with messy changes that’s ok (but honestly they can be the most intimate and positive events if you’re willing to try).

Pick out diapers for them to wear if say you’re not around to change them into a fresh diaper in the morning. Browse and buy new diapers for them. When shopping add diaper/baby supplies without comment such as powder, rash cream or more ABDL items like a kids no spill cup or a cute teddy.

(Side note of one of the things I did which made my partner incredibly happy was coming home from a normal grocery shop with a toddler plate and cutlery set and telling him I thought they would be cute for him. Later he told me this made him feel so accepted and loved 🥰)

Pack a diaper bag for day trips or help him pack enough diapers and supplies for a vacation. Try make this as matter of fact as possible, “Do you think these diapers will be the best for daytime”, “Have you packed your swim diaper”, etc.

Be involved in dressing them with a view to not hiding their diapered state at home. At night especially they should always be in ABDL attire which makes it obvious they’re diapered and in the daytime where possible too.

I do believe that most 24/7 diaper wearing should be combined with ABDL activities as well. At a minimum use ABDL diapers and clothing with pacifiers and bottles used where possible. But definitely experiment with things like crawling, bibs at meals, holding a bottle for them and feeding them. Baby talk can also be a lot of fun to tease them with.

Other related articles you should read:

The best how to guides for implementing diaper discipline into your relationship. ABDL / MDLB / DDLG. 18+ ONLY. NSFW. https://dd-guide.webfl

Alongside making my baby wear diapers 24/7 the other big step we took which proved to be highly beneficial was me taking control of all his

A very common theme we’re hearing from partners on both sides of the relationship is the challenge of going 24/7 or even just trying to make

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Making the decision for them

The biggest mental health issue we see when speaking with ABDL’s and littles is the shame/desire cycle with regard to wearing & using diapers. This is especially pronounced when they believe they’d be happier if in diapers all the time but have struggled to make it work.

Feelings of shame often are the catalyst which temporarily kills ABDL desires only for them to return stronger than ever a few hours or days later. This leaves your partner feeling both guilty about not committing to what they know would be good for them and guilty for having the desire to start with.

The good news is them having a supportive partner is the biggest advantage possible and you as their partner have the ability to transform their lives for the better.

Ask yourself if the following are true:

- They seem to be happier and/or less stressed & anxious when diapered

- They’re wearing diapers several times a week and often for multi-day periods

- They’re comfortable using them for #1 & #2

- They’ve worn in different public situations

- They’ve mentioned a desire to be 24/7 before

- They may have even tried 24/7 for a period before.

- You are comfortable with them wearing and using diapers

- You are willing to make some changes to your life if it makes them happier

- You are willing to be involved in their diaper wearing

- You can afford $200+ a month for their diaper supplies

If you answered yes to them all, using diaper discipline to “force” them into the situation they actually want can be extremely beneficial.

We have talked about many ways to use diaper discipline and although this may feel like one of the more extreme options it has proven to be very effective for couples we’ve spoken to and to us directly.

So what are we suggesting? Well in short, you return your partner to diapers full time and stop this negative cycle for good. Think of this more as an intervention than a discussion.

Yes this will be hard at first and there will be times they resist but I guarantee if you stick to it the positive results will speak for themselves.

For this approach I don’t recommend any half measures as this leads to gaps which can cause you and them to waiver and lead to the collapse of the benefits.

So if you’re willing and ready to take on some challenges to help your partner what should you do?

First decide a date from which this will start.

This should be 1-2 weeks away to give you time to prepare and the absolute ideal would be if they’re away for a day or two immediately prior to this date.

Second is to get yourself fully comfortable with the rules you’ll be setting out for them.

These are:

1. They will be diapered 24/7

2. The only exception to this is at work and with friends and family where they can wear pull ups but otherwise they’ll be in high absorbency medical or ABDL diapers.

3. When in diapers the toilet will be fully out of bounds, including at home, in public and on vacation.

4. They should now be treated as having bladder and bowel incontinence.

5. This isn’t a short term change and will likely be permanent.

Also decide on these three rules which we highly recommend but are optional:

- At home all checks and changes will be carried out by me.

- All diapers must be worn until full or have been messy for over an hour.

- At home diapers aren’t to be hidden and should be either be fully exposed or obvious through ABDL clothing.

Third, prepare for the change:

- Make sure you have a good stock of diapers for them.

- I’d recommend having around 200 in stock with a mix of high quality but thinner medical diapers (e.g. Tena Slip Ultima), thick medical diapers (e.g. Megamax) and ABDL themed diapers.

- Gather diaper changing essentials including adult sized wipes, powder, barrier cream, disposable gloves & disposable changing mats (bedwetting mats are perfect)

- To help things along get a stock of suppositories, mini-enemas, laxative tablets, fibre supplements and I’d also recommend devrom to be used to reduce smells.

- Buy some ABDL clothing essentials if they don’t already have them:

- A couple plain onesies to be used in public

- A couple of ABDL onesies for at home and nighttime

- A few ABDL outfits for use at home for example a romper, play dress & baby style tshirts

- Create a dedicated diaper changing room for them including at a minimum:

- A changing table. Ideally this would be built but a dedicated bed with a changing mat can work ok as well.

- A diaper pail (try buy a big one as otherwise you’ll be emptying it daily)

- Shelving / storage for their diapers and other supplies where they’re not hidden.

- A good air freshener or air purifier

- Having a full day or two to prepare can be extremely helpful if you can time it to be around them being out of the house

- This is optional but some light restraints can be fun and a big help, primarily:

- Wrist and ankle restraints on the changing table

- A locking diaper cover

- Padded mittens

- Straightjacketshop is our favorite for these

The big day

This day is going to change both of your lives for the better. Make sure you have everything ready for when they come home. In preparation also do the final step to commit to this and throw away all of their underwear.

Upon arriving home tell them you have a surprise for them leading them up to the diaper changing area. Help them strip down and importantly dispose of their underwear into the diaper pail before getting the to lie down on the changing table. Attaching the wrist restraints are a good idea at this stage if you’ve opted for them.

It’s likely they will actually be excited at this point with this development so don’t expect much resistance.

Diaper them into a thick ABDL diaper before telling them what you’ve decided. It’s best to give the background to your decision and focus on how you think this will be best for them and how you know deep down this is what they want.

Next, run through the rules slowly and a standout moment for me was reinforcing these to him by saying that this meant he’d be never using the toilet in our house again. This will be a lot to take in, and expect them try negotiate some changes to the rules but you should stay firm on all the major points.

Once they’ve calmed down from the excitement and nervousness of it all, dress them in ABDL clothes and try have the best possible evening. Cook their favorite meal, watch their favorite film, etc and keep them relaxed.

Likely more questions and worries will come up but you can normally handle these easily.

The question you will certainly get is “How long will this last for” and it’s important for both of you to accept that this isn’t a game or short term experiment but a permanent change. It’s very important you highlight this but you can provide a review period after a significant period of time.

I would recommend having a review after 6 months and decide if it should continue. 6 months is a good time period as it’s long enough to get through the initial challenges and far enough away to prevent them/you just waiting it out while not accepting the new reality.

First week

The first week is going to be a big adjustment as they realize you’re serious and you both get used to this new world.

As part of proving this isn’t a temporary thing get them to try on all their clothes while thickly diapered and get rid of all which no longer fit well. Follow this up with a shopping trip to replenish their wardrobe with clothing for public wear.

Make sure their diaper area is completely hair free, we find hair removal cream works wonders.

You should also use this week to ensure they know the rules are serious. I’d recommend using a suppository or laxative twice to ensure they fill their diaper and try make one of these be while around you.

Provide huge amounts of encouragement and praise all week. And reenforce that this is going to be great for them and you both.

Keep their diaper exposed at home or covered only by ABDL clothing, there should be no opportunity for them to not be wearing their diaper.

Finally try be as involved as possible in diaper checks and changes.

First month

With the first month try and get into the routine as much as possible and tick off different wearing and usage scenarios. Have meals out with them diapered, go on a day trip with a diaper bag packed, etc.

Continue to provide as much encouragement as possible and continue to check and change their diapers at home when you can.

You should also introduce daily fibre supplements for them as these are good for bowel health, can be used long term and although they will increase the volume of their bm’s it actually helps reduce the smell. Reducing red meats and fatty foods also helps keep the smell down.

This is also the perfect time to experiment with different diapers to see which are best for different scenarios. Try extending how long you keep them in the same diaper before changing to get familiar with their capacities. Expect several diaper leaks during this process and never punish them for these. A waterproof cover on your bed is a good idea.

Second month

Now you’re 30 days in you should be both used to the new situation and they should be now accepting this isn’t a short term change.

This month you should encourage them to begin diaper training and form a bedwetting habit. When diapered they shouldn’t be holding so check their diaper 30 minutes after a change and tell them off if it’s not already slightly wet.

Every night make sure they have 1-2 large glasses of water before bed and tell them you expect them to be wet in the morning. This process will take a few months but if you encourage them to relax and let go in bed and add punishments if you wake up in the morning and find them dry.

Finally you want them to become comfortable using their diaper fully even when out of the house. Have a day trip where they’ll be using their diapers a lot

Third month

This is the perfect time to go on a vacation together so if you’re able to, book a 1-2 week vacation. As they’ll not be around friends or family this whole period should be in diapers only from leaving your house to returning. When going through airport security a dry diaper is recommended to avoid setting off the scanners.

A vacation is a great time to get them even more comfortable with their diapers in public as they won’t be worried about meeting people they know. Experiment with them wearing thicker diapers than normal especially if you’re going on a longer day trip.

Also remember you should be treating them as if they’re fully incontinent so this means swim diapers are a must. If you have your own pool then I recommend using an ABDL swim diaper but also take a discreet adult swim diaper option for use in public.

A vacation is also the perfect time for you to take 100% control of their diapering. Even if you’re not doing this at home I’d recommend you doing all their diaper checks and changes for the whole period and make it clear they can’t ask for a change.

Do not make any exceptions for toilet usage and if you have a day where a messy accident would be very inconvenient use a suppository in the morning or some ducolax tablet the evening before to ensure they’re emptied out prior to the day’s activities.

Forth month

They’ll pass 100 days diapered this month so make sure to celebrate and congratulate them on the achievement.

You both might still be a bit shy about messy diapers at this stage and now is the right time to try change that. If you’ve noticed they hide away from you when messy tell them this and that messy diapers are normal and not something you expect to change your activities together.

If you’re not checking and changing all their diapers already at least start a rule that they must ask permission to change. When they ask, conduct a complete diaper check where it’s fully exposed and either pull back the rear waistband or use your hand on the back of the diaper to check for messy accidents. The other key thing is don’t always give permission, for example if it’s just messy and still has capacity tell them that it looks like it can hold more and to come back in an hour.

To help them get used to messing in your presence force the situation:

- Give them a suppository before settling down for a movie and don’t allow them to getup or change until it’s finished.

- Make them take 2 ducolax tablets in the evening which will result in them messing overnight.

- Use a suppository before a drive or trip to go shopping


Finally, they shouldn’t be associating a messy diaper with an instant change. It’s important that the state of their diaper doesn’t influence your activities too much. Once they’ve messed try continue your plans for an hour or two until there is a convenient time to change him / let him change. For example if he messes in the early evening, his change can wait until after you’ve eaten dinner together. Devrom and plastic pants really reduces the smell.

Fifth Month

Their diapered life will be feeling very normal now.

Now may be a good time to experiment with swapping out pull ups for thin diapers for work, friends & family. I’d recommend maybe a cloth backed option so they’re completely silent to build up their confidence. Make sure to give lots of reassurance that it is discrete.

Sixth Month

This is the review month so make sure to have a conversation about how they’re finding things. I’m sure you’ll both agree it’s been positive and will want to continue.

Avoid reducing the rules at all and I’d recommend now is the time to commit to them being diapered fully and phase out the pull ups completely.

I think it’s worth calling out to them that this means you’re committing them to diapers permanently. Now is a good time for you to increase your involvement to be checking and changing all their diapers at home.

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This post ended up longer than we expected but hopefully it’s will be useful to you as a partner of an ABDL. As always my DM’s are open and I’m happy to chat with anyone who is thinking about this for their partner and wants some advice.

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Mommy's 25 Diaper Rules

1) Baby is now 2 years old from here on.

2) Diapers are to be worn anytime a baby would normally have a diaper on until mommy decides otherwise. Diapers will be used for everything restroom related at home and in public.

2a) If baby consistantly holds the need to wet or mess while in public until returning home it might become a requirement that baby either takes laxatives each morning or an enema before going out to promote becoming comfortable using his diapers as needed and to become accustomed to the wet and/or messy feeling while out and about.

3) You are not allowed to remove or adjust your diaper for any reason.

4) Only mommy or an approved babysitter can change your diaper. Regular checks will be performed anytime and anywhere. Mommy will try to be discrete if possible, but checks will be performed regularly and you must allow for your diaper to be inspected immediately when requested to do so. Diaper checks and changes are performed at mommy's convenience and they cannot be prevented by baby for any reason.

5) When baby messes his diaper at home it is required that a squatting position be maintained as to serve an a visable non-verbal warning to mommy or babysitter that a diaper change will be needed soon.

6) You absolutely cannot enter a restroom without mommy being with you.

7) Using a potty is now forbidden until otherwise stated.

8) Baby is forbidden from touching any private parts underneath or through a diaper.

9) You are now mommy's little baby and any sexual contact with mommy is not alloud while wearing your diapers.

10) Baby may only wear a shirt and diaper while at home in order to allow for mommy to easily see when a change is needed. Anything covering your diaper is forbidden unless permission is given by mommy.

Note: No covering the diaper at home is one of the most important rules in making diapers a longterm or even permanent addition to your littles life. Over time they will become accustomed to seeing themselves in a diaper and not thinking about it. Your little will start to become fine with dressing for comfort and not to hide anything. After several weeks they will start to be fine with dressing more comfortable in public and may eventually not even try to hide their diaper anymore since it's not even a second thought to them.

10a) In public jeans or sweatpants will usually be alloud. Pants will adequately cover the baby's diaper. However, jeans and sweatpants worn out will not be so big that the diaper buldge, swelling from usage and diaper outlines are not visable preventing easy checks.

10b) Gym and work out clothing will generally be a little tighter fitting than jeans and sweatpants.

10c) When having to attend class or work a onesie will be permitted wear as to assist in holding any wet or messy diaper sags in place until baby can return home and can be appropriately changed by an approved adult.

10d) If mommy or an approved babysitter places your pacifier/binky in your mouth at anytime it must remain in place until removed by the caregiver. You may not talk or babble during pacifier time.

11) While at home any drinks will be given in a bottle or sippy cup with a lid. Absolutely no glass cups or anything without a lid can be used by baby.

12) 3 days a week will consist of only baby food being offered. Usually this will be Monday, Wednesday and Saturday.

13) Baby will not use adult language or big words for any reason. Only a babyish babble, baby appropriate sign language, non-verbal signals, crying or pointing with the occasional small/age appropriate word can be used when trying to communicate all wants and needs with mommy or a supervising adult.

14) Mommy will pick out your outfits anytime it is necessary to go out in public and will assist you in getting dressed. Selected outfits must be worn without complaints.

15) All hair must be removed from the diapered area and must be maintained smooth.

16) A diaper must be immediately put back on as soon as bathtime is finished. Mommy will supervise each bath time for baby's safety.

17) You will be respectful to all adults and do as you are told.

18) You cannot hide, lie or be ashamed of your diapers since they are necessary- be proud. If asked if you are wearing a diaper by any adult you must respond correctly.

19) Baby cannot be left at home alone. An adult such as a babysitter will always be present if mommy is not available.

20) When crossing any street baby must hold mommy's or babysitters hand.

21) Big boy underwear must be put in storage until further notice and diapers will be stored in their place. Mommy will select any color or style of diapers she wishes and will keep a home supply maintained.

22) Bedtime is 10:30pm sharp, unless stated otherwise.

23) Mommy's or a supervising adults rules will be followed at all times.

24) Failure to follow the required rules will result in a punishment ranging from extra time between diaper changes, an enema or up to an indefinite amount of time wearing diapers 24/7 being required.

25) Mommy or any supervising adult/babysitter reserves the right to add, change or remove any rule at anytime as they desire.

Photo source: ABdreams

[rawhjerbaby-deactivated20210610]

Heaven 🥰

[littlemikeuk]

I want to be bound by these kind of rules by a mommy of my own 💖🥺

[paddedlittleparadise]

Ideas for Supporting Your AB/DL Partner

Not into diapers or ageplay yourself, but want to make your AB/DL partner happy? Here are a few simple things you can try!

Pick out an outfit for them at bedtime so when they wake up they have to wear whatever you’ve chosen.

Use special terms of endearment. Ask what names they prefer, or simply experiment! Sometimes even a simple “good boy”, or “good baby” can make them melt.

Instead of letting them wear their special clothes or diapers whenever they want, set up a rule that they need to ask you first. It’s simple and quick - and it’s pretty fun to watch them blush and stammer trying to ask if they can put on a diaper!

Pick out a special “Little” item for them to wear. Like number one above, but this time add a onesie or diaper.

Ask them if they need to go potty - anytime, anywhere.

Casually put their pacifier in their mouth when they’re working or gaming or watching TV.

Cut up their food for them at meals.

Order for them at restaurants. Doesn’t have to be anything super childish - just that act alone can make them blush!

If your partner is padded up, give them plenty to drink. Remind them that you really wouldn’t want them to get dehydrated. Bonus points if you’re out in public and order them a giant beverage!

Pat their bum. If they’re padded, watch them melt and squirm at the sound of their own diaper. If they’re not, tease them about how strange it feels when that padding is missing!

Deliberately walk down the baby aisle with them while shopping. You don’t need to buy anything, but bonus points if you go slow and start examining the baby foods (or better yet, the diapers!).

Refer to underwear as “big boy/girl/kid pants.”

Ask if they need a sippy cup or bib if they ever happen to spill something while eating.

Get a warm washcloth and wipe their face with it after eating - even if they’re perfectly clean. Watch them melt!

Stop by the swings at the park, and if they’re empty, try them out. Heck, you’ll probably enjoy this one too!

Pat and stroke their head, especially if they like to ageplay. Littles are often very sensitive to touch when regressing, so that sensation combined with the caring and condescension it implies will likely bring them a lot of pleasure.

Give them a padded weekend; simply replace the underwear in their drawer with diapers. (Or even make them do it themselves!) Tell them they’ll get their underwear back once they’ve used those up.

Remind them how cute they are. Many age players can be intensely embarrassed of their appearance when wearing baby things, so communicating that you find them attractive can mean the world.

Encourage them to “use their words” when talking about what they want. Don’t expect them to wax eloquent on what they’re craving, though; it’s often embarrassing and hard to articulate these things. Be patient and listen.

Try talking to them in an enthusiastic, bright tone - just like you might talk to a three-year-old - and see if they like it.

Let them show you love in return. Maybe they’ll be embarrassed, or turned on, or both - but above all they’ll love you and be grateful for your acceptance. So if and when they try to return the favor by doing things for you, let them.

This is just a starter list, so feel free to add more in the comments! 😊

[diaperland]

Top Ten Little Things a Spouse Can Do for Their ABDL...

Been meaning to write this for awhile… my wife is not into diapers, but is very understanding of my interest in them. While she does not enjoy wearing them, she has no problem if I feel the need to put one on. Still, she finds little ways to be a part of my fetish without having to make herself uncomfortable.

Here is a quick list of the top ten ways she adds to the diaper experience without wearing one herself. If you have a spouse that does not want to play an active role in your diaper play, maybe they might still be willing to do some of these things:

10. Makes me diaper myself in front of her.

I can get shy when I decide to put on a diaper. I usually will retreat to a private area to get suited up, but she will often put her foot down and tell me to just diaper up in front of her. She’s never really looking since she isn’t really interested, but the idea that she might be watching is very appealing.

9. Draws attention to the fact that I am wearing.

She doesn’t ever do it unless we are alone (she knows I don’t want anyone else to know). During those times she will mention that I am crinkling, or give a playful slap on my butt. Sometimes she will just grab me and nod her approval.

8. Demands I strip down to check me out.

If I am wearing a pair of sweatpants or loose pajama pants and walk by she occasionally will stop me and tell me to drop my pants. She’ll then have me turn around a few times, and revel in my shyness. Sometimes she’ll drop a remark if I am wet, saying I need to go change.

7. Makes me wet in front of her.

This is pretty huge for me, since I am a bit shy when it comes to peeing. It doesn’t happen often, but there have been times where she’ll tell me to wet myself and wait until I obey.

6. Makes me wear in public.

Another huge one, since she knows I feel awkward going out in public with a diaper. Almost any trip to the movies she will check to see that I am wearing a diaper before we go. There is no feeling as awesome as when she pulls back the back of my pants to make sure I am all diapered up for a movie with her. However sometimes it is also for regular outings. We’ll be going out and she will tell me to go put on a diaper before we go. Or I have an errand to run and she’ll ask if I’m wearing a diaper.

She doesn’t do it for herself, it’s only because she knows I love it when she does it. I had to sit down and ask her to do it in the beginning, but now it’s just second nature for her.

5. Mentions diapers during sex.

She won’t wear a diaper, but she doesn’t mind talking about it. She’ll often mention what she’d look like if she put one on, using at as a form of “dirty talk” that appeals to me.

4. Never asks… commands.

She knows that it is more of a thrill for me if I don’t have a choice, so she will make it a point of forcing me to put on a diaper. She notices when I am in the mood, or just need a pick me up, and will suddenly get an evil look in hereyes and say, “Go put on a diaper. NOW.“ 

3. Surprises me with a prolonged diapering.

This can happen out of the blue, where she will suddenly tell me to wear diapers around the clock. Usually she will allow me to use the toilet when I need to poop, but the best times are when she doesn’t even allow that. The times that I would ask permission to use the toilet to poop, and she would say no, are probably some of my best diapered moments.

2. Interrupts me in the bathroom and gives me a diaper.

To be fair, when I need to poop I can be in the bathroom for thirty minutes or more and my wife hates to wait. On occasion she will come in and give me a diaper, telling me to get off the toilet. I don’t get any say in this and have to vacate the bathroom for her immediately.

There have also been instances where I need to be doing something (like cleaning or packing to go out for a weekend) when my stomach starts cramping up. This usually means that I am out of commission for twenty minutes while she continues on her own. Sometimes she gets fed up and makes me put on a diaper instead so I can keep helping. 

1. She is accepting, even though it is not her thing.

Bottom line, she accepts me for who I am and doesn’t let my love of diapers bother her in the least. She finds little ways to add to my experience without allowing it to affect her. She recognizes that this is something I need, and has always helped to make me feel better about myself. She makes sure I don’t look at diapers as a negative aspect of my life.

BEST. WIFE. EVER.

[theotherpl]

Definitely sharing this with my bf

[disbabybat13]

OMG yes!!!

[co-comforts]

Absolutely love this, it’s nice to see your wife is accepting even though she doesn’t participate herself and the fact that she encourages you wearing 🤗

[miniaturedelusiontimemachine]

This is very on point.

[bkid-5]

This could be interesting for others who are struggling about wearing diapers with a non wearer. This seems like a well balanced compromise. It shows that your partner does not have to wear in order to accept you. Hope it helps someone out there.

That’s love.

[littlefrenchdiaperboy]

That’s great

[littlefallenprincess]

What is your dream Mommy?

Ooooh good question, thank you ^_^

I think my dream Mummy would be…

Someone who can make me feel little. (Very important).

Someone who is good at snuggling and cuddles and hugs.

Someone who gives lots and lots of kisses and affection.

Someone who uses lots of cute pet names for me.

Someone who can read a bedtime story really well.

Someone who takes me on adventures and makes sure I’m safe and happy.

Someone who is super good at changing my nappies*blushes*

Someone who is supportive.

Someone who knows I’m going to have my bad mental health days, and is there for me during them.

Someone who is kind, nurturing and maternal.

Someone who pushes me to do things, but doesn’t push too much.

Someone who knows my limits.

Someone who will tell me when I’m being unreasonable.

Someone who makes me want to improve.

Someone who wants to spend the rest of their life with me ideally.

Someone who hangs all my colourings and drawings on the fridge.

Someone who wants to show me off to people she knows because she’s so proud of me, and where I’m not just a shameful secret.

Someone who will pop my dummy into my mouth whenever I’m talking too much or getting fussy or I’m playing games or something.

Someone who gives really good butt pats. :3

Someone who likes to curl up on the sofa, snuggle up with takeout food and watch a movie.

Someone who understands my anxiety and knows when a situation is too stressful for me, and will be able to make me feel safe.

Someone who checks my nappy often, but decides ‘it can hold another wetting’.

Someone who wants to bake with me and cleans my hands and face after I’ve gotten everything all over me.

Someone who makes me feel safe and gives me hope for the future.

Someone who wants all the love I have to give, and loves me back <3

[kali-is-an-abdl]

Things I’ve learnt from diapers

For those of you who’ve just joined us, hi. I’m Kali. I’m a 21-year-old male who now wears diapers full time. I’m a DL / non-regressive AB* (see footnote). I wet the bed and have some day control issues. I wasn’t always that way, though, so as a ‘normal’ person spelunking in the realm of full-time diaper wear, I feel like here are some things you should know.

Without further ado:

Shaving down there is necessary - it should be short enough that if your finger is touching hair it is also touching skin (that is, very short). This is because powder and barrier cream are an integral part of being diapered. If you don’t shave they just mat the hair rather than forming a barrier with the skin.

You need to put lotion and powder on more area than you think. A lot of people just hit the mons pubis and maybe the forward perineum. While lying on your back, raise your legs straight up and put your hands on your butt cheeks, fingertips touching, with the index finger running along the butt-thigh join. All the area covered by your hands needs lotion and powder as well.

If you’re going to be wetting and think you might be lying on your back or side while doing so, really look into cloth diapers. My experience doing this with disposable diapers is that you often find yourself with a leak on the hip you’re lying on, or on your lower back, and for some reason it’s very hard to feel these leaks. Nowadays, when I have the choice, I sleep in cloth diapers.

CLOTHES (I’m going to devote a header to this section)

Jeans are good. Denim is stiff and heavy, so it compresses your diaper. The conflict between the shading and the texture of the material throws the eye off. Darker is better, as is slightly uneven shading. The best cut is high-rise and boot cut - overly tight jeans will squeeze your diaper and reduce its absorbency the same way a hand reduces the absorbency of a sponge.

Black trousers are also good. Trousers tend to be a lot baggier and more forgiving in the crotch than jeans, and black means there’s no visual shadowing at the gradient from your legs to the soaker pad, and no sign in case of a leak.

Baggy fleece pants are bad. This is because the fleece is less stiff than denim, and the bagginess means your diaper isn’t compressed, so a gust of wind, or the pants moving the wrong way as you bend over, will give you a fairly clear diaper bulge.

Know your onesies. I have a lovely onesie which I don’t wear as much as I should because it’s tight and white - and therefore semi-transparent enough that it hides very little. It does a great jov of support, but no job of concealment. It’s mostly an undershirt - I still need another shirt over the top to feel subtle.

Don’t roll your diaper down to fit it under the waist of your pants. It’ll put pressure on the top tapes, making them more likely to come off - and the stretch of diaper backing above the top of the soaker pad is also meant to act as a seal, so if you’ve got a dick, you’re greatly increasing the risk that you will pee directly upward and out of the diaper. Do your diaper up at the proper height, pull your pants up as high as they will go, and if the diaper is above them, find some other way of covering it.

Pyjamas are especially tricky.

For pyjamas in any style, your choice of materials is more limited. Pyjamas in general tend to be thinner than day clothes - I submit the first fifty or so seconds of this video in evidence. Even though those are fairly thick as pyjamas go, they still quite visibly trace the leg holes of the wearer’s onesie and diaper, and accentuate the extra layer of diapering around the hips and waist. Pretty much the only material I’ve found that doesn’t show off too much in a standard cut is flannelette.

Boxers are useless. They cover the diaper, but if they’re high enough to cover the top edge, they’ll be tracing the butt and crotch exactly - on the one fairly generously cut pair I own, when they’re high enough to cover the top of the diaper, the bottom of it can be seen through the leg hole. They are useful for support - but useless for concealment. 

Two-piece pyjamas are a generally doubtful proposition. This is because most kinds of diaper backing have less friction than your skin. I’ve woken up with my pyjama pants halfway off at the front and all the way off at the back - thankfully I was sleeping in my own bed. Get one-piece pyjamas if you can - and go baggy. I have one pair I wear at home which are overtly AB which are fairly snug, but the PJs I wear out are a tabby cat kigurumi - they’re a tad cutesy for 21-year-old masc me, but the ‘butt’ is around the mid-thighs.

Try to get black, but if you can’t, go as dark as you can and/or get stripes that run horizontally. Horizontal stripes are the pattern which is least distorted by diapers. Diagonal stripes are fine too. Vertical stripes, on the other hand, outline the diaper like a contour map.

If you’re wearing cloth diapers, just ignore all of the above. Unfortunately for you I have found no pyjamas under which cloth diapers are not 100% obvious.

NOT CLOTHES (entirely)

Continuing with the pyjama theme, sleeping over at people’s places is a pretty good way to out yourself. I don’t do it much anymore for that exact reason - I don’t even crash on couches because I’m terrible at everything that has anything to do with diaper changes while drunk. There are some vanilla friends who know, but I’m keeping that number as low as possible.

Slightly related: if you’re uncomfortable peeing sitting down or in a reclining position, consider getting a mattress pad - even if you don’t need to protect your bed. Just knowing you’ll only leak through your pyjamas, instead of potentially onto sheets and an expensive, hard-to-replace mattress, is surprisingly freeing.

If you are intending to get into a position where you need to protect your bed, be warned: If it gets outside of a diaper, pee-related wetness is freezing. I don’t know why. I’ve spilt water on my bed in the same spot where my bed pad is now, under the same conditions, and it was practically tepid by comparison. Touching a patch you’ve wet or leaked on is like touching an ice cube.

Hygiene. Seriously, if you’ve come from a part of your life where you only shower once every couple of days, that time is now over. Keep yourself obsessively clean and fresh. Use scented body wash and shaving cream. As a diaper wearer, you are engaged in smell warfare with yourself. Suppress diaper-related smells and output as many other more pleasant smells as you can.

HARD STUFF AFTER THE CUT: discussion of messing and sexuality

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[littlefrenchdiaperboy]

Great post.

[babyfox32-deactivated20250210]

✨ suggestions!!✨

I want to compile an easy list for mdlb/cgl/ddlg for rewards and punishments! 🥰

There's alot we do together so I'm not sure what else to make a reward 😂 plus to me, affection isn't a reward. He's getting that no matter what and I'll never take away love as a punishment.

They don't have to cost money either! I'd love for you all to add what you do!! Comment and I'll add :)

Some I've thought of..

REWARDS

✨ Movie of choice

✨ pick fave dinner

✨ icecream date

✨ Massages

✨ Favorite treat

✨ Get let out of chastity for the evening

✨ Extra screen time

✨ Praise

✨ stay up later

✨ Play fun games

✨Favorite hot drink

✨ Bake their favorite thing together

✨ In charge for the day! Get to choose all day

✨ build a fort

✨ day off from chores

✨ museum day

✨ Play at the park

✨ choosing the next package of diapers

✨ stickers for the rewards chart!!

PUNISHMENTS

✨Spanking until they apologize correctly

✨time in the corner

✨ writing out what they did and what they would do differently next time

✨ Extra time in chastity

✨ Extra time in edging

✨ take away gaming time

✨ take away electronic privileges

✨ early bed time

✨ limit treats

[a-b-d-l]

What I Want

I want to be treated like a little boy.

I want you to help me pick out what to wear, and put on my clothes.

I want you to ask me if I have to potty, because little boys don’t always remember to stop when they’re playing.

I want you to ask me which superhero is on my underwear today, and wonder out loud whether they’ll have to fight the Evil Pee Monster.

I want you to check and make sure that my pants aren’t wet every so often.

I want you to gasp loudly and say, “uh-oh!” when you find I couldn’t stay dry.

I want you to take me by the hand to go change into something dryer, and more appropriate.

I want you to gently but firmly make me put on my pull-ups that you brought with against my protests.

I want you to reassure me that it’s ok to have accidents sometimes, that’s just what little boys do.

I want you to give me my paci to calm me down when I fuss about my new, thicker underwear.

I want you to help me take my pants off so you can check my pull-ups when we get home.

I want you to ask me when my pull-ups got wet ,and how, and why didn’t I say anything to you.

I want you to take me over your lap when I admit I didn’t even try to make it to the potty.

I want you to pull down my wet pull-ups and spank me while commenting on how disappointed you are that I don’t seem to care about not going pee pee in my pants.

I want you to hold me close, and gently rub my red bottom and tell me it’s ok while I cry softly into your chest.

I want you to stand up and tell me that it’s bedtime, and therefore diaper time.

I want you to drag me away while I protest that I don’t need diapers, and it’s still daylight outside.

I want you to ask me if I’ve already forgotten my sore bottom, since backtalk results in spankings.

I want you to lay me down on the diapers you laid out and powder and lotion my bottom.

I want you to tell me that I must be a very little boy indeed to still need diapers at my age.

I want you to ask me if I secretly wanted to be back in diapers when you see how turned on I’ve become.

I want you to tease me about my diapers getting wet during the night while you tape me securely into them.

I want you to give me my paci and cuddle me, and call me little one, and pat and rub my bottom while telling me that you don’t mind that I’m just a little boy, even when I’m naughty.

I want you to tell me that if I’m a good boy tonight and wet my diapers, maybe you’ll give me an extra special change only for really good boys in the morning.

[ppantsx-deactivated20220929]

Brute Force Bedwetting - A Training Guide

Materials Required:

Diapers, cloth or disposable, mattress covers, clock with multiple alarm settings, child’s wetting calender

Preparation - week before training begins:

1st the trainee must understand that from the start of training they are to be considered a bedwetter in every sense of the word. The term “Nocturnal Enuresis” should be a readily available if a nurse or doctor asks if the trainee has a medical condition. They do have a medical condition, and they should understand that now before the training really begins. This needs to be understood in all it’s permutations: there will be no place the trainee won’t be able to wet, they will have to wear protection every night. There will be embarrassing questions, and staying over with friends, and dating will be forever changed by this behavior.

2nd the trainee should start going to bed at an early time. 10pm would be ideal, but as late as 11 pm works. If the trainee works on a specific schedule adjust times so that they should get at least 8 hours of sleep nightly. They should also get in the habit of having a drink before bed.

3rd the trainee should begin sleeping in the diapers that they will be wearing most through the training. Cloth diapers are recommended. They should be comfortable sleeping in the diaper, and should practice wetting while laying in bed, finding the most comfortable positions to do so.

4th the trainee should be prepared to be honest about their wetting. There will be some aspects of the later phases where the trainee will have to self report how their night went, and the only way to establish the proper behavior is if the trainee reports honestly.

Phase 1 - The New Behavior Paradigm - 1 month duration

Take the clock and set three alarms for 1AM, 2AM and 3AM. These times are important because it allows the trainee to get a solid amount of sleep, but not enough for a full nights sleep. The clock dial should then be covered, and from now on any other clock in the room that is visible from the bed should either be removed, covered or turned away so that it isn’t visible from the bed. This is so that the trainee doesn’t adapt to a single specific time to wet, and that the only solid trigger for wetting is the alarm. Every day choose an alarm at random to set. When the trainee has gone to bed, the alarm will wake them. They will then turn off the alarm and wet, moving as little as possible, then go back to sleep. This will be repeated every night until the end of the training. What this does is establish a new behavior. That behavior is conscious wetting at night. They key point is to get the trainee to sleep, then wet, then sleep. At first the behavior will be difficult. There will be many sleepless nights, and early on there will be anticipation and insomnia. But as time passes and the trainee gets used to the schedule, they will fall into a regular sleep cycle. Later in this phase the adaptation to the nightly disruption may result in automatically return to sleep without wetting. This behavior should be punished appropriately. As long as the alarm is set the trainee should always wake wet in the morning. By the end of this phase, the trainee should be wetting every night consistently without requiring punishment. If this is not the case, repeat the phase until it is so.

Phase 2 - Maintaining Behavior Under Differing Conditions - 1 month duration

The first phase is to establish the night wetting behavior. This second phase is to establish comfort and acceptance of this new behavior. A bedwetter is a person that wets in their sleep, regardless of what they are wearing. At this point we don’t have a bedwetter, but a person that wets a diaper at the sound of an alarm. Consider the different clothing variations that the trainee might experience when sleeping. So far they’ve been wearing diapers. But maybe they have cloth and disposable diapers. What if they were wearing regular underwear? Or all these variations fully clothed, or completely nude. Once the variations are figured out, set a random schedule, and continue the use of the alarm clock-wetting routine with the added variation of the different conditions. Keep in mind that this phase requires the most cleaning, make sure that you have many extra sets of sheets and the mattress is protected. Now that the new behavior has been established it is still unfortunately a specific habit: The trainee has so far been trained to wet a diaper at night. What the trainee needs is to be comfortable wetting and being wet. This phase helps the trainee to learn to be comfortable in a wet bed, or wet clothes and still able to return to a sleeping state. If by the end of the month the trainee is still having trouble returning to a regular sleep cycle, repeat the phase until they have done so.

Phase 3 - Weening and Reward - 12 week minimum duration

At this point the trainee has spent at least two months consistently wetting at night. In the mind of the trainee two things have happened, the behavior has become a habit, and the brain has gotten used to urinating during the three hour alarm period at night. By repetition we are creating the urge to urinate during this period even thought the trainee has most likely not yet felt that urge because of the alarm. This phase is the trickiest part of the training. Up until now the trigger for wetting has been the alarm. Now we turn off the alarm. But it can’t be done all at once. So the trainee must be weened slowly off the alarm until it becomes unnecessary. Start by randomly selecting one night of the week. This will be the night the alarm won’t be activated. A random day will be chosen for the next two weeks, and ideally every two weeks the number of days per week that the alarm is inactive will increase by one until after twelve weeks the alarm is no longer necessary. Because this phase can be extremely tricky be prepared to delay progress or even return to phase 2 until the desired behavior is achieved. The child’s wetting calendar will come in handy at this point as it will be easy to track the trainee’s progress. The behavior that is desired is that on nights that the trainee doesn’t experience the alarm, they will still wet. Realistically there are three possible scenarios when the alarm is off: The trainee sleeps through the night, the trainee wakes because of the established habit of waking at this time, or the trainee doesn’t wake but still wets. If the trainee should wake, they should wet before returning to sleep.Early in this phase don’t worry if the trainee sleeps through the wetting period, however don’t progress with the weening if the trainee hasn’t wet after the first four weeks. When the trainee does wet, either by waking or sleeping, reward the behavior. Show the trainee that this is the desired behavior, and that it will be rewarded, and the trainee will have a greater incentive to continue the behavior. In this way also the mind of the trainee will be conditioned to want to wet. As the wetting behavior continues without the alarm, the trainee will require waking less and less. As it is, with the alarm activated, after so long the trainee ought not even need to stay awake, but might even be falling asleep while wetting after having experienced the situation so many times. So now with the alarm inactive the sleep wetting has a chance to occur naturally. By the seventh to eighth week, the randomized condition training begun in the second phase can end provided the trainee has shown the ability to wet in each of the conditions without the alarm. Once the trainee has been able to wet, awake or asleep, without the alarm at least 50% of the time this phase can end after at least two weeks of only one night where the alarm is activated per week.

Phase 4 - The Bedwetter and Diminishing Returns

At this point the trainee has established the ability to wet at night without the need for an alarm. As well because the alarm is no longer being used, most of the time the trainee should be wetting without waking. However this is also taking up a lot rewards. But since the trainee is now a bedwetter, they don’t need the rewards. But still we can’t just stop, so like he alarm we must ween the trainee. At the start of this phase we change the reward scheme to only reward nights where the trainee has only wet in their sleep. Do that for several weeks. Keep in mind the wetting calendar will be very handy at this point. Once the trainee has gotten used to this new reward scheme reduce the reward period from one night to two nights. After several weeks reduce it again to three nights. Every few weeks keep reducing the rewards until it takes a full week to wet. This will wen the trainee off the rewards, but it will also encourage more wetting since the mind of the trainee is conditioned to be rewarded for wetting. At this point don’t end the rewards all together, but keep it up for the next month or so in order to continue o encourage the wetting behavior. The rarity of reward will encourage greater regularity of the wetting behavior. When the trainee is wetting 75% of the time or more should the rewards end, and the training period officially end.

A Word on Punishment and Reward

Notice that when I mention punishment I said “this behavior should be punished appropriately. I am not a proponent of harsh punishments, nor do I pretend to know all the various dynamics that might come into play between trainee and trained, or even trainee by themselves. Punishment need only be as harsh as necessary to be effective, and the trainer ought to know best what is most effective punishment. No punishment should result in injury. Rewards can be tricky. As often as a trainee might wet the bed, it will be difficult to reward with stuff, because that could be expensive in the long term. I recommend sensory rewards like pleasure or even orgasm, but that implies a greater control and specific relationship on the part of the trainer. As with punishment the trainer has the best understanding of the trainee, and the nature of their relationship. Reward appropriately.

[bedwettersissy]

will wet with or without MY DIAPER!

[ab-kbear]

If you’re a little, you must follow the rules!

[diaperland]

Top Ten Little Things a Spouse Can Do for Their ABDL...

Been meaning to write this for awhile… my wife is not into diapers, but is very understanding of my interest in them. While she does not enjoy wearing them, she has no problem if I feel the need to put one on. Still, she finds little ways to be a part of my fetish without having to make herself uncomfortable.

Here is a quick list of the top ten ways she adds to the diaper experience without wearing one herself. If you have a spouse that does not want to play an active role in your diaper play, maybe they might still be willing to do some of these things:

10. Makes me diaper myself in front of her.

I can get shy when I decide to put on a diaper. I usually will retreat to a private area to get suited up, but she will often put her foot down and tell me to just diaper up in front of her. She’s never really looking since she isn’t really interested, but the idea that she might be watching is very appealing.

9. Draws attention to the fact that I am wearing.

She doesn’t ever do it unless we are alone (she knows I don’t want anyone else to know). During those times she will mention that I am crinkling, or give a playful slap on my butt. Sometimes she will just grab me and nod her approval.

8. Demands I strip down to check me out.

If I am wearing a pair of sweatpants or loose pajama pants and walk by she occasionally will stop me and tell me to drop my pants. She’ll then have me turn around a few times, and revel in my shyness. Sometimes she’ll drop a remark if I am wet, saying I need to go change.

7. Makes me wet in front of her.

This is pretty huge for me, since I am a bit shy when it comes to peeing. It doesn’t happen often, but there have been times where she’ll tell me to wet myself and wait until I obey.

6. Makes me wear in public.

Another huge one, since she knows I feel awkward going out in public with a diaper. Almost any trip to the movies she will check to see that I am wearing a diaper before we go. There is no feeling as awesome as when she pulls back the back of my pants to make sure I am all diapered up for a movie with her. However sometimes it is also for regular outings. We’ll be going out and she will tell me to go put on a diaper before we go. Or I have an errand to run and she’ll ask if I’m wearing a diaper.

She doesn’t do it for herself, it’s only because she knows I love it when she does it. I had to sit down and ask her to do it in the beginning, but now it’s just second nature for her.

5. Mentions diapers during sex.

She won’t wear a diaper, but she doesn’t mind talking about it. She’ll often mention what she’d look like if she put one on, using at as a form of “dirty talk” that appeals to me.

4. Never asks… commands.

She knows that it is more of a thrill for me if I don’t have a choice, so she will make it a point of forcing me to put on a diaper. She notices when I am in the mood, or just need a pick me up, and will suddenly get an evil look in hereyes and say, “Go put on a diaper. NOW.“ 

3. Surprises me with a prolonged diapering.

This can happen out of the blue, where she will suddenly tell me to wear diapers around the clock. Usually she will allow me to use the toilet when I need to poop, but the best times are when she doesn’t even allow that. The times that I would ask permission to use the toilet to poop, and she would say no, are probably some of my best diapered moments.

2. Interrupts me in the bathroom and gives me a diaper.

To be fair, when I need to poop I can be in the bathroom for thirty minutes or more and my wife hates to wait. On occasion she will come in and give me a diaper, telling me to get off the toilet. I don’t get any say in this and have to vacate the bathroom for her immediately.

There have also been instances where I need to be doing something (like cleaning or packing to go out for a weekend) when my stomach starts cramping up. This usually means that I am out of commission for twenty minutes while she continues on her own. Sometimes she gets fed up and makes me put on a diaper instead so I can keep helping. 

1. She is accepting, even though it is not her thing.

Bottom line, she accepts me for who I am and doesn’t let my love of diapers bother her in the least. She finds little ways to add to my experience without allowing it to affect her. She recognizes that this is something I need, and has always helped to make me feel better about myself. She makes sure I don’t look at diapers as a negative aspect of my life.

BEST. WIFE. EVER.

[theotherpl]

Definitely sharing this with my bf

[disbabybat13]

OMG yes!!!

[co-comforts]

Absolutely love this, it’s nice to see your wife is accepting even though she doesn’t participate herself and the fact that she encourages you wearing 🤗

[miniaturedelusiontimemachine]

This is very on point.

[bkid-5]

This could be interesting for others who are struggling about wearing diapers with a non wearer. This seems like a well balanced compromise. It shows that your partner does not have to wear in order to accept you. Hope it helps someone out there.

That’s love.

[kinkydude93-deactivated20181214]

Relationship Goals.

[littlefrenchdiaperboy]

The best