🗿do not enable toxic behaviors🗿
i followed a blog under a case of mistaken identity and i got concerned by the amount of enabling that occurred in that blog. yandere venting is fine, acceptable and encouraged even, but amount of troubling asks and bad advices being received and being enabled to continue those unhealthy behaviors are rather worrisome.
as wonderful as yandere writing may be, both to write and to read, i do not believe that irl “yandere” behavior is okay. it is NOT healthy, period. yandere should stay in fictions.
it is NOT okay to get upset over your partner’s perceived slights.
it is NOT okay to threaten, coerce, and guilt your partner into staying with you.
it is NOT okay to humor and enable the asker to continue their unhealthy behaviors toward their partner.
it is NOT okay to emotionally, mentally, and physically abuse. period.
please, please, communicate with your partner. sit them down and talk. leave when you start feeling irrationally angry and take a deep breath, count backward from 10 to 1. rise and repeat as needed.
getting angry oftentimes solve nothing and the so-called yandere-ness over your partner will only escalate the issues.
as for those who receive those asks asking for advice, be supportive, do not enable those toxic behaviors, and encourage them to seek therapy if serious. be a friend everyone needed, but also know your limits and step away to breathe and put yourself first.
separate yandere from reality.
🗿do not enable toxic behaviors🗿