louiskechi

i don’t really use this blog anymore — they/them

[louiskechi]

alright let’s get this over with

here is a basic summary of all you could possibly need to know about me before you go starting something with me (this will be updated as i see fit)

-trans rights are human rights. this is not up for debate and is a block on sight if you disagree. same goes for black lives matter, and any other basic human rights that people somehow take offense to.

-xenogenders, lesboys/girl gays, mspec lesbians/gays, and all other non traditional or contradictory labels are valid. you can continue being angry that you aren’t allowed to fit queer people into strictly confined boxes all you want, but the long term goal of the queer movement should always be to break down restrictive labels and emphasize being who you are. this applies to neopronouns as well, obviously. all good faith identities are valid. full stop.

-transandrophobia is real. to deny that transmasculine people experience a unique type of transphobia tailored by bigots to specifically target our experiences is complacency. if you engage in hierarchical structures to organize the oppression marginalized people experience (i.e. saying things like “tme people need to shut up for once” when discussing transphobia) is reductive and only divides the community.

-self diagnosing is valid. not everyone has access to psychiatrists, let alone ones who will give a proper assessment. it’s also worth mentioning that both the medical field and the government have a lot of ingrained ableism, which can bar you from access to jobs, and can cause you to lose legal rights and bodily autonomy. (did you know getting an autism diagnosis can prevent you from getting a visa to most countries? it can even get you placed on a mandatory DNR!) accompanying this, i do not care what a system’s origin is. as a plural person, i couldn’t give less of a shit. if you say what you’re experiencing is plurality, i will believe you. trying to determine who “is and isn’t actually plural” does nothing but give fuel to those who will fake-claim us no matter how much proof we provide. you are helping divide our community and prevent mentally ill people from getting support that could save their lives.

-paraphiles deserve understanding and recovery. you are not going to eliminate things like pedophilia and zoophilia by arresting them, or worse, killing them, for feelings they can’t control. the solution to these things is easy access to therapy so they can work through those feelings and hopefully be rid of them one day, or at least no longer be a threat. most paraphiles do not want their paraphilia much less to act on them, and even those who do will not benefit from incarceration.

[louiskechi]

i do not like the descriptors “transmisogyny affected (tma)” and “transmisogyny exempt (tme)” because:

1. it defines our identities as trans people around our relationship with our oppressors

2. it forgoes the nuance of complex gender identities in favor of once again sorting trans people into a set of strict binary labels

3. rather than being used to talk about the actual ways in which certain groups are oppressed, it is almost exclusively used to talk about how certain people AREN’T oppressed, instead focusing on creating community infighting which is never productive

4. everyone is affected by transmisogyny because everyone is effected by all oppression. you cannot be simultaneously claiming that there are complex systems of oppression but also be claiming it doesn’t affect some people. everyone in the working class is negatively affected by all forms of systematic oppression. some more than others, sure, but everyone is harmed by it.

[louiskechi]

i don’t like to say this too often but if you’re one of those people who believes the correct response to misogyny is to “boycott men” then kill yourself

[louiskechi]

i don’t really understand the whole “don’t say skinwalker or wendigo” thing because like. sure if im around you and you won’t believe in it i won’t say it because i’m not trying to freak you out, but if its just me by myself how does it harm you for me to say it? i mean your belief is it’ll come for me right? i just don’t don’t see why i’m expected to follow the religious rules of a religion i don’t believe in.

this isn’t about turning the creatures into creepypastas btw, that is absolutely appropriation and completely disrespectful

[louiskechi]

hey how come everyone decided as soon as israel declared war that encouraging self harm is cool actually

(i am pro palestine do not derail)

[louiskechi]

my biggest problem with gender and the “essentially woman/man” experiences is that every time gender is brought up i am reminded that i will never succeed to qualify as anything.

despite this endless insistence i will never be anything but a woman, i lack the experiences that every woman seems to have in common. i’ve barely received a compliment let alone a cat call. i’ve never experienced sexual violence or desire for motherhood or whatever else people boil down womanhood too. it shouldn’t bother me. i’m not a woman, why should i be upset about failing at being one? maybe it’s because of the insistence that i can never be anything else, meaning i can never escape the failure.

so what if i try to be a man? it’s closer to comfortable, even if it’s not quite right. well that’s a no go either. people will point to my biology, or my long hair, or my chest which i can’t compress due to chronic rib pain. i’m not strong like a man “should” be because of my disability. i’m short. i don’t find traditional masculinity appealing in the slightest, but i can’t present femininely and be perceived as a man, due to my biology. whatever, i didn’t want to be a man anyway.

but even non-binary, which i identify as, i still don’t belong. because i’m not trying hard enough to be androgynous. because non-binary isn’t even a “real” thing to half the population. people will always try to fit me into one or the other.

i need an opt out button. some way to never have to be gendered ever again. to never have to hear about gender ever again.

identifying outside of it isn’t enough for me. i never want to hear about it ever again. i never want to hear about how all men are dangerous and all women are victims, or how men are strong and women are caring. i never want any of it to exist. nobody benefits.

kill gender.

[louiskechi]

@shoveitshovel

you’re gonna be real bummed when you find out i’m not some blind hater and actually a hazbin/helluva fan. i’m criticizing her because i like the show and i want her to stop enabling the fan base to be shitty.

my post was very explicitly about queer erasure within fandom. queer erasure is bad. sorry if that makes you upset but it’s bad.

[louiskechi]

@shoveitshovel

removing characters from queer relationships to put them in het ones is queer erasure (which she explicitly encouraged with charlastor)

[louiskechi]

@shoveitshovel

you’re gonna be real bummed when you find out i’m not some blind hater and actually a hazbin/helluva fan. i’m criticizing her because i like the show and i want her to stop enabling the fan base to be shitty.

my post was very explicitly about queer erasure within fandom. queer erasure is bad. sorry if that makes you upset but it’s bad.

[louiskechi]

this isn’t really an opinion it seems you’re allowed to have in leftist spaces but i am genuinely constantly ashamed of my whiteness.

it’s for a lot of reasons. i’m sure a big part of it for me personally is my species dysphoria (i don’t think i’d be really happy as any race of human), but self image aside, my shame comes from the fact that there’s a general attitude that anything i say or do for social activism will be ultimately undermined by the fact that i am white.

when i see people complain about white people online, i never see a given solution. i will always be white. i will always be an annoyance for some people. i will never be a true leftist because of my whiteness.

because i am white before everything else, right? that’s the phrase that’s constantly thrown around. if i bring up that i have a place in discussions about oppression due to my being transgender, gay, and mentally and physically disabled, i’m still white ‘before everything.’ the thing that has the least weight to my personal identity will always be what people regard me as above everything else.

before someone goes off about how privileged i am, i wasn’t afforded an easy life automatically because i am white. my family struggled financially. i have been abused over and over again. i have been suicidal for as long as i can remember. i am mentally and physically disabled and have been progressively worse and cannot afford healthcare. i can barely afford food and a studio apartment. i failed high school because of my mental disabilities. i am terrified of going outside because of how much cruelty i’ve endured in the past. but none of that matters because i am white before and above all else.

and i know this post will be considered as just another white person complaining about how hard it is to be the most privileged group in america. i will be told i’m not a real activist because i feel this way. that i’m just trying to alleviate my ‘white guilt.’ that this post is naught but ‘white tears.’

god. even my emotions are white before anything else.

[zombiiehorse-deactivated2024032]

Working in a custoner service job is an incredibly easy way to get dehumanized to other people btw.

[zombiiehorse-deactivated2024032]

This isn't meant to be a haha funny relatably upset post fyi. Like this is just straight up something I'm saying. People do not treat customer service employees like humans as much as they should. I've had a man hit me in the back with a bag of scented pinecones to get my attention to tell me he found them when I said I didn't know if they were sold out since I hadn't been at work in a week, that man months later was complaining about me to a coworker, he recognized me half a year later despite having completely changed my look and brought it up like it was funny. I've had a woman tell me to my face that I was useless because I didn't have an easy solution to finding a price on something before demanding i lift the giant, heavy tent into her cart for her despite being half her size, and she didn't even buy it. I've had people ask me to open a product that I am not allowed to open, only to do it right in front of me when I say its not allowed. I've had people laugh at me when I said I was the one who was assisting them with something and scream at me when I said I couldn't assist with something. I've had to uncomfortably chuckle along when someone makes a joke about how I should know everything in the store because I didn't know if they were genuinely just joking or not. People just shove past or into me, or keep pushing their cart at me when I dont even notice them, because they expect me to move. The most fucked up part? These people are always completely polite to me when I'm just another customer in the store. I've had someone who told me I should just quit my job while on the clock later politely say excuse me and talk about the weather when I was simply buying chips out of uniform. In the same god damn day. The list goes on and on and on. The fact is that even if you don't personally dehumanize a customer service employee, so many people DO.

[zombiiehorse-deactivated2024032]

This is ok to reblog btw, if you want to tell your own stories of experiences in a job like that go ahead. Just know that I'm sincerely sorry you had to or still have to deal with that stuff and you are so awesome for making it through that man

[transvarmint]

In discussions about transandrophobia, someone who is opposed to the concept will almost inevitably bring up Whipping Girl, or other [trans]feminist texts.

One of the biggest claims about the term transandrophobia, is that its a misuse or misunderstanding of feminist language and/or theory.

What people fail to understand is that the term is not a misunderstanding of feminist theory, it is an intentional critique of it.

Unfortunately, much of feminist theory completely ignores the existence of trans men. When we are acknowledged, we are typically treated as an afterthought. Our oppression is frequently diminished, and we are often treated as "collateral damage" - people are only ever coincidentally harmed in the aftermath of attacks on women. It is almost never recognized that we can be the direct targets of violence.

Our existence and our experience with oppression is treated as an inconvenience, or an exception case - because we challenge the core assumption that men as a class benefit from misogyny more than they are harmed by (i.e., that all men have male privilege).

Many people who are not trans men will make claims about our oppression and experiences, while completely leaving us out of the conversation. The preservation of pre-established academic theory is prioritized over giving us a voice to challenge those preconceptions.

The actual lived experiences of trans men can and should take precedent over currently standing academic frameworks. If trans men's discussions of our lives doesn't fit into feminist theory, than its the theory that should change - not the actual human beings who are speaking up about our experiences.

Feminism, like any other social theory, has always been flawed in some ways, and has historically excluded many oppressed groups. Until eventually members of those groups spoke up, made their voices heard, and didn't stop until those frameworks changed to be inclusive of their experiences.

We are no exception. No matter how uncomfortable it makes you, we are here to challenge people's assumptions about gender-based oppression. We have read the theory people keep citing and we are criticizing it because it leaves us out of the conversation. Telling us over and over that our experiences don't fit those frameworks will not silence us. If our voices don't fit into your understanding of feminism, its time for your understanding to change!

[louiskechi]

Honestly super cool to see another p5 related blog speak on transandrophobia. Hope the weird fucks stay out of your inbox!

they will keep coming but that’s why i devote my hot takes to an alt account haha. thank you though, glad this account is able to bring people comfort/joy

[louiskechi]

saw a post yesterday that said “the reason women say yes all men is because in firearm safety they tell you to always treat a gun like it’s loaded.” and it pissed me off.

in case you need the difference spelled out to you, men are human people and guns are weapons DESIGNED TO KILL.

this is the same logic conservatives use to justify the inhumane border patrol practices. do better.

[septmilleneurones]

Oh, is it dehumanising when people use metaphors that compare your entire social class to an object? You must be really angry about Christian rhetoric about virginity, then. And victim-blaming rhetoric about rape.

[louiskechi]

yea. correct. i am upset about those things too.

[louiskechi]

to the (most likely) singular person flooding my inbox i’m so sorry but i do not reciprocate your feelings and i am in a relationship

[louiskechi]

your views on proshipping clearly indicate you're a reactionary. shut up and get off the internet, only freaks should be allowed to use it.

lmao bait

[louiskechi]

entirely unsurprising that trans women don't trust you when you act like this.

trans women do trust me actually. maybe not the ones you hang around but like. it wouldn’t make sense to trust a stranger now would it?

shoutout to my transfem partner who trusts me so so so much

[louiskechi]

now that im done sifting through the garbage in my inbox, i would like to say it was all worth dealing with for the people who resonated with what i said.

i think the outrage about that post can very easily be summed up by this image