[hollywoodbelle442-deactivated20]

Sugar Allowance - What Form Do You Take It In?

Cash?

Bank Transfer?

Gift Cards?

Bill Pay?

Pre-Paid Cards?

Square card payment thingy?

What’s really the best method?

I’ve seen this topic pop up a lot but I’ve rarely seen a good answer for it.  Like me, I’m sure many girls out there have wondered numerous times, how the hell do I get an allowance?  More importantly, what about my privacy?

When I first started in the bowl it was cash all the way.  I wasn’t getting very much, typically just pay for play kind of thing and it was around $400-$600 each time.  I didn’t like it and for a while, I stopped sugaring anyway, so it didn’t matter.

Then I met my most recent SD (now previous).  And my allowance was monthly and…substantial.  The first time he gave it to me, we hadn’t worked anything out so it was cash.  And of course, because it was so much, I felt really uncomfortable.  It was a lot of money and I didn’t know what to do with it!  Where do I put it??  Do I deposit this in the bank?  Hell No.  I brushed that off immediately because obviously, I didn’t want to be hounded by the IRS.  Tax fraud, no thank you.  Even though it’s technically considered a gift and I’m pretty sure there are laws out there that mention “mistress” money matters, I’m not that familiar with them to trust putting a large sum in the bank.  

So I did some research.  I didn’t give my SD my real name and kept it that way through our entire relationship - I have a HUGE issue with privacy.  So direct bank transfers and bill pay were out of the question (he’d need all my info for that) - also this goes back to the whole tax thing.  Another thing out because of the sheer amount of my allowance was the gift card method.  No gift cards are worth as much as I was getting monthly and it would be such a hassle for him to have had to buy a new one and load money on to it each month or whatever. So no gift cards.  I looked into the Square cash and Square card reader thing.  The card reader just seemed way too transactional for both my and my SDs taste.  I believe he said the phrase “Guess my Amex really WOULD buy everything.”  Ugh.  And Square Cash deposits right into your bank account.  I looked into seeing if it would deposit to a pre-paid card that’d have no attachment to my name but alas, no such luck.

So I researched pre-paid cards themselves.  I did HEAVY research on prepaid cards.  I’m now like the guru of pre-paid cards.  Which ones hold how much money, how you are able to load each one, which ones carry the highest fees, which ones need your full disclosure, which ones require no info at all.  I’ve boiled it down to a science and this is what I’ve come up with:

AMERICAN EXPRESS SERVE CARD

This is how we did it:

My SD opened a serve account online and they sent him his personalized card. Having the online account is key here.  You can buy a temp card at the stores but the online account gives you just so many options.  It’s magical.

So, once he opened his account and was sent his card, he opened a “sub” account for me.  All he needed was a name and email address and from my end, I confirm everything and my card is sent out.  Voila.  No, he didn’t need my real name and no, I didn’t need to give any other information besides that.  I made my own account online that he cannot access without my password.  If I change my password, he doesn’t see it.  He can only put money on my card - his sub account card.  It’s that bloody easy.  

Other than being able to use the card just like any other debit card (pay for things as you would a normal card, take cash out of an ATM, etc.) I can also pay bills online.  So things that normally require being paid with a check, I can do that too.  Amex Serve will send places a check when I need them to - I just put my student loan info in online and blam! It sends them a check.  And, best of all, it’s attached to his name, so it looks like he’s making the payments for me.  I’m almost 100% sure there’s no repercussions to someone else making a bill payment for you, you know, tax-wise.  And he didn’t need to know my info.  It is that easy.

So, any sugars out there with big allowances worried about tax things and privacy, look no further than the Amex Serve card.  It has been hugely beneficial to me.  Granted, it takes a few weeks to get both cards set up and sent, but when they are and he’s putting money on your card, it’s heaven.  

Have questions about the whole process?  You know where to find me.

Happy sugaring.  Spend wisely!

[lolitalondonsugar]

Life saver

[lolitalondonsugar]

Asking for money on the first POT date

This is what I said:

Hey I’m sure you’re busy so thank you in advance for reading this. As you know I’ve had a lot of time wasters on this site! I’ve put a lot of time and energy into people and got literally nothing back. So for our first date, if it’s agreeable with you, I ask for a small monetary gift to see if this is serious and as a compensation for travelling down to ____ to see you. If you think it’s inappropriate or you don’t agree with it please do let me know and we can talk about it. Either way I’m very excited to see you

I know he’s going to give me money because he’s had arrangements before, but I just wanted to make 100% sure and also I just thought I’d post this to help other girls

[sugardolll]

Hey sugar! I am new to the sugar bowl and it seems like every man on SA is a total Splenda or salt daddy. How were you able to talk your POT into giving you money for the first meets? Thanks for your reply babe ❤️

there’s a few ways that you can use to get money (or a gift)on a first meet, but these are the two that I prefer to use. keep sugaring, dolly xoxo

method one: ask directly for a gift

i actually tend to favor this one and use it a lot because i find it’s the best at gauging what type of SD the POT will be (based on the gift they bring) . i usually say something along the lines of:

I’m really looking forward to x (tomorrow’s, today’s, Friday’s, etc) date, from our conversation alone I feel as though we’ll get along well! I do have a slight request though, nothing extreme of course, but something that I’m sure will assure the both of us that we want the same thing.

It would be wonderful if you could bring a gift, of sorts, to our meeting. It can be absolutely anything you like (perfume, jewelry, a bag, or even cash if you prefer) but this will greatly help me understand that you are willing to spend money on me and provide me with the resources or things I would like. It’s not mandatory, not at all, but it really will help me understand the type of arrangement we would have. Looking forward to seeing you! x

method two: ask for your travel expenses to be compensated

this one is a bit simpler and more straight forward, but it’s a sure way of making some money on a first meet. i usually say something along the lines of:

I’m really looking forward to x (tomorrow’s, today’s, Friday’s, etc) but I’ve been wondering if perhaps you could help me out with my travel expenses? I’ll be taking x (if by train then describe which train you’re taking and which transfers you’re taking if you have any, if by bus then describe which bus you’re taking and if you have any transfers, if by taxi state the estimated time it’ll take to get to your meeting location) and I’d greatly appreciate your help. Looking forward to seeing you! x

[devilboyblues]

Money can buy

Independence and safety (not having to rely on abusive ppl, getting to control how you spend your time and money)

Experiences (travel, events, vacations, entertainment)

Health (medical care duh, good food, good location, reduced stress)

Opportunity (car, being able to move, having a safety net, “looking professional”)

Confidence (clothes that make you look good, things that make you feel good)

i dunno that seems a lot like happiness

[dulcebabyx]

Financial Advice for my Sugar Sisters!

Financial advice for building your empire!

I am getting back into the bowl with an old SD after a 4 month hiatus. During this time, I’ve had a lot of time to think about my financials and how I was able to SURVIVE and do everything I’ve wanted to do (travel, shop, move, etc) all because I was financially responsible during the steady allowance flow.

I was able to move into a new apartment, with down payment and 4 months rent, all new furniture and everything because I SAVED and INVESTED my allowance for years.

My general rule was save 60% and spend 40% (on all my expenses and fun stuff!). But it goes even further than that. Within my savings, about 50% was sitting in a savings account that I wasn’t allowed to touch and 10% was in stocks that pay DIVIDENDS! 

What are dividends you ask? They are the life hack to money- stocks that pay you to invest. 

Dividends are usually paid out quarterly (four times a year) and they work like this. Let’s say you’ve invested $30,000 in stocks of a company that pays outs a 5% dividend. That means they will send you a paycheck of $1500 for the year (/4=$375) quarterly, on top of the growing 30k stock investment that you can SELL at any time or hold onto for a few years and then CASH OUT. $375 may not seem like a lot but that steady $ may come in right at the time that a car payment is due and its FREE MONEY. 

Another tip I have ladies, is so not get starry-eyed over the $$ and spend it all on shoes and bags until it your bank account hits zero. You MUST be saving and INVESTING in yourself and your future at all times. In my case, I have dreams to become a Youtube beauty vlogger and get into marketing/social media branding. My allowance has gone toward buying a high-end filming camera, studio lights, photography classes, and anything else that is propelling me toward my dreams and financial freedom. 

Any $$$ from an SD must have a RETURN potential for the future! ( I realize that reselling handbags might do that too, but why not keep your handbags and make MORE money?!)

Sorry for the rant, but I’m just so grateful that sugaring has allowed me to live financially set and happy without a job for these last four months and as I get back into the bowl, my #1 goal is to take another man’s money to invest in MY EMPIRE. Consider your men your primary investors ;)

[theblackcourtesan]

The Voice

The Siren’s voice has an immediate animal presence with incredible suggestive power. The Siren must have an insinuating voice that hints at the erotic, more often subliminally than overtly. Almost everyone who met Cleopatra commented on her delightful, sweet-sounding voice, which had a mesmerizing quality. The Empress Josephine, one of the great seductresses of the late eighteenth century, had a languorous voice that men found exotic, and suggestive of her Creole origins. Marilyn Monroe was born with her breathy, childlike voice, but she learned to lower to make it truly seductive. Lauren Bacall’s voice was naturally low; its seductive power comes from its slow, suggestive delivery. The Siren never speaks quickly, aggressively, or at a high pitch. Her voice is calm and unhurried, as if she had never quite woken up - or left her bed.

- From ‘The Art of Seduction’ by Robert Greene

[trustfundkiller]

YOUR BLOG IS GOLD! You mentioned that you're not worried about giving tips because you work on a different level than most girls. What do you mean by that? I'm in the market for a SD but all the men on the sites are trash and I'm new on how to get an allowance through free styling. With my first conquest I got gifts, groceries, and cash every couple weeks. It took MONTHS and persuasion before I could freely ask him for money and it wasn't much. My goal's 5k/month or more. What's your opinion?

Just to be clear, its not tips as a whole, its just stuff I think is so common place that anyone could find it with google very easy. Namely websites for advertising and finding more info. The stuff you can’t really google, I refuse to say anything on just because I feel like A: If I could figure it out so can anyone else and B: People want things too easy and I’m not about to feed into that. Even though sometimes it seems like I am to others, I’m really just like “Uhhhh….nah, what I said is really not that special. Its on the first page of google/in this book/its a mentality/its common sense.” It just looks good because you’ve maybe never thought about it or come across it. If you stick around long enough you eventually come across certain things however.

Also, I feel like experience is the best teacher. I could tell people my whole story, give them every bit and piece of info to make tons of money fast but hardly anyone would use it. The person who really does well or who would do well would eventually figure out a system that works for them as a person. This is also why I say I work on a whole different level than others. I’m willing to take extreme risks that ‘common knowledge’ or others would say Hell no to. But I’ve had my life and I lived it and I learned my limits as a person. I learned about myself as a person and built up myself as a person so I know what I am about. No one can tell me a single thing. If a man can’t keep up with me. Honestly, fuck him, thousands more where he came from. I am a woman with a vagina, the world is my birthright.

Now on to your question:

I have zero clue why people stay using these sites… STOP IT. THERE ARE ONLY ESCORT CLIENT REJECTS THERE. THEY ARE BROKE ASS MOFO’S WITH RENTALS MAKING 50K A YEAR AND THINKING THEY ARE BALLING BECAUSE THEY GOT A BIG ASS HOME IN KANSAS!!! (no offense if you live in Kansas, also websites sometimes work for some but I speak from my own experience. Nothing but a waste of time for me)

No man with real money would dare put his ass on a sugar website. If a man does have some money and is there, HE CRAZY. Like seriously, ask yourself why a man with tons of money would really put himself on a website for Sugar. Why the heck does he need a SB? Forget the married guys for a minute as they are a whole different beast. But seriously, why would a single guy with money be there? Can’t he go to a nice club/bar and meet a nice girl there? What about his interests? He can’t find a girl who likes horses or sports as much as him? What about his work, Doesn’t he come into contact with tons of women each day? Secretaries, Flight Attendants if he travels, agents of all kinds,shop girls, etc. Like Really, HES RICH AS FUCK, WOMEN SHOULD FLOCK TO HIM. If he is a little shy He can pay a matchmaker that $100,000 and find a nice girl discretely and easily to care for now and forever and ever.

But here is where the problem with these online guys come in……These are mostly pitiful, socially awkward men who are DESPERATE for some pussy. They can’t get it via normal means for some reason so they turn to these sites. Some are more patient than others but it all comes down to them wanting whats between your legs for the lowest price they can get. For some men that low price is that 5K allowance, for others……..I dun know.

And then like you said, you have to do so much for so little….Like Fuck no. That money should fall in your lap like water. There are SO MANY THINGS you could be doing with your time, like you could legit be curing cancer right about now but your with his lame ass. He better pay.

This is going to sound sexist as hell but to the right men the only thing you should have to work at is being your absolute best. And they should love, worship and support you for that reason alone. You being at your best is what should make them happy.

Now with ALLLLL that said, how does one go about finding these right guys. Trust me when I say that they are everywhere and the most work involved is just putting yourself where they are on a consistant basis. Think about stuff you like as a person and then think on what the high end version of your thing is. Do you like horses? Can you ride? Go visit a racetrack, start talking to people. Even if you don’t know the first thing about horses, fuck it, be lost, be confused, ASK A NICE GENTLEMEN WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON………let him invite you to his center box…..make friends….. Are you a coffee addict, hold off on Starbucks for a minute and visit one of thous hardcore coffee houses. You don’t have to be an expert, just make sure not to get too friendly with the Barista unless it seems like he can help you in your goal of picking out who a regular or not. Don’t just go anywhere either, pick a place close to the business section of a city and go during peak times (or off peak depending on how you work best) or pick a place close or in a rich neighborhood and go weekends. 

You have to find out who you are as a person and play up your strengths AND Weaknesses. People forget that weakness can be strong. For a start read The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene and see what your base character is. Your not stuck to one but you do have one that is predominant. My Predominant is the Mythic Star, but do not choose something you just WISH you were, work with what you have. I am a total ditz most of the time but it often comes off being very mysterious and draws people to me so the Star was my predominant with hints of the Child/Natural & the Coquette. Find your combo and work with it.

Also when you really find yourself as a person, it becomes SO MUCH easier to ask and get what you want very quickly because YOU KNOW WHAT YOU BRING TO THE TABLE. A reason why you maybe didnt get want you want in a better time frame could be that that guy didnt realize your value. SHOVE THAT SHIT IN HIS FACE. Don’t ever let a man think your replaceable because he gives you money. No, He is giving you money to stay with him because HE IS REPLACEABLE. You are a fine ass top shelf woman, your not a vase, a fucking plastic cup/pouch. One drink and done. NO…..

My personal approach to men I meet free styling is this. They see me and my bombshell self. They already know I’m an expensive Classy chick. Even when I’m in basic jeans with my hair in a pony, I reek sophistication and class and refinery. They way I move, the way I touch things, I could go to a bookstore and get a man to follow me around wondering wtf to say to me. But I make it easy for them. I smile. I look at them. Heck, I might even do the ‘come hither’ finger. I use BODY LANGUAGE to invite them to me, so much can be said with body language alone. If they are still in stun mode not believing I’m trying to get at them. I go to them and just say something like this:

“Hey, that looks interesting, can you tell me more about it?”

Curiosity May Have Killed The Cat But Satisfaction Brought It Back.

After the whole getting to know you phrase is done, which is like a week max for me (don’t go by my table, figure out your own that works for you) its money talk. I love to cook, and make it obvious from the get go, because of that I only eat the the most expensive restaurants in the city Im in (I never cook a meal for a guy. I’ve been with my boyfriend going on years and I’ve never cooked for him, lol) you’d think oh I’d cook for a guy because I like to cook but NOPE, its’s “Yes I like to cook and because of that I need to taste other top chefs meals so I can figure out how to improve my own cooking though them” I reject any and all mention of cooking at home with a simple no. No magic words, just no. Sometimes I just give them a “Are you serious?” look.

If I talk on the phone phone with them, sometimes, I will block their number or make it auto reject with a message that my number has been disconnected. I tell them (later on), I’m not a talker and I’m over my plan, I don’t talk often with men (lie, but only with certain men, works best if you seem like an otherwise busy person) so I boldly ask them to help them pay the bill.

I start asking for more and more stuff, outfits to go out to dinner, money to get my hair or nails done for a date and I don’t take no nonsense about how I look good without this or that. He’s a man, the fuck does he know about being a woman. He says he doesn’t like lipstick, get the fuck out of here, HE LOVES IT AND LOVES IT IN BOLD RED WITH LINER AND EVERYTHING. I don’t need heels where we are going WELL YOU BETTER BUY ME FLATS. If he starts grumbling, I let it be known there are others in a subtle way. The fact is you need these men to know you have a life and you don’t have to be with them. Once the total amount in gifts is where I like it and we are in a good relationship, I ask for a set thing under the guise of never asking for other stuff, which is a lie. I get an allowance and I still get my gifts. I have had 10-15K monthly allowances and I’m even now trying to get a 20K allowance. I worth more than 20K however.

All that I’ve said is a matter of pure manipulation. Or rather, re training, you have to train these men like dogs to bend to your will. Don’t look at this is a sugar baby, sugar daddy thing, I actually hate thous phrases, look at this like a real relationship. The best arrangements are not ‘arrangements’ its an actually a relationship. You have a connection to someone beyond sex. This is also how a platonic relationship would work out as well. I know a girl who had an SD for YEARS, never had sex with him. The man was TRAINED.

So, build yourself, know yourself, then make it known that you know what you have and that there are others if he can’t keep up. Be a little bold and brave, you have everything to gain. If the guy leaves, fuck him, he wasn’t worth your time anyway and when he comes crawling back, shove it in his face. He came back because he couldn’t find better, MAKE SURE THATS WHY HES COMING BACK. Don’t let it be he came back because your easy, if that was the case, FIX HIM IN THE NAME OF JESUS.

Read ” The Power of the Pussy” by Kara King and LEARN MY LOVE, LEARN…..

http://www.amazon.com/The-Power-Pussy-Commitment-Relationship-ebook/dp/B0085YBTEO

and Good Luck and remember you run the world, its yours, men would be nowhere without you……

[madebymirrors]

*slow claps*

[daddyslilkittn]

I live in abundance. Money is attracted to me. I have always had enough. I am a wealth magnet. I will continue to garner more wealth. #SugarAffirmations

[melaninmonroe-barbie-blog]

Yes, put positivity in the air. :)

[ebonygeisha]

Empire State of mind

When I first began sugaring, my thoughts were focused on the short term goals such as the money and gifts that I could receive.. Of course, I still love those things and I still get them, but I quickly realised there is so much more to gain from having a sugar daddy. So many new experiences to go through which make you grow as a person and set the foundations for your future.

So last night I went on a dinner date with my SD as he’s finally got back from his travels 😊. We got chatting and talking about my goals for the future, During the dinner conversation, he began asking me about what I wanted in life. I spoke about wanting to be an entrepreneur and start my own business in the fashion industry. My SD, who is an entrepreneur himself, has many business ventures and coincidentally one of his recent ones has been in the fashion industry. He offered to give me a role in the company! Which I’m so excited about as I said I wanted to experience it first before diving into my own thing.

He told me to finalise my ideas of what I want to do, and when I’ve done so he will set up a meeting for me to get my own company going! Like wow, that would be a dream come true. On top of that, he’s also offered to give me 100,000 shares (in a different company he owns, which is up and coming) which would be an amazing start up for my investment portfolio for somebody my age.

Any way, the reason I’m telling this story, is to encourage all my fellow sugar babies to DREAM BIG Unfortunately, right now, you are the arm candy, you are young, beautiful, intelligent.. But in 20 years time, you don’t where you’ll be unless you start setting foundations now.. And let’s face it, men like younger women, there’s a reason your sugar daddy isn’t with someone his own age. In my opinion you have to grab hold of opportunities when they come and make the most out of it for yourself and more importantly your future!

Having a room full of Louboutins and Birkin bags would be nice (very nice actually lol 😋) but that shouldn’t be your ultimate goal. Use this opportunity to your advantage, built connections, start networking. Having a sugar daddy means you now have access to professionals and people that you may not have had. Take advantage of that! Nothing annoys me more than seeing these trophy wives who spend years living the high life, shopping, yachts, jets, the lot.. all on her husbands black card, only to be divorced and replaced for a younger woman a few years down the line, having NOTHING for themselves. Zero, nada, zilch.

Do not take anything for granted, because you don’t know where life could take you. I personally know a few ex sugar babies and escorts who spent off their money and now have nothing left to show for it. Do not be that girl! Having a man look after you is wonderful, but wouldn’t it be even better if you were able to do those things for yourself?

Carpe diem!

[ebonygeisha]

• Removing yourself from the Internet •

So having read many posts from you girls, it’s come to my attention the real importance of removing ALL personal info (including possible images) from the Internet (especially if you are an escort or sugar baby)

So I just googled my name this morning, nothing major came up but there was still things I wanted removed lol (now I regret all the years of social networking)

So I found this site called “https://forget.me” it’s a great way to request content removal if you have any. You select all the links that come up when you search your name, then you have to submit a form of id so they know it’s you, once confirmed, they will delete your public information from google and bing search engines. I’ve just put in a request, it will take 24 hours but I think it’s definitely worth it!

(I think it’s only for EU/UK citizens, there must be an equivalent for the U.S. You will have to research this because I’m not sure)

- EbonyGeisha 💋

[ebonygeisha]

• Escorting - Keeping Safe During Out Calls: PART 2 •

Although I use this mainly for my escorting work. I think EVERYONE should download this for their safety.

This is the app that I use. It’s called “WatchOverMe” Here’s the link: http://watchovermeapp.com

The great thing is that it’s available in every country 😄

How it works:

• You sign up using your mobile number and email address • Turn on your location • Add your emergency contacts: this can be as many as you want. You can choose to add their phone number, email address, Facebook or all of the above • you type in how long you want to be watched over for and the timer starts counting down (it uses google maps to determine your location)

For example let’s say I’ve chosen 5 minutes. If after 5 minutes I haven’t clicked the “I’m safe” button, it will ask me if I want to extend the time, if I don’t press yes then the app will immediately inform my emergency contact. It will also tell them where you’ve been in that time frame, your current location and it can also take snap shots of your surroundings.

Other features: • There is a “notes” section. I usually use this to write down my clients details and the address I’ve travelled to so if something does happen my emergency contact can inform the police (hence why it’s important to research these details before hand) • By shaking your phone you can also trigger an emergency SOS alert • You can allow your emergency contact to “walk with you” virtually using GPS so they know exactly where you are • The app can alert you when you’ve entered places that are high in crime • You can add “safe places” such as your home or office etc so it can stop tracking you when you are safely in these areas if you want • You can also report crime on there to warn other people

Hope this helps, stay safe everyone :)

- EbonyGeisha 💋

[ebonygeisha]

[british-sugar]

Amen

[lolitalondonsugar]

Wow wow wow

So I have £49 in my account A £500 rent bill on the 1st, a £40 phone bill and I'm freaking the fuck out Yesterday I was on tinder looking desperately for a POT. Came across this guy, late j40's hotel and property owner, seemed nice. We matched started talking and I told him that I was not seeking a conventional relationship. He knew what I was talking about immediately haha. He said he could do a 2k allowance a month and I was like shittttt bitch yes So we decide to meet soon and I asked him if he could cover my travel expenses, he agrees. So I gave him my bank details (I do not recommend doing this at all!! Don't give out your info so easily to people you don't know...however I was broke and desperate as fuck so I had to) So there I am thinking he's just gona send me like £50 or something....THIS BITCH SENT ME £200!! BEFORE EVEN MEETING ME This has never happened to me before He was so nonchalant about it Like give me your bank details I'll just send you £200 because it's nothing to me WE LIKE THIS 😈😈 Sugar Gods, can I just take this time to truly thank y'all for blessing me. I was probably going to get kicked out of my apartment, and go hungry, so thank you thank you thank you thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[mocha-notes]

Guide on How to Catch Up in Your Classes

I often see master posts and tips about how to become organized and have better study habits but not about what to do when you have essentially messed up. I just wanted to share some of the things I do when I fall behind and how I recover. Unfortunately, this is an experience I am very familiar with but I am actively working on changing.

Please do NOT use this guide as a justification to fall behind. This is a guide for those who for whatever reason are already in this predicament and need help ASAP!

1) List everything you have to get done. Absolutely everything, down to the smallest detail.

For example, do not write down “readings for class X” but rather list out every chapter, and if you want every subsection of that chapter. This makes it easier to gauge how much time you need for every assignment and will motivate you when you check them off!

I like using apps like OneNote and Momentum to make my to do lists or just standard sheets of paper.

2) Calm down.

If you are anything like me, after you have made your long to do list you will start to panic. (I do, every single time!) Do your best to calm down, a calm mind is a sharper and smarter mind!

Personally, I like taking a moment outside to just concentrate on taking deep breaths of fresh air. This helps bring my heart rate down. (It’s something a bit similar to meditating)

For meditation, stretching, yoga, exercise, and power-naps you can use the app Fabulous (I use it often during the day for these purposes.)

Do not use this time to procrastinate! Try to find a relaxing activity that is not time consuming (i.e, DO NOT watch an episode on Netflix, play a video game, or anything that can easily feed into your procrastination) Although, these can all be relaxing activities, you will unconsciously negatively reinforce your habit of procrastinating to relieve anxiety and, thus, will consistently want to procrastinate when you are distressed or overwhelmed by your classes. Essentially, creating a cycle of procrastination. 

Ex: I am behind and am experience a lot of distress and anxiety. Watching Netflix (i.e. procrastinating) gives me temporary relief by distracting me from my responsibilities. Once my episode finishes, however, I feel the anxiety from my workload again and will decide to watch another episode etc. etc. It’s an endless cycle.

3) Plan out your week and dedicate each day predominantly to one class.

Now we have all the assignments and studying you have to do for every class and you are calm. Make sure to pay extra attention to due dates and plan which days you will be dedicating to each class. Plan a whole week and remember to plan wisely!

Prioritize by amount of weekly workload and proximity of due dates.

Does a class have assignments due every week? That class is most important since small assignments can eventually add up to a big portion of your grade. These assignments are due the soonest and, therefore, need to be done ASAP. Dedicate the whole day to just that class.

For example, for my Life Science course I have weekly quizzes and clicker points during class. If I am behind, I will dedicate a whole day to doing readings for that class first.

Have two different assignments for different classes due on the same day? Plan in advance so that you will still dedicate a whole day to each class rather than working on both assignments the same day (which would most likely be the day before, am i rite? ;) -> No, seriously don’t do this.)

If it is utterly necessary to do both assignments on the same day, then do split up your day.

4) Plan out your day. Every single hour. Seriously.

I literally will make a list of available times for each day and will schedule in assignments, meals, breaks, interviews, everything.

Try to be realistic! (I struggle with this a lot.)

Estimate the amount of time for an activity and then add a few more minutes to that.

Do not forget to schedule in essential personal care time. You need to eat, you need to take breaks, you need to shower, and you need to sleep. By doing this, you will be able to curve fatigue and to overall be in a better mental and physical health which is important for productivity.

Interweave your studies/assignments for a class.

What I mean by this is that you are behind and need to not only do the assignments but most likely need to learn it QUICKLY for the upcoming exam.

So an example of interweaving would be actively going back and forth b/w reading a chapter and your lecture notes. When I am behind I will take notes on the chapter I am currently reading and add those notes to what was said in lecture. Therefore, I am catching up but also making sure I am understanding the readings in terms of what is being taught in class. This saves time and you are learning!

Re-plan.

Some assignments will take longer than expected or a day will simply not be as productive as you thought it would be. It’s okay. Do not get discouraged. Simply, re-plan, adjust your days and continue moving forward! In order for this to work, you need to be flexible and learn what are the most important assignments you should be spending your time on.

5) Do not procrastinate!

I know this is easier said than done, but you (and I) are behind so we really have to stick to this one. Procrastinating may feel good at the moment but you will feel terrible about it later.

Here are some tools to help: Self-control (for macs), and Forest (for phones and computers.)

6) Go to the library or a quite isolated space.

Go. Go now.

Studying in your dorm room or at home gives you too many opportunities to be distracted and you simply do not have the time to take the risk. Food and people are my main distractions!

Also, being in a space where others are working will motivate you to do the same.

Get hungry while on campus? Pack your lunch AND dinner when you go to class and just spend the rest of your day in the library.

If you are starting to feel mentally fatigued, go somewhere else, take a small break, and continue. Go to a cafe, a computer lab, a grass field, anywhere. A change of scenery while studying can help you feel refreshed!

7) Give yourself rewards for accomplishments

I prefer to keep my rewards small. They tend to be having a small talk with my roommate, experimenting while making coffee, making myself a really nice dinner, or pressing flowers.

Do not over extend or continually take breaks. Again, do not reward yourself with something that you associate with procrastination or could procrastinate with!

8) SLEEP!

Last one! I know everyone and their moms say this, but sleep is very important for learning and (if your cramming) retention. After a certain point your brain will be too fatigued and will not retain anything you try to cram into it, so why not spend that time doing something better? Like sleeping!

Before I even start studying, I give myself a cut-off time. This is a time when I will stop, no matter how much work I have gotten done, and will prepare to go to sleep.

I wake up at 8am, so mine tends to be around 12:00am.

Your cut-off time should be strict and should give you at least 6-8 hours of sleep, so plan wisely!

Consistency is the key to success.

Studies have shown that inconsistent sleep affects your learning retention and academic abilities the next day. So, really try to stick to this one, if anything!

Again, the Fabulous app can help you stick to your cut-off time and maintain a regular sleep pattern.

I could go on and on about this but this post has already become more lengthy than I had anticipated!

Remember these are the things I do when I am behind (usually severely), this does not consist of my daily study habits when I am caught up. Therefore, some of these tips aren’t efficient for long-term learning but are definitely better than cramming (in my opinion and experience.) Catching up is by no means fun, therefore, once you are caught up, please try to implement better time management and daily study habits. (If anyone is interested in tips for those, let me know and I can make a post about it!)

Lastly, you can do this! I mean it. I do not know you personally but I have seen people do the most astonishing things in the face of adversity. So please trust me when I say, I believe in you wholeheartedly!

Good luck!

Jessica

Fri, Jan. 29th 2016 | 12:00pm

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