early loves, a primer đ
âIn that book which is my memory,
On the first page of the chapter that is the day when I first met you,
Appear the words, âHere begins a new lifeâ.â
â Dante Alighieri, La Vita Nouva
âWhen I first met you, thatâs what I remember. I looked up at the sky and thought, Iâm going to love this person because even the sky looks different.â
â Margaret Stohl, Beautiful Chaos
âWe talked as if we had parted only the day before, as if we had known each other for many years.â
â Mikhail Bulgakov, The Master and Margarita
â The Beatles, âI Wanna Hold Your Handâ
âJust by existing and by letting me speak to you, you give me an immense amount. You are infinitely rich where I am concerned; entirely clear and captivating. I love you extremely and how it eases my heart to be able to say so.â
â Iris Murdoch, in a letter to Michael Oakeshott
âI feel met by you, he says afterwards. Itâs weird.
(Thatâs exactly what it feels like. I felt met by him the first time I saw him. I felt met by him all the times we werenât even able to meet each otherâs eyes.)âÂ
â Ali Smith, Girl Meets Boy: The Myth of Iphis)
âHow can I explain to you, my happiness, my golden, wonderful happiness, how much I am all yoursâwith all my memories, poems, outbursts, inner whirlwinds? Or explain that I cannot write a word without hearing how you will pronounce itâand canât recall a single trifle Iâve lived through without regretâso sharp!âthat we havenât lived through it togetherâwhether itâs the most, the most personal, intransmissableâor only some sunset or other at the bend of a roadâyou see what I mean, my happiness?â
â Vladimir Nabokov, letter to his wife VĂ©ra
â Benjamine Alire Saenz, Aristotle and dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe
âI cannot write about Damascus, without the jasmine climbing on my fingers. /Â I cannot say Her name, without my mouth getting overcrowded with apricot juice, blackberries and quince.â
â Nizar Qabbani, A Green Lantern on Damascusâ Door
âI had forgotten how much light there is in the world, till you gave it back to me.â
â Ursula K. Le Guin, A Wizard of Earthsea
âYes, I need you, my fairy-tale. Because you are the only person I can talk with about the shade of a cloud, about the song of a thoughtâand about how, when I went out to work today and looked a tall sunflower in the face, it smiled at me with all of its seeds.â
â Vladimir Nabokov, letter to his wife VĂ©raÂ
â Lorde, â400 Luxâ
âYou know, when I start telling you something by saying, âI was thinking about what you said about ⊠,â it always gives me pleasure to say that, to let you know that I was brooding on your words. And I think the pleasure is ⊠well, I know how much I love it when you say âI was thinking about what you said about âŠâ Itâs somehow as though the part of you thatâs in me will be able to nourish the part of me thatâs in you, or-something-I donât know how to put it. But that thereâs some circuit of reciprocity between these holding relations: your ability to hold me inside you, and mine to hold you inside me.â
â Eve Sedgwick, A Dialogue on Love
âThere wasnât anything mean about him. I donât understand how you could live in a mean world and not have any of that meanness rub off on you. How could a guy live without some meanness?â
â Benjamine Alire Saenz, Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe
â Ali Smith, Girl Meets Boy: The Myth of Iphis
âDo you remember a night when I came along the dark passage to your room in a thunderstorm and we lay talking about whether we were afraid of death or not? That is the sort of occasion on which the things I want to say to you,âand to you only,âget said.â
â Virginia Woolf, in a letter to Vita Sackville-West
âSome people reflect light, some deflect it, you by some miracle, seem to collect it.â
â Mark Z. Danielewski, House of Leaves
âI saw her smile so close to my eyes that there was nothing but to see but the smile, and the thought came into my head that Iâd never been inside a smile before, whoâd have thought being inside a smile would be so ancient and so modern both at once?â
â Ali Smith, Girl Meets Boy: The Myth of Iphis
â Laura Marris, âTell Me Gentlyâ
âThe thing is, Iphis and Ianthe  had actually, for real, very really, fallen in love.
Did their hearts hurt? I said. Did they feel like they were underwater all the time? Did they feel scoured by light? Did they wander about not knowing what to do with themselves?
Yes, Robin said. All of that. And more.â
â Ali Smith, Girl Meets Boy: The Myth of Iphis
âYou are all the colours in one, at full brightness.â
â Jennifer Niven, All the Bright Places
âArwen: Do you remember when we first met?
Aragorn: I thought I had wandered into a dream.â
â Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of the Ring
â Labi Siffre, âBless the Telephoneâ
âThis hour I tell things in confidence, / I might not tell everybody, but I will tell you.â
â Walt Whitman, âSong of Myselfâ
âWhen I am with you, there is nowhere else Iâd rather be. And I am a person who always wants to be somewhere else.â
â David Levithan, How They Met, and Other Stories
â[Bridge:]
But weâre both a long way from home
We got the windows down, the radioâs on, always
[Verse 2:]
I wrote a letter to the sky saying maybe one day youâll get to kiss me, kiss me, kiss me.
My girl found it in the car and said baby why you trying to diss me, diss me, diss me?
Cause you know youâre my baby, you know youâre my baby, ooh
Iâm not just in it for the pride, in it for the ride, yeahâŠâ
â Frank Ocean, âAcura Integurlâ
â Cat Power, âSea of Loveâ