yeah, for me it's similar, I'm sure I'm sp dom but for the rest it's like, sx and 4 are described similarly, and so are soc and 9 (and fe). I'm currently trying to figure it out by observing people around me whose types seem more clear (like my so-dom grandma, an sp/so friend and my sx-dom sister) and seeing in what ways I might relate or not; still 4 is rather anti-soc by nature even when it /is/ soc, I think? ... anyways, feel free to talk about how you figured it out, if you want!
Yeah, I know what you mean about the 4 thing. When Iām not stressed, by 4 fix is generally my weakest, but during the time I was first getting into enneagram/tritypes I was still recovering from a particularly stressful school year and my 4 fix/wing were pretty apparent in my moodiness. So that really did not help with figuring out my instinctual variant lol
My only experience with a 4 with soc comes from an sp-blind 4w3 INFP, so my view on 4s with soc is pretty limited and tbh not all that positive since that particular case is pretty unhealthy. Regardless of whether it ends up being their primary or secondary instinct, the soc is pretty public. The so-ness comes from their envy of others.
From my understanding, 4s are acutely aware of what they believe they lack, so with a soc instinct itās going to make them compare themselves to others and attempt to either reach that other personās same level or grovel in their self-perceived inferiority. When unhealthy itās definitely not pretty, but when healthy I assume itās a good self-regulation system since 4s can get stuck in their own emotions and ignore outside input. A 5 wing should probably temper that, but the 4ā²s identity will often be compared to the social environment to see what could be refined in their own personality to differentiate themselves from the general public
Anyway from this point forward Iāll describe how I figured out I was sp/so
Since I still wasnāt confident about my own instinctual variants, I wasnāt sure if I could trust myself to type anyone else at the time, so I didnāt really have a point of comparison and just had to do ridiculous amounts of introspection and research on forums, sketchy ennea websites/blogs, and tumblr posts. I finally saw a really good bunch of basic explanations of the instinctual variants on a the16types.info forum, and although I felt both the sp-dom explanations were exaggerated about the differences, one bullet point aboutĀ āmindsetā really made me conclude I was sp/so.
I canāt see it anymore because the post has since been blocked from viewing by anyone whoās not a member of the site, but basically I try to earn my safety through wide social approval. I donāt really care about being popular, but I knew that I was okay with sacrificing publicly liking or doing some things for the sake of not being intruded on or targeted. So-blinds donāt really care about their general reputation because thatās not how they feel that they earn their safety, but I feel safe knowing that no one will get in my business if I stick to - or at least appear to stick to - most of the status quo, even if I donāt like that I do it and scold myself for doing so. Because itās an instinct, itās automatic, so while I was too busy thinking about how IĀ hated certain societal expectations, I should have thought about how I was following them willingly in the first place. A lot of high-Fe so-blinds know of societal expectations and hate doing them because it feels unnatural, but my view was different because it felt natural for me to do them even if I didnāt like them.
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