I get this question from Women every day. They want to know what their husband, lover, boyfriend, or partner really wants when he says he wants Her to be “in charge” of their relationship. It’s really very simple.
Women tend to read more into things than men do. That is, when a man says, “I want you to take charge of our relationship,” he means just that. He wants you to be in charge. It’s not just that he wants you to make the decisions, he wants attention. Sexual attention in particular.
There is no predetermined set of rules for taking control and making him happy. First of all, You have to realize just what it is that he wants. Does he want to be Your pet? Does he want You to “make” him do things? Or does he just want You to give him more attention in the bedroom?
The answer is simple. He wants You to tell him what to do and then make him do it. Oh, there are many things he will do simply because You asked. But there are things that he won’t tell You he wants simply because he wants You to “force” it upon him. If he were to tell You what he wants You to do, it would not be nearly as much fun doing it. I know this seems contradictory, but think of it this way… If You tell Your partner that You want him to buy You a dozen roses, and he runs right to the flower shop and makes the purchase, was it as nice as it would have been if the idea were his? Of course not. Well, this is the same thing. He can’t tell You what to do, he can only drop hints and hope You take the bait.
A man wants to do things for You. He wants You to make him do those things. He will do anything with the right incentive. He will happily do simple chores without complaint, if he thinks he will get some sort of sexual reward for it. Making him do those chores while naked, can be all the reward he needs. You want him to do something not so much fun, the incentive will have to be changed. Promise to tease his cock that night in bed and he will do the grocery shopping. You say he refuses to clean out the garage? Then get out your hair brush or a paddle and make him realize that You mean what You say. If he still won’t clean the garage, then You were too gentle. Give him a paddling he won’t want repeated.
All You have to do to make Your submissive man happy is give him the right (usually sexual) incentive and he will do anything. Want him to suck the neighbor’s cock? “Force” him to and he will love You for it. It’s not really what You make him do that is so exciting to him, it’s that You care enough to make him do it and You turned it into something sexual in the process.
If You will simply remember that he will do anything You ask (or demand) if You simply give him the right incentive, You can’t go wrong. The only thing that You need to learn is what works with Your particular partner. So don’t be afraid to experiment a little. How else are You going to find out what he won’t tell You?