I think I’ve reached a point in my life where I have accepted that I am a certified adult and that I can handle shitty things on my own. Or feel like I can. Instead of freaking out and thinking I’m doomed.
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I think I’ve reached a point in my life where I have accepted that I am a certified adult and that I can handle shitty things on my own. Or feel like I can. Instead of freaking out and thinking I’m doomed.
Progress! XD
printzcharming replied to your post: Also, I wish people would just straight up tell me...
I’ve had this happen to me. It was hard bc while I recognized that I was in the wrong, I still ended up feeling annoyed and pissed that they couldn’t tell me in a straightforward, honest way without blowing up.
Yeah, I’ve acknowledged that I was at fault, but it bothers me that I perform all this emotional labor of listening and providing emotional support. But the second I mess up, I get this kind of treatment. The matter is over and done with; apologies were made, but I still feel like my feelings weren’t validated and I just had to apologize to keep the peace.
Also, I wish people would just straight up tell me if something I did bothers them. Instead of, you know, completely ignoring me and having me correctly assume you’re pissed at me so I have apologize first and then figure out what’s going on all the while being unable to concentrate on other important things. Or when people lash out at me because they’re not happy with what I did and I also again correctly assume it’s something that really bothers them but they have never addressed it with me so I’m left to yet again apologize first and figure it out.
Like just damn, how am I supposed to fix or change something I do if the only way people want to handle it is to give me the cold shoulder or hostility?
How hard is it to just tell me “Hey, when you did this, it bothered me”?
I think it’s fair that if someone constantly complains to me about something then I’m going to do my best to offer up a solution whether or not it’s wanted. Like, there’s a limit to how many times I should listen to someone complaining about the same thing when they can actually do something about it.
I get people need to rant and my advice/input isn’t always needed, but damn, my biggest pet peeve is when you waste time complaining instead of just fixing it. Especially if it’s within your power to do so, but you just don’t want to.
Thoughts on Switching Careers
I graduated from college back in May 2013 with a BA in sociology degree (aka worthless degree if you want a decent salary). Because I knew that my job prospects were going to be shit, I enrolled in my university’s technical writing certificate program. That move landed me a full-time paid co-op (like an internship) that lasted for 7 months before I got offered a permanent full-time job at the company. I stayed at that company as a technical writer for 3 years.
During those 3 years, I learned a LOT but not what I expected. Technical writing, at its core, is taking complicated information and distilling it in a way that’s most accessible to your designated audience. It’s not something you need to go to college for, but it sure helps if you graduate from a program that has a good network of alumni and job opportunities.
I’m a first generation college student and I’m also the first in my family to work a white collar job. It was/is a big deal.
Anyways, let me get back to what I learned that I didn’t in school:
Networking: It’s imperative that you meet as many people within your department and outside your department to establish those professional relationships. Why? That’s my next point.
Office Politics: You can’t avoid it and if you want your career to thrive, you have to learn how to navigate it. This determines so many aspects of your job. Whether or not you’re going to get cooperation from your colleagues to strategically being placed on the “good” projects vs the “bad” ones. Getting the insider tips or advice on how to impress certain managers so that you get noticed.
Perception is Reality: When you have hundreds of people working in cubicles, cliques form and gossip runs rampant. Not everyone is watching everyone else’s moves, but things do not go unnoticed. One prime example that I was warned about was when you came in for work and when you left.
Getting Buy-In: Again, this goes back to 1 & 2 but the ability to assess different people’s needs and frame your own needs to align is crucial. Everyone is busy; everyone has their own priorities. Being able to persuade people to go along with your ideas and then execute them to prove yourself is a skill.
Honestly, you can google a shit ton of stuff on the job. I’ve also learned people are pretty forgiving if you don’t know something, but follow up with how you could do something or say you’ll do research to figure it out. Essentially, how well can you solve a problem (that may not always have a clear cut answer) seemed to be what I *really* needed to know.
Anyways, so I started to realize that after 3 years of technical writing, I felt stuck. I didn’t feel like I was being challenged and I wasn’t happy with my manager’s management style. Back in September, I did a program that puts you through training to become a software development engineer in test (SDET/QA). I graduated beginning of February and now am in the contract phase.
The ultimate goal is that by August/September, I’ll be offered a permanent full-time position at the company I’m at. The work is definitely a lot more challenging and I’m learning so much. But the truth is, I don’t know if this is what I want to do for the next 10 years. Next 4-5 years, yes definitely.
I don’t know how this will work out. I took a significant pay cut to take advantage of this opportunity because I knew long-term, this is the right choice. I’ve gone through most of my savings and had to get a second job. My goal is that my salary doubles when I’m offered a permanent position.
I don’t regret leaving my old job which was comfortable and safe. It’s going to be a hard and exhausting few months, but I’m keeping my eyes on the prize and hoping the payoff will be worth it.
New blog, new me.
I’m going to eventually delete the other one as I finish following my mutuals. :)