i understand that everything that gets said about parenting on this website is said by teenagers who are still resisting/growing out of their own parents’ authority over them, but omg, people say that middle-class white people are bad at parenting i can’t wait to see how your kids turn out if you think you’re gonna raise your kids by never yelling at them, and punishing them with ICE CREAM and we’re going to be so open with each other and they’re gonna love me so much they’ll never misbehave!! and anything else is child abuse!
You’re a fucking idiot
look, I’m native and was raised native by a native mother and native aunties and uncles and other native parental figures. our values are to raise our children with kindness, support, patience, and respect. that’s not mutually exclusive of “”discipline”” and enforcing boundaries and consequences. im really sick of #thediscourse that PoC (parents of color) are naturally abusive and that’s the best form of parenting.
(and if you don’t believe me, read leanne simpson)
the purpose of raising kids isn’t to control their behavior, it’s to show them that their actions have consequences and to teach trust and respect by demonstrating trust and respect.
fear might be an effective tool for keeping people in line, but that doesn’t mean it’s a good tool to use in raising children. I’m far more interested in developing his character and humanity than “keeping him in line” anyway.
