We will have a few about my mom and wedding
I am coming up to my one year anniversary. I got married in Vegas in a place I hated because I truly cannot stand that city. We wanted to get married outdoors at a campsite I used to go to when I was a venture scout. Or we wanted to be on the beach where I used to go as a child. My mom was livid that the first thing on my mind was just eloping and going to church a year later, feeling that I may have just earned our celebration. So to make her happy we were getting everything set up. I had my childhood priest ready to go, an entire camp and industrial mess hall as well as a guy who made tacos (my husband's favorite food) available and ready and all half paid for. The first thing that crossed her mind was the dress. I needed a huge dress (IDK why because I don't feel like I want to look like a giant comforter) So I got a simple dress and then an over-skirt. Not enough, it was too plain. I honestly didn't like my dress at all because everything was so rushed I made the decision the way I had to. The dress was beautiful but none of it was what I wanted, then during the time of actually planning she made sure to get the napkins she wanted the decor she liked and then we fought tooth and nail on the flowers, she hated them. But my ENTIRE budget was blown on flowers, it broke my heart because I didn't like them either. Looking back I realize I made a lot of ugly decisions to feel in control somewhere and I didnt like most of it. Again, my soul just hurts; it was the only day I could get my brother and sister in law and all of my nieces in one spot. I missed them so much. But finding out that my brother would have gone anywhere to be at our wedding made me hate my day so much more because my mom fed me lies saying he wouldn't ever show up to a camp because he hated scouts so much. She also told me that my sister in law absolutely cannot stand me for no reason. She tried to have me and my husband become friends with people and men that would make a pass at me in front of my husband with no regard as to how wrong that is. Making me book rooms at a hotel that we couldn't afford if people didn't stay in the hotel and then turning around and booking rooms in her timeshare.
But now that I know everything and I spoke to my husband about what happened and how much my mom lied, he and I almost annulled our marriage just to go back to how things were and start fresh, The way we wanted to do it, even get proposed to. We will not being doing that, but he said "let's redo our wedding pictures with the red wood trees" I am lucky to have him. And I know I will be posting these pictures and I look forward to and don't look forward to my mother's fits about it. I know he is excited about this too. Now everyone in my family keeps telling my mom not to ask me about the wedding only because I will tell her how I really feel. and I don't think she will forgive my opinions