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my partnoir is @t4teaset <3 posts for them are logged under #partnoir tag, but anyone can reblog.

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Marie-Helene Bertino

#reblog #poetry tag #aes tag #photo tag #partnoir tag

hey all! update.

i’ve been MIA for a while! just going thru my own stuff.

i hope to revamp this blog and get it back up n nice again. im considering opening another t4t server in the future, but that’s not certain! thanks if u stuck around, enjoyed my posts, participated in the server, etc. etc. hope y’all are well.

#my posts #devil speak

anon ask power is one hell of a drug huh

#asks #inbox #anon asks #devilt4t

Imagine thinking lesbian is a slur but queer isn't, the brainrot.

i wasn’t going to grace you with a reply, but this is ridiculous. Top Tens (tm) compilation of me acknowledging queer is a slur:

image ID: [a screenshot that says “anon -- queer can be thrown at anyone as a slur, it is not limited to” the text ends there.]

image ID: [a screenshot that says “remains a wide encompassing term. you're a fool if you reply to people's posts about how queer is not a bad word with "but it's been used as a slur." yes, that is the whole point. gay is a slur, lesbian is a slur, just as much as fag and d/ke, literally everything is a slur that LGBTQIA+ people took back. that is like, the entire point of the” the text ends there.]

the point isn’t that queer isn’t a slur -- it’s that the violent spreading of “don’t say that”/”queer is a slur” in retaliation to queer people using it IS terf rhetoric. know what you’re talking about.

i hope you feel silly as fuck. don’t start infighting for literally no reason, then randomly come for people’s throats if you can’t be bothered to know basic lgbtqia+/and queer history first. also when you can’t be bothered to read the post(s) you’re critiquing.

felt like i was being rude, but this kind of thing is absurd, and i shouldn’t have to politely tell you not to rip away my and others’ identities, especially when you have put such little time into the topic. you should feel ridiculous (especially telling me i’m brainrotted. interesting)

image ID: [the screenshot says “to post. gay and lesbian are words that were used primarily as slurs and insults, LGBTQ+ people literally reclaimed them. im begging younger LGBTQ+ people to pick up a book or get educated before just jumping on people about literally anything for the sake of discourse alone” the text ends here.]

#asks #anon asks #devilt4t

.... babe.... someone needs to get these anons some critical thinking braincells huh

IT'S funny but like... also a painful reminder some ppl honestly walk in with the mindset of infighting first and education second. and/or they're being brainwashed by terfs. and while terfs' existence and weaselly tactics are not entirely their fault.... please im begging you. it's actually very easy and not time consuming to pick up some basic info about your own community

younger queers (not that im entirely excluded, im 17) are esp vulnerable bc they are newer to things. take your time to know your history. it's important. at least before you start trying to mess with people and discoursing in randos inboxes. ESP if ur gonna try to make claims like im... a lesbophobe or transmisognistic. u will get c/lowned

#asks #anon asks #devilt4t

"lesbian is a slur" okay lesbophobe

i know this is bait but it's just too funny not to post. gay and lesbian are/were words that used as slurs and insults, LGBTQ+ people literally reclaim terms/ have terms used as slurs constantly. im begging younger lgbtq+ people to pick up a book or get educated before just jumping on people about literally anything for the sake of discourse alone

#asks #anon asks #devilt4t #y'all... embarrassing

Why is clowncore banned???

clowns have racist imagery and as a BPOC i don’t want to deal with trying to explain to every non-black clowncore person how clowns shouldn’t be celebrated. especially to have my emotional labor ignored, bc in my experience, clowncore people i’ve interacted with will do absolutely anything to defend clowns and discredit BPOC who bring this up

#asks #anon asks #devilt4t

there are literally trans women who are uncomfortable with the word queer, who have had it used against them as a slur... do not equate them with terfs, that is deeply transmisogynistic.

anon -- queer can be thrown at anyone as a slur, it is not limited to transfemmes & trans women, and it never has been. also, where did anyone, including myself, equate discomfort with bigotry and being a terf?

the fact that you are just throwing in trans women & femmes and their oppression as a talking point to make you feel correct is bad on its own.

nowhere have i, nor anyone on that post said anything that implies discomfort with using terms for yourself makes you a bigot. the fact that you came into my asks to inform me it has been used as a slur makes you the *exact* target audience the post is talkibg about.

the entire point is about what you are enforcing -- finding any reason to get people to drop "queer". even if that's not what you want to say you are doing -- interrupting and derailing, intentionally trying to find something wrong with people liking "queer". queer has been and remains a wide encompassing term. you're a fool if you reply to people's posts about how queer is not a bad word with "but it's been used as a slur." yes, that is the whole point. gay is a slur, lesbian is a slur, just as much as fag and d/ke, literally everything we have is/was used a slur, whether from day one or after. we reclaim and take power back. that is like, the entire point of the community. you are sipping terf rhetoric juice if you find something particularly wrong with people using "queer" but everything else is fine.

i sincerely hope you learn better. i don't use some words for myself, but i don't attempt to rip them from people and communities like they shouldn't get to use them.

terfs are gross and it frustrates me they try to get into people's heads. they don't want us to have inclusive terms that encompass everyone, like queer, because it means they don't get to show their bigoted selves in LGBT spaces. they don't get to be -phobic because their adamant rejection of inclusive terms makes it obvious there are people they don't want to include.

#asks #anon asks #queer #queer is not a slur #devilt4t

nightcalicos

Actually the MOST cottagecore thing is fighting for indigenous sovereignty and then working communally on the land to support each other as well as the environment while not upholding colonial ideologies

Edit, since this post has been getting a lot of attention: this wasn’t a very thoroughly thought-out post, so I thought I’d clear up my case.

This wasn’t really about cottagecore, but a refusal of it. Cottagecore is inherently damaging, colonial, and capitalistic. The land isn’t something to be owned, purchased, or sold— especially when the land was stolen in the first place.

I am advocate for indigenous sovereignty on turtle island— how the land is used is up to the original stewards. This means a complete reform of “Canada” and “America”.

Better than your ~aesthetic homestead~ ideal (which in itself is flawed— farming is HARD) is building communities, listening to indigenous folks, and treating the land with respect.

#reblog #srs #cottagecore #anti cottagecore

lesbianpeachs

Like, people who identify as Queer know the word is used like a slur. Trust me, we know.

So when we say “queer is a slur” was started by terfs, maybe use some critical thinking and try to understand what we mean. That is, if you actually care about queer people and the damage terfs do, rather that just screaming “queer is a slur!” and ignoring the actual point.

Terfs did not like that queer was reclaimed. End of. This is a fact. Queer was too broad, too accepting, and embraced all the people they wanted gone. And I know y'all exclusionists feel the same but get pissed when we point it out so you deny it, but sit down and listen for a minute.

Queer was the preferred term for poc. For bisexuals. For trans people. For people with multiple identities. It neatly encapsulated everything, and was a friendly community to those who felt thrown under the bus by mainstream LGBT activism. It was a political and social statement, “you treated my like I was different and weird, and guess what? I am and that’s something to be proud of.”

So the response? “You can’t use that word. Its bad. Its a slur.”

And at the time, a lot of people rolled their eyes. Everyone knew why they didn’t like the word and brushed that off. It was fine.

So they started more subtly. “Just so you know this word is very harmful and is a slur so be careful how you use it :))) in case you didn’t know :)))) its a slur :))) friendly reminder :))) for the sake of other people of course :))))” type shit on every post involving the word, including and especially posts simply mentioning self identification.

Always worded in friendly, concerned ways, like the derailment was meant to be nice and considerate, and not about normalizing their rhetoric.

And what happened because of that was a younger generation of community kids growing up with these statements being thrown at them and absorbed on every. Single. Post. That. Mentionioned. Queer.

The result? That same generation of kids cutting it all short, removing the meant-to-be-palatable niceness, to just say “queer is a slur.”

Exactly how it was originally intended. “Queer is a slur.” People drop on posts where young queer people talk about it being a self identifier that actually fits them. “Its a slur,” they comment, with nothing else, on posts they clearly didn’t read past that word, written by people twice their age who had reclaimed it before they were even born.

Its nasty. Its disgusting. It’s plain old bigotry, whether the people saying know it or not. It is a terf tactic, plain and simple.

And no one wants to deny that it is indeed used as a slur (right along with all the rest of our identities.) No one wants to be insensitive and force it on people who haven’t reclaimed it.

But invading queer people’s posts to spit “queer is a slur” is flat out queerphobic. You do the dirty work of terfs, of cis straight oppressors, by saying in one simple sentence: “its a dirty word, there is no pride in it, you haven’t/can’t reclaim(ed) it.”

And regardless of your actual intentions, when you do this, that is EXACTLY what you are communicating and doing.

“Queer is a slur” is a terf movement. Stop fucking supporting terfs just because you want to pretend like it isn’t.

oodlenoodleroodle

This is why I block people who say ‘Queer is a slur.’

You quack like a terf, I block you like a terf.

aristoteliancomplacency

This thing was so weird to me when I first encountered it on tumblr, because like… in academia

queer studies

is a thing. Queer Theory is a thing. If I search my Uni’s library for ‘queer’ I get 138,481 results. Here are some of them:

Queer in Europe : contemporary case studies / edited by Lisa Downing and Robert Gillett.

Queer Phenomenology, Sexual Orientation, and Health Care Spaces: Learning From the Narratives of Queer Women and Nurses in Primary Health Care, / Cressida Heyes, Megan Dean, Lisa Goldberg.

Playing With Time: Gay Intergenerational Performance Work and the Productive Possibilities of Queer Temporalities / Stephen Farrier

Postcolonial and queer theories : intersections and essays / edited by John C. Hawley.

Queer Dickens : erotics, families, masculinities / Holly Furneaux.

Showing Your Pride: A National Survey of Queer Student Centres in Canadian Colleges and Universities / John Ecker, Jennifer Rae, Amandeep Bassi

Mad for Foucault : rethinking the foundations of queer theory / Lynne Huffer.

Do those look like queerphobic texts? And do you think that most of the writers writing about queer theory are straight? Lols. If you don’t want to be personally be called queer, that’s cool. You don’t get to stop other people using the word though. It’s ours now and we’re keeping it.

akamine-chan

Did I reblog this already? If I did, doesn’t hurt to blog it again. I usually unfollow people who use the tag (or the equilivant) q-slur. Because fuck you, I’m queer. Have been since like 1986.

#reblog #ppl need to read. this.

felinne-deactivated20240413

are you the person that kills the spider, makes someone else kill the spider, or catches and releases the spider outside

lovebeyonddeath

@t4teaset I DIDN’T MEAN TO! AND IT WAS ONLY TWICE!

#reblog #devilt4t #partnoir tag

sapphic-angelic

Let’s build a life together. We can have a little apartment and I’ll wake up every morning and give you a kiss before I go to work and a kiss before you fall asleep in my arms every night. We can go shopping together and cook together and eat together and do everything together. We can binge tv shows and listen to music loudly and dance together all the time. And you’ll always be right beside me and I’ll be beside you too.

#partnoir tag #reblog #queue