To love, Happiness And hope🙏🏿

Breathe alright, Just breathe, it’s not that deep!.

[malwandengxekana]

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[malwandengxekana]

I never thought I would find myself back here again, but I suppose I am here now.

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I am going to take a deep breath and just remind you:

Writing is messy, even for the best authors. It's supposed to feel a little uncomfortable, exhilarating, freeing, natural, and terrifying.

It's supposed to inspire you and feel like a too-heavy backpack.

Sometimes, you're going to love being a writer and sometimes, you'll feel so disconnected, you'll wonder if you were ever a writer to begin with.

Give yourself room to make mistakes and hate your work and return to it with renewed confidence that yes, you will get 1% better next time.

It's what we're all going through. Let's speed up the growing process a little by accepting the entirety of it.

[thoughtkick]

“The worst distance between two people is misunderstanding.”

— Law of Attraction

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

10 Things that can Wreck your Life

1. Not living in the moment. Always wishing you were somewhere else, doing something different with other people.

2. Blaming your problems on your past. Although the past affects us, it need not define us. We can choose, decide and act – and take control of our lives. Don’t let the heartache from the past define who you become.

3. Running away from problems. It’s crazy just to bury your head in the sand and act like things are fine when you’re dealing with a mess. Face reality, take action, and work to turn life round.

4. Being ungrateful. Being thankful sets you free in your heart and mind. It inspires all that’s good - and, also, oils relationships. But an ungrateful person will wear others down. It destroys your spirit, so you feel sad and depressed.

5. Being angry and bitter. Refusing to forgive, and bearing grudges against others, will slowly poison your life and your personality. It’s much better to release them and to focus, instead, on living a happy and fulfilling life.

6. Letting your expectations rule your life. Life rarely goes smoothly and according to plan – and people disappoint us and let us down. Accepting this is normal takes some tension out of life.

7. Disrespecting yourself and others. Every single person deserves respect, and every single person is fighting their own battle. So focus on being kind, understanding and forgiving.

8. Neglecting important relationship. A relationship that’s built on unconditional love – where a person accepts us for who and what we are

– is truly a gift and is worth fighting for. Don’t take it for granted

– recognise that it’s a gift.

9. Loving people who are bad for us. Not every person will build into your life. Be aware of those who who’ll use you, or who want to bring you down, or who want to hurt you, or destroy your confidence.

10. Never taking risks. If you always play it safe, you’ll find you end up going nowhere. You must be ready to take risks - or you will miss so much in life.

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

Sometimes carrying on - just carrying on - is a superhuman achievement." - Albert Camus

[malwandengxekana]

I'm not afraid because she's not the one for me. I'm afraid because deep down in my heart, I know that she is the one. It's a daunting realization, to be sure.

But there's something about her that captivates me in a way that no one else has ever done. Her eyes, her smile, her voice - they all have a magnetic pull on me that I can't resist.

And yet, the thought of being vulnerable, of opening up my heart to her, terrifies me. What if she doesn't feel the same way? What if she rejects me? These are the questions that keep me up at night. But despite my fears, I can't deny the truth: I'm in love with her.

[malwandengxekana]

A clean workstation = productiveness and great ideas

[malwandengxekana]

We need never be ashamed of our lowest moments in life,as that’s when we learn a lot of things about our individual selves. From how to be in sync with our Intuition, to understanding our limitations and strengths, We get to instinctively experience our survival instincts pushing us towards being more creative. The understanding that “feeling sorry for ourselves never does anything to change the situation” becomes a motivating factor that fuels us to fight against all odds. So really we need never be ashamed of such phases in our lives, for they come and go but the lessons stay forever.

Malwande Ngxekana 2022

[malwandengxekana]

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[malwandengxekana]

In connection to your relationship with someone, someone whom you have recently took an interest of getting to know, Always train that little voice of yours to tread carefully and to tone down on entertaining wishful expectations .Failure to do so will cloud your judgment and make you miss out on the tinniest flaws that might be a true reflection of what their true character is and not what they portray themselves to be. So tread softly, and go easy on the expectations.

[malwandengxekana]

An opportunity does not go out of it’s way to find you, You rather owe it to yourself to constantly behave as though each day is that one breakthrough you have been repeatedly hoping for.

- Malwande Ngxekana

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[ohleaf]

🌼🌻study smarter🌻🌼

(here are some study tips straight from my psych notes)

1. interest: the brain prioritizes by meaning, value, and relevance so u remember things better if ur interested

find a study partner

do extra practice or research

teach it to someone else (this works so well!)

2. intent: be actively paying attention. very little learning actually takes place without attention

use a concentration check sheet (every time u get distracted, put a check on ur sheet. this is supposed to program ur mind to pay attention)

while u read, talk back to the author

ask questions during lectures (this is scary ik!! but do it!)

3. basic background: make connections to what u already know

preview and skim the material before u read it. or google it!

write out a list of vocab words before a lecture and leave some spaces between them to fill in during the lecture

read ahead of lectures

watch crashcourse tbh

4. selectivity: start by studying whats important

look for bolded words, graphics, pictures, chapter review questions in ur readings

listen for verbal clues like emphasis and repetition during lectures

make urself a study guide as u read and write down questions for urself to answer later as review (kinda like cornell notes)

5. meaningful organization: u can learn/rmr better if u group ideas into diff categories

apply vocab words to ur life

make flashcards and sort them (try not to have more than seven items in one category!)

use mnemonics

6. recitation: saying ideas aloud in ur own words strengthens synaptic connections! when u say something aloud u r forcing urself to pay attention

after u read, ask urself questions

talk abt what u learned w/ classmates outside of class

again, teach someone else

7. visualization: ur brain’s quickest and longest-lasting response is to images

convert info into a chart or graph

draw it out

make a mental video of a process

look at picture/video examples

8. association: memory is increased when facts are consciously associated w something u already know. memory = making neural connections

ask urself: is this something i already know?

9. consolidation: give ur brain some time to establish a neural pathway

make a list of what u remember from class

review notes at the end of the day, every day

stop after reading each prg to write a question in ur notes

make ur own practice quiz

10. distributed practice: we all know cramming doesnt work but we do it anyway! but yeah short and frequent study sections work better

make a daily/weekly study schedule

create a time budget/time tracker (track everything ur doing for a week and see how u can be more efficient w/ the time u waste)

divide the reading/vocab by the number of days before an exam and do a little bit each day (u can use sticky notes to divide ur reading)

other tips:

stop stressing! this sounds stupid and it isnt going to be easy, but anxiety causes u to lose focus. try ur best to think positively. sleep a lot. minimize ur caffeine intake. take a walk maybe

when u need to remember something, look upward or close ur eyes (when ur eyes are open ur using visual parts of ur brain that u might not need to be using)

find a rival! (like the person right above u in class rank) secretly compete w/ them (envy can improve mental persistence bc it makes u focus more intensely) but dont overdo it! 

walking and sleeping build memory storage in ur brain

eat flavonoids! (grapes, berries, tea leaves, cocoa beans make neurons in the brain more capable of forming new memories + increase blood flow to the brain)

obstacles force ur brain to try harder, so space learning lessons apart or create a puzzle to solve or change ur physical setting

[malwandengxekana]

I made a promise

To show affection even when I was no longer loved.

To be loyal regardless of the many times it was made clear that i am unwanted

To cherish where I had encountered a rejection.

To appreciate where I was taken for granted ..

Why ?? You may wonder to yourself?.. Why would a normal person put himself through so much pain..,

Well to be honest with you .. I am tired of fearing the unknown, I am tired of having to escape genuine love simply because I am scared that she might hurt me some day, a broken heart is inevitable when all your love has landed its self at the discretion of the other.

Even if I may sustain some bruises from this journey .. I would have given it my all.. For once I have allowed myself to be the one taking the bullet, and I am just glad I am no longer the one responsible for pulling the trigger..

Trunnected Digita

[malwandengxekana]

A broken promise is a forfeited affection

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“Love doesn’t always work out,” he says, “but there are good parts, really good parts before it ends and that’s what you look forward to when you fall in love again; not the moment it fell apart but when it all began.”

— Stories I’ll tell one day #108 – Ming D. Liu