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♤ Soft Luxury Domme ♡ Fancy Footwork ◇ Pay 2 Play ♧ UK ○ Tribute £28.28 https://linktr.ee/madamerouge28

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We enjoy a little role play, don't we...... Instead of horses, I ride big fat piggies 🐷 all the way to the bank 🏦 💰 🤑

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Chastity - Lock & Key 🔐

This seems like the right time to discuss and get informed about chastity. 'Loctober' has been trending on social media, for more than one reason. Some may not know that this term originates from the sex industry, although there is a new vanilla definition referring to 'locking in' to ones goals in the last quarter of the year. Loctober in the sexual sense refers to Chastity and the use of chastity cages for male genitalia, belts for female genitalia. Both the cage and the belt can be locked with a key, hence the play on words with 'locking in' and if the person wearing the cage has an agreement or arrangement with someone to 'hold' that key, which hands over control, that person is called a key holder. Usually only one person wears a device while the other has control over the device. Commonly in a sub domme dynamic the submissive person practices chastity while the dominant person holds the key, thus controlling the subs freedom.

Chastity is associated with abstinence (restraining oneself from indulging) and is practiced by a plethora of individuals and couples alike in order to enhance their sex life and' or other areas of their life by focusing attention and energy elsewhere. In the world of BDSM is a form of orgasm control. The psychology behind this can be quite intimate as it involves trust, surrender and experience at least in terms of what one another need from this arrangement. This can range from occasional wear to pretty much permanent wear. Those who participate in this long term, with the use of a cage or belt are 'chastity lifestylers'.  

It has become increasingly popular for subs to pay online/ virtual dommes to hold a digital key (there is an app for this) or to send the physical key through the mail. If the domme does not physically possess the key then strict rules for the times that the restrictive cage is worn will be discussed and agreed upon. For example, the sub might be given the freedom to open the cage 2-3 times a day for 5-15 minutes for hygiene purposes. The domme may check-in with the sub, possibly taunt, tease or even humiliate the sub while they are locked-up either through text, voice/video call or in person. Some subs enjoy the presence of a domme actually physically handling them and placing them into the cage and locking it. The entire process from start to finish is one of commitment from both parties. Regular communication is important where in person meetings are not possible. 

While the chastity device is worn, that person is unable to masturbabte, experience oral sex or intercourse. It has been studied and there have been claims made that chastity can help break ones addiction to sex by forcing them to learn self control, some experience clarity, increased focus and higher productivity. As one's hormone levels decrease and stabilize over time these results increase. In an old edition of Men's Magazine there was an article that explored the appeal of chasity from men's point of view. Tom explained that he preferred a more submissive role and found the relinquishment of control to his wife a huge relief. For a lot of men gender norms can lead to a huge amount of pressure, this kink provides a safe way out so to speak. Christian stated that other erogenous zones such as his nipples had become more sensitive, leading him to explore arousal with his entire body, not just his penis, sex as a  result of chastity became a lot more interesting.  

Another trend fast approaches as we see 'No nut November' starting to appear.  Intimacy, vulnerability and trust all come into play with this kink. While some search for this sort of connection online as a domme it is important that limitations as well as needs are discussed openly and that flexible solutions are available. This can of course be fun but it isn't a game and aftercare is just as important as the act itself as we know that this affects the person locked up not only physically but also mentally and emotionally. 

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Hi I am new to the world of fin dom and stumbled across your page. You post a lot of great information, I was wondering what types of rules and boundaries you usually set with online subs? Like how do you go about the process of feeling one another out to see if you are a good fit?

Hey hun, this is where good communication skills come in, as a Domme you lead the conversation but remember they are people too. Some have a questionnaire subs can fill out but with experience and the right questions you can easily establish likes, dislikes, boundaries and the overall sense of what you both require from the connection. It's a cross between a direct job interview and a flirty first date type of vibe. You both know what you want as well as what you can and can't (or won't ) offer. Do as much research as you can, there are books written by successful Dommes, podcasts and even classes. A contract can be agreed to in order to make things clearer and easier.

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Interested in purchasing my worn stockings? Perhaps we can even add in a couple Polaroids of me wearing them 👀 ooooo la la let me know if you're interested 💋

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Green Light 💚

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Exploring the world of feet

A foot fetish is a sexual interest in feet, someone who is strongly drawn to and aroused by feet and possibly foot related objects such as socks, shoes, foot jewellery, etc. The technical term is podophilia. This particular preference can, of course, vary from person to person. Some people are turned on just by looking at feet while others may get sexual satisfaction in foot treatments, massaging and/ or worshipping feet. This is fast becoming a rather common mainstream kink. A recent study showed that feet are considered to be the most fetishized body part, other than genitals.

There are so many different theories behind why people have certain fetishes and how it affects them.  When we look at the brain and how it is mapped out, an area called the somatosensory cortex the part of our brain that processes touch, the part of the brain that controls or is activated by our genitils is actually next to the feet and toes then the legs in the same area of the brain which may give some explanation as to why this particular fetish is so popular. 

Similar to hands, our feet are covered with nerve endings, and nerve endings equal greater, often more intense, sensations. Tickling, rubbing, and massaging may all feel immensely better on feet. According to the urban dictionary, a foot fetish is "A sexual attraction to usually women's feet. The pedicured toes, smooth/soft soles and high arch on a woman's feet is sexually arousing." However, from experience, I can tell you that this isn't always the case, and just like with any other preference, everyone is different. While some may love to see well manicured , somewhat perfectly shaped and adorned feet others may get turned on by dirty feet, bare naked feet, even if you feel your feet have imperfections that could be what makes them unique and why someone likes them. It's always best to remain open-minded when it comes to fetishes as it is down to personal preference.

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Sugar & Spice & all things nice...... I'm only nice after you pay me

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Pretty from head to toe 😊

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Let’s talk Kinks & Fetishes.

Much like anything else, sexual preferences vary from one person to another, kinks and fetishes are no exception. So what’s the difference between a kink and a fetish? A kink is a sexual behaviour or practice that is considered to be somewhat unusual so to speak outside of standard/ vanilla sexual practices. It encompasses a wide range of desires that deviate from what is considered mainstream/ typical sexual expression. Such preferences can be physical, mental, or involve specific scenarios or even objects. Examples include role play and/or exhibitionism.

A fetish refers to a specific object, sexual or non-sexual body part, or behavior that must be present in order for one to become aroused and eventually get satisfaction. Someone who has a fetish, which can range from interacting with feet to wearing a specific item of clothing, such as latex may find it difficult or impossible to experience sexual enjoyment in the absence of said item.

By looking at my socials you can tell that I am often commissioned to create content and sell items in relation my feet. A foot fetish is also known as foot partialism or podophilia. Foot fetishists may become sexually aroused by toes, toe or foot shapes, toenails, ankles, foot-related jewelry, accessories like socks and hosiery, or even foot odour which is why selling worn tights or stockings is quite lucrative for me. This desire can come from various interactions, including receiving custom photos or videos to actually touching, smelling, kissing feet.

There can be some overlap between kinks and fetishes. Whatever it is that turns you on be sure to have clear, open, honest communication with your partner, domme or sub about desires. Though society may stigmatize certain kinks and fetishes, it is becoming more common place to discuss and express such things.

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Bathtime 🛀 ❤️

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Tippie toes & Tarot Cards on a Thursday

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Sub Vs Domme; Alien vs Predator......?

Lol, it's not that deep, or is it.......? Could it be as simple as a title definition, or is it perhaps more complex than that. Let's explore this shall we. So a sub (abbreviation of submissive) is someone who rather enjoys releasing control while adopting a passive, obedient role in a connection, while a domme (a dominant or dominatrix) is the person that takes control, makes decisions and guides the interactions. It is not set in stone with every session that each will stick to their 'roles' unless stated otherwise in their agreement as sometimes people switch and like to play the exchange of power. If you think about how we are as individuals in our day to day lives we often 'switch' from submissive to dominant and back again depending of who we interact with, for example the CEO of a company after a long day of being in a dominant role may wish to lay down their responsibilities, turn their brain off and switch to a submissive role when they get home, this may play out in the bedroom with an online or in person domme.

A non judgemental partner who understands and respects the needs of the other is the perfect foundation for a safe, consensual exchange of power. There must be trust otherwise it will be almost impossible for both parties involved to have a truly satisfying outcome with each interaction. It takes a lot of self control to be submissive and mentally switch off and trust the other person. This is why a good Domme understands the need for structure and the importance of guidance that not only nurtures but protects a sub's mental, emotional and physical wellbeing. Any information exchanged should be kept private no matter how long or short time periods are in between appointments/ interactions. Everyone has different needs at different times and we all have lives, shit happens, things change and it's wise to remain open, be patient and flexible.

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There's just something so classy and iconic about film or photography in black and white

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Pay the tribute then what?

So what happens after one pays the tribute (which is a minimum suggested amount in order to gauge the attention of the Domme) well, one can message the Domme with proof that they were the ones who sent x amount on a certain date at a certain time then wait for a response. The Domme is in control and will decide whether or not to engage. They could be busy or not consider you to be their 'type' of sub depending on what they can see from your socials. If the Domme does reply it will be short and to the point, this is the time for an open, honest exchange about what the both the sub and domme needs from this connection and what each are comfortable with in order for this to workout. They may find that they are not compatible. The best contracts/ connections can develop over years so it's always best to think long term and ensure neither person is wasting time.

Should you both decide to proceed you will need to discuss preferences, expectations, schedules, boundaries, safe words and so on. It is sensible to have an agreement/ contract that outlines such details and that both parties agree to. This can always be reviewed and adjusted as the relationship develops. When executed correctly, both can find such practices not only satisfying but also healing; therapeutic, even as a safe space for self-expression, giving and receiving as well as understanding has been created.

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Red is my favourite colour, thought I'd try nude and french nails this time......I'm not sure I like them 🤔

Do you like my nails?

Yeah

Nah

Voting ended onJul 28, 2025

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Money Talks

While many good Dommes love what we do, it is still work and nobody wants to work for free. There seems to be a pattern emerging of subs, males in particular, trying to get the attention, time and even services of a Domme for free. The means of exchange is all in the title 'Findom' financial dominatrix. A good Domme covers and is well versed in the emotional labour, structure, care, guidance and space needed for a subs safety, submission and satisfaction. There has to be a fair exchange, in this case money for the service. In the world of consensual adults, If someone hasn't taken the time to invest in another, in a romantic relationship setting in order to have a foundation on which they can discuss and introduce kinks into said relationship then one has to pay a Domme with experience and understanding in order to provide that shortcut. As with any set of skills, let's take for example a therapist, they provide a service in their own way (because they are individuals with their own personalities with varying levels of skill and experience) and it is socially acceptable to pay them upfront. A Domme holds space for and caters to a subs needs from the first interaction, therefore, in order to enter into that space and have access a sub must pay what is commonly known as a tribute. This will open the doors to clear, honest, communication forming a respectful partnership that is fulfilling for both parties. If a Domme and Sub are compatible and agree to explore certain interests and understand one another's boundaries this is the perfect foundation for a long term online relationship. Money is the only way to show that one is serious about being a Sub, it’s the only way to get a Dommes attention and be respected. If a sub cannot afford tributes and regular payments then Findom is not for them, they are better off figuring out what else they bring to the table and offering those alternatives to someone else in an attempt to build and invest in a relationship where they can hopefully, maybe one day get to explore their kinks with another consenting adult.

In the online world of Findom, money is the key to unlocking the doors to fulfilling your desires.