So there is someone on tumblr who is saying some stuff about me, I would like to address it. All of it.
So this mutual friend⦠(I wonāt name them)
Ok so Firstly, the thing when they asked me in my tumblr about the question ofĀ
āYou know this person is a minor, I thought your blog is 18+ā
I, at the time they asked me this in my asks, PMāD this friend if I should address it as I had no problem with doing so. However, the reason I didnāt was because they didnāt want me to respond to it as they had their reasons: They said: āI wasnāt interested in having any conflicts, and that I valued other people on tumblr having their own space away from mine.ā
But they have now gave me permission as this rando person on tumblr is starting to say wrong things about me and addressing me, so here we go I guess.
So, This friend/mutual of mine (Who is a minor) When I first met them I didnāt know their age. In Fact I think I found out not long before they came out on tumblr with their age. and when they did I had had a private discussion about our boundaries;
I have since told them to not engage with me at all on tumblr. I do not follow them. I do not reblog, like or even look at their posts anymore. And they do the same with me. As we have now come to a mutual private understanding and respect each otherās boundaries.
At the time of taking their commissions I didnāt know them well and I didnāt know theyāre age. They gave me money and I did what they wanted as I would do with any commissioner.
I am sorry I didnāt ask for theyāre age and they are sorry they didnāt tell me their age at the time.
They also wanted to add:Ā
āIāve definitely acknowledged that taking commissions from people who are over 18 is wrong, because back then (1-2 years ago when I WAS commissioning you) I didnāt know at the time that doing that was wrong. Since then Iām much more hyperaware of whatās right and wrong, and for OBVIOUS reasons stated above, this stuff wonāt ever continue until Iām 18.ā
Either way this issue has been resolved privately. And I will ask people to leave this alone now, as they do not like to feel shamed by it anymore.
TLDR We do not engage on tumblr anymore. Full stop.
We play DND on Sundays together and thats it.
He is Intersex. I may have used the word hermaphrodite in the past in the wrong context. For this I apologise. I know this is wrong the correct term is intersex. And I refer to him as such when I can.
And as a character he does prefer he/him pronouns.
I donāt know what conversation they are referring to in this context or what was deleted, but no-one messaged me about this, literally No-one had issues with the language, I just realised that the terms I was using were wrong.
Also in terms of a feminine transition. He wanted this body. This is the body he is most comfortable in, he wanted to be sexy and feminine as he feels this is his best self.
When talking to my trans friends about this, they helped and guided me through the feelings and the process people go through while transitioning and helped me figure out that if him as a character wanted this.
It was actually really lovely and sweet ^^ I enjoyed that conversation.
In terms of criticism. If you wanna critique my portrayal, give me ideas about the trans experience or otherwise, message me. I am very happy to listen.
Come into my dmās attacking assuming or demanding answers, and I will not respond. I reserve my right to do so and block you if necessary.
Ok so once I posted a writing piece on my ocās. Someone messaged me saying that I used similar languages and phrases to their work. I said to them that the phrases and the words must have leaked through into my writing as I have read a few fanfictions and some I honestlyā¦musta just copied.
I apologised for that (As I am not a writer CLEARLY omg I suck) and deleted the post as I thought it was the best thing I can do for the writer and honestly for myself as Iām a better artist than a writerā¦.likeā¦100% I donāt even deny it.
Im never gonna write again xD
I did apologiseā¦erā¦Idk if I deleted let me see. Yeah I canāt find itā¦So sorry I deleted it. But I am still genuinely ashamed of that moment.
There it is all the points addressed.
I hope things are cleared up and clearer to yaāll now. I know a couple things in here are more important than others, but I wanna go on the record saying I do not want to harm anyone with anything I do. I am here to have fun and post and have a good time. Not make people upset.
For the mistakes Iāve done I am sorry, I hope you can forgive me.
For the shit that was straight up lies.
For anyone out there who says in future Oh they deleted their post. Yes I WILL delete this post, as I donāt want drama on this blog unless itās shitty non issue complaints I have. If you happen to miss the post I have it saved in a google doc for later.Ā