Frequently Asked Questions
Q: What do you consider a "tankie"? I'm a communist, am I a "tankie"?
i dont have a problem with you if you just call yourself a communist, what i have a problem with is people who theme their blog around lenin, stalin, or mao, because those three are fascists.
i am russian-american and my family is from the soviet union. they have told me all about their experiences growing up in the ussr and it was all horrific. i dont take kindly to people who downplay the atrocities of the ussr, or the chinese communist party for that matter. theming your blog after those three is no different to someone theming their blog around donald trump, elon musk, or putin in my eyes.
i greatly dislike modern day communists using the ussr flag and the hammer & sickle as their symbols because they are both symbols made by fascists, but i wont block someone over this because i think most people dont fully realize just how harmful those symbols are to the people that were oppressed under them. however, i do urge you to reconsider using them.
Q: Why are you against people reclaiming the r slur?
my issue with people trying to “reclaim” the r slur is that theyre not actually reclaiming it. reclamation requires turning a word used against you into something positive. what people are actually doing when they “reclaim” the r slur is continuing to use it to degrade other people, which is not reclamation, it is continuing to use that word as a slur. it is contributing to the harm caused by that slur and i want nothing to do with you if i see you using it.
Q: What does mtm mean?
mtm is a term for transgender men who consider themselves transitioning from male to male, as they have always been male, just not in the way being male is traditionally defined as
i have always been male and will always be male regardless of whatever genital, hormonal, or chromosomal arrangements i was born with, and whether i choose to make changes to my body or not
ftm implies that someone was female at some point, then transitioned to male, which does not accurately describe how some trans men view their gender. its rooted in the concept of binary sex distinctions and assuming gender based on sex, which many trans people want to do away with entirely
it can be considered an agab-punk identity, agab-punk meaning someone who does not wish to disclose their agab for any reason, or simply doesn’t find the concept of agab to be important or relevant
it can also be used by intersex people who are close-to-male or ‘almost wolffian’ but aren’t actually wolffian (wolffian meaning someone who has a penis and testes, the capacity to produce sperm unless if sterile, and has testosterone as ones natural primary sex hormone) and who transitions to a male gender identity
these people can also choose to call themselves ctmtm (close-to-male to male)
Q: What does müllerian/wolffian mean?
müllerian is a descriptor for when people have this set of sex traits:
a vulva and vagina
a uterus and ovaries
the capacity for ovogenesis / the ability to give birth unless if sterile
having estrogen as ones primary sex hormone
generally having breasts as secondary sex traits
wolffian is a descriptor for when people have this set of sex traits:
a penis and testes
the capacity for spermatogenesis unless if sterile
having testosterone as ones primary sex hormone
intersex people that have a mix of müllerian and wolffian traits would be considered müllwolf or wolfmüll
Q: Can I use your pixel pride flags for my pronouns.page / pronouns.cc / pronouny.xyz / pluralkit / carrd / strawpage / rentry profile? Should I credit you?
yep, you can use my pixel flags for those! credit is appreciated though not required, just dont claim you made them and link to my itch.io if asked lol
Q: What is Shinigami Eyes?
shinigami eyes is a browser extension that was developed in order to tell trans and nonbinary people using it what websites/people are and arent safe. it was inspired by the anime death note where, in the series, shinigami eyes are a gift that shinigami are able to give to owners of the death note that grant them the ability to see peoples names and lifespans just by looking at their face, that way death note owners are able to kill people easier since they need a name and a face in order for the death note to work. in a similar way, the extension is supposed to give you all the information you need to know about a website/person by how theyre marked:
websites/people that are anti-trans would be marked in red and websites/people that are trans-friendly would be marked in green
that was how it was supposed to work anyway
Q: Are you aware that youre flagged as anti-trans on Shinigami Eyes?
yes, i am aware
shinigami eyes has become increasingly transphobic against trans men/mascs that speak out about our oppression, against trans women/fems that support us, against nonbinary people by not taking the pejorative 'theyfab' as a serious issue that targets nonbinary people, against intersex trans women/fems afab and intersex men/mascs amab by claiming their identities arent valid, and against trans and nonbinary people of color speaking out about racism in the queer community. it may have been useful at one point but there have been far too many people marked as "trans-friendly" who want trans men/mascs to be killed or get cancer or are comparing trans men/mascs to nazis/hitler that it has become useless and i encourage you to uninstall it and leave a review about how useless this extension is now.
Q: Do you know why theres been so much transandrophobia lately?
its not just lately, trans men/mascs have been trying for over a decade now to coin a term in order to describe the ways in which sexism and transphobia intersect that primarily target trans men/mascs but every time these terms have been shot down and nitpicked to hell and back
well recently an indigenous trans man coined the term transandrophobia to use in order to discuss our oppression and transandrophobes think that the term is inherently transmisogynistic so theyve ramped up the “jokes” about wanting trans men/mascs dead
since transandrophobia has gone so unchecked for so long in the queer community, trans men/mascs are digging our heels in with the term transandrophobia because we know that continuing to hop from one term to another to appease transandrophobes will result in no progress being made to address the actual issues that we're bringing up when we talk about societal transandrophobia
Q: What does tme/tma mean?
tma stands for transmisogyny applicable tme stand for transmisogyny exempt
the terms are intersexist and transmisogynistic because people keep defining tme to include every single person that was assigned female at birth even though intersex people have pointed out time and time again that gender assignment is an event that happens to you at birth and is not representative of a persons sex traits nor is it indicative of what gender a person was raised as or if that person experienced the puberty aligned with their assigned gender. people using tma/tme constantly categorize trans women/fems afab as "tme trans women/fems" and are openly hostile towards everyone they deem as "tme", especially trans men/mascs
even though tme is meant to include cis people, it is most often used to attack trans men/mascs without outright stating that they are attacking specifically trans men/mascs
you can see how tme/tma are actually being used here
Q: What are bæddels?
around 2012-2016, there was a group of trans women/fems that co-opted the intersexist slur which they believed had actually targeted trans women/fems and started calling themselves baeddels (even putting the word baeddel in their url or bio). they believed that the root of all bigotry was actually transmisogyny, much like how radical feminists believe that the root of all bigotry is actually misogyny. this group of trans women/fems repeatedly targeted and harassed trans men/mascs and also nonbinary people (mainly nonbinary people afab but the group also held general transmed beliefs and thought nonbinary people amab were just transfem eggs) on the assumption that they were not oppressed and actually benefited from the patriarchy in order to oppress trans women/fems.
the main perpetrators of this toxic rhetoric ended up living together and eventually it came out that one of them had raped another trans women at knifepoint. through a lot of gaslighting and manipulation, the rapist had convinced the other trans women/fems in the group to harass and shun the victim when, painting the victim as being transmisogynistic. eventually the group had learned what had actually happened to the victim and disbanded due to guilt.
do not trust anyone who self identifies as a baeddel because this is the shit they are defending when they attempt to "reclaim" it. and do not call anyone who doesnt self identify as one a baeddel because it is still am intersexist slur.
you can find evidence of everything that the baeddels said and did documented on this blog: https://www.tumblr.com/baeddel-txt
Q: Why do you think transmisogyny isn't real?
i do think its real. stop lying about me.
Q: What does cafab/camab mean?
it stands for coercively assigned [gender] at birth and those terms are used to refer to intersex people who were medically abused at birth and forcibly assigned their gender
they are intersex exclusive and people who are not intersex should not be using these terms to describe themselves
Q: What does radqueer mean?
radqueer stands for radical queer. theres a lot of things that fall under the label radqueer, like being inclusive of contradictory identities as well as non-traumagenic systems, but the main issue that everyone against radqueers is their acceptable of racist, intersexist, and ableist transids.
transid is shortened from trans identity, but radqueers dont use them for just gender. you might have heard of the term "transrace" (or "trace") before, someone who wishes to transition to be a different race or believes themselves to be a different race than what they actually are. people of color have largely denounced transrace, calling it racist. this is because transrace identities rely heavily on racist stereotypes of the races or ethnicities the transrace person claims to be a part of. one such example is oli london, who had stated that he wanted to get a penis reduction surgery because he identified as korean and the average penis size of koreans is 3.5". he has also gotten plastic surgery in order to look like the bts band member, jimin. this is all a very shallow and racist understanding of korean people and their culture.
another transid is transintersex, believing that one can transition to being intersex. this one is unfortunately a more widespread problem, not limited to just the radqueer community but to the rest of the queer community as a whole. many queer people are under the false assumption that intersex just means "having both a penis and vagina", when intersex is an umbrella term that covers many sexual, chromosomal, and hormonal variations. when someone says they "want to transition to being intersex", a fused labia is an intersex condition, as is a micropenis, and polycystic ovary syndrome, or just having different chromosomes like xxy/xyy/xxx/xxxy/etc. but a person who wants to "transition to being intersex" doesnt want any of that, nor the complications that come with these variations. its important to let these people know that theres better terms to describe what kind of genitals they would like to have as part of their transition, terms like bigenital, multigenital, angenital (not agenital because that one is an intersex variation), varsex, or maybe they simply want to present androgynously. these terms are a clearer way to communicate what you would like to achieve with your transition than the intersexist phrase that is "i want to transition to be intersex".
one thing i would like to add, however, is that intersex people have been reclaiming the term transintersex and redefining it to mean "someone that is trans in a way that feels connected to or influenced by being intersex". i personally reclaim transintersex and use it in this way because my transgender identity and intersex identity feel interconnected in a way that is impossible for me to untangle.
the final transid, transabled, is an umbrella term for people that wish to "transition to being disabled". there is an actual psychological term to describe a similar phenomenon to this called body integrity dysphoria that is often used to justify transabled identities. people with biid have spoken out about transabled identities. but i also urge people who might identify as transabled to see if they might have biid and possibly find resources because biid can be distressing.
beyond these theres also transharmful identities like transnazi, transstalker, transmurderer, etc. i feel like those speak for themselves. basically people who are against radqueers are against these main transids that are normalized in the radqueer community and want nothing to do with these bigoted identities and people.
