Quiet Please!
Being an introvert can be an angst driven existence. Preferring deep conversation over water cooler talk about the local sports team can quickly set you apart from the crowd...and not necessarily in a good way. And that's only one example of how introverts can feel different from their extroverted peers. Generally speaking I have come to terms with who I am and I would tell any young introvert, "It gets better." But perhaps the biggest challenge with being a confirmed introvert is the nagging sense that somehow I don't seem to experience life like other people. I'm perfectly happy to work quietly in my office, while others can't wait to get to the smoke shack or the after hours get together. The book Quiet by Susan Cain has allowed me to finally stop apologizing for being an introvert. Its ok to have a few close friends over dozens of superficial ones. More importantly she gave me permission to stop feeling as though I was missing important social skills or an expansive social calendar that I imagined other people were enjoying. Ms. Cain points out that 1/3 to 1/2 of all people are introverts; most of whom feel pressured to conform to the cultural expectation she terms the "Extrovert Ideal". Ultimately Ms. Cain makes no apologies for introverts while at the same time offering no excuses for them to go out into the world, push their boundaries and pursue their life passion while remembering to take regular breaks to find and feed their inner places. This perhaps is a lesson all of us could use, regardless of our predilections.
Normally I write about supervision and teaching so the reader may be asking what Quiet has to do with these topics? Well, Ms. Cain peppered her book with facts which are useful in both arenas; here are just a few of them:
Open work plans actually reduce productivity, rather than build collaboration.
People produce superior ideas while alone rather than in a group. It is best to have people brain storm/stream alone, then bring their ideas to the group to be hashed out.
Groupwork is not the answer to all learning. It is imperative that lesson plans include solo learning/work which compliment the group activities.
Whether you are an introvert or not I recommend that you read "Quiet". "Introvert" is not a dirty word and being labeled one is not an insult. It just another way of pointing out that people process their worlds differently and that's fine as long as one process does not eclipse or dismiss the other.












