Usually I'm always on the woman's side. I absolutely hate the term , "baby mama". It's technically used for a woman who gave birth to your child that you aren't dating. An ex girlfriend isn't a baby mama, your girlfriend isn't a baby mama, your fiance isn't a baby mama, and your wife definitely isn't a baby mama.
That being said, my brother in law does NOT have a baby mama. Some people call her that. He's called her a wife but they literally were never engaged. After one breakup she had him gift her a ring out of her breast milk that she wore on her left ring finger and then randomly he started wearing a mens rubber wedding band on his even though he swore they weren't engaged or married. They were dating, very soon into it had a baby, then they broke up officially after the baby turned 2.
Not to go into full details of things I've witnessed that are absolutely "wtf????? " On her end. My only 2 examples I shall give is 1: threatening my brother in law to never meet his daughter if he didn't call his parents with her on mute, not knowing she was on call for her to hear their genuine reaction to her being pregnant (he called us crying and our advice was to tell parents and lie about them not knowing so they could pretend to not know she was on the call when he told her) and 2: they broke up, she packed up her stuff and told him to find his own babysitter for the next day so he called us, HIS BROTHER, so that I could be the babysitter and she got pissed cuz she saw he left the house and got mad that he came to "my house". Even though it should have been his "brothers house". And lied and said the daughter was sick and going to the er. Got pissed at him for calling him out on lying then said she'd cancel her birthday party. He didn't come home. She cancelled it on Facebook and when he came back to his house she lied on Facebook and said she got hacked.
Now basically a year after, they officially broke up. She tried to get back together and he said no. At my son's 2nd birthday he spoke of their dog. She owns the dog. It's registered under her name so me and my mother in law said she should deal with it instead. The dog is in her name so she should take the dog or sell it herself and I pointed out how she only made 1 singular Facebook post about selling the dog.
Now me and mother in law are blocked for saying that she, as the dogs true owner, should have the dog and try to sell the dog herself cuz he can't take the dog to the pound since it's in her name and even chipped in her name š§š¼āāļøš§š¼āāļøš§š¼āāļøš§š¼āāļø
And like. I barely talk to my family cuz they've spent years disrespecting me and my husband and our friends and my husband's family. This woman literally has blocked our family EVEN the family who's property she lived on for purely saying no to giving her the family land. I understand toxic family but bruh. Just cuz you don't like what someone has to say doesn't mean they're toxic...
My daughter's 4th birthday is in a month. We didn't plan on a party for 4, but she wants to go to chuck e cheese for her birthday and it's been known for 3 months already. We're booking the date this week. If our niece isn't allowed to go to our daughters birthday party because we said "hey this dog is legally hers so she should handle rehoming" and my BIL decided to use our names and say that WE said it I'm gonna be SOOOO mad.
I get saving your piece and not speaking to or hanging out with people bad for your mental health but come on bro just cuz someone tells you no or says you're doing a shitty thing (like not calling or seeing your father when he's having open heart surgery??!!!???) doesn't make it toxic?? Just cuz you don't like something doesn't make it toxic jwksjssj and honestly as an adult and as a parent sometimes you're not gonna lie other adults. Not everyone are horrible. If the parent of your child's friend isn't horrible and you just don't vibe with them doesn't mean your child shouldn't be around their friend. Youre not gonna like everyone. Not everyone is gonna like you. But if your child is being treated good then why ban them from seeing your child???
Like oh no you and your sister in law disagree over how to treat a dog so you're not gonna allow your daughter to see her cousin??? (True story?)
I think way toi many people take the "protecting ones self" waaaay too far into being selfish with their kids.
I absolutely can't stand my brother in laws girlfriend did that ever stop us from letting our kids see their cousin??? No. Cuz I'm a mature adult who knows I won't always like everyone and not everyone will like me but my child's happiness and health comes first.
Mainly all this crap just to say that bruh if this woman doesn't allow her daughter to go to my daughters birthday next month, literally less than 4 weeks from now just because I said to my brother in law that she should handle getting rid of the dog that's in her name that he never wanted I'ma be piiiiissssedddddddd. That's not protecting your child. We've never done anything wrong to her. That's being selfish cuz you can't handle being told what to do ššš
My rant is over and year it's about a very special type of person and a rare type of person
