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Here the text only: ........ Published on ADDitudeMag.com All the Feelings, All the Time ADHD seems to exacerbate and exaggerate everything — especially our senses. If you taste, smell, or hear in extremes, you're not alone. Here are common ADHD hypersensitivities — and expert recommendations for dialing them down. The Truth About Hypersensitivity How is it that other people brush off the little annoyances that drive us crazy — like bright lights, grating sounds, and scratchy clothing? Ever been told you’re "too sensitive" when you just can’t stand a dripping faucet for one more second? Don’t worry — it's totally normal. A lot of the time, hypersensitivity goes hand in hand with ADHD. Here's what your fellow ADHDers had to say about what bugs them the most! Tactile Sensitivities "Clothing tags are pure evil." – Denise Coles Padget "I used to have to take my jewelry off on bad days because it made me feel confined and it would be all I could think about." – Molly St.Cyr "My dental hygienist made fun of me today for having a sensitive mouth. She called me weird. I think I'll ask for a different lady." – Melinda Mims Buell "Can't stand lotion on the palms of my hands." – Emily Froelich Auditory Sensitivities "Repetitive sounds like ticking clocks, dripping taps. Ugh." – Tracy Tebow Davies "Loud noises without a doubt! My kids can scare me out of my skin if I'm not paying attention." – Lisa DeBree Tucker "People chewing with their freaking mouths open." – Ramon Magana Lemus "Eating utensils scraping plate..... makes my teeth want to crumble and fall out." – Lisa Taylor Olfactory Sensitivities "Perfume smells, especially flowery and berry smells!" – Carmen Patterson "Hate the smell of petrol." – Andrea Nicola Henderson "Perfume, spray deodorants, hairspray, diesel fume, petrol fume, natural gas fumes, body odor, bad breath." – Katrina Dowd "Scents... especially vanilla candles!" – Jodi Reinhart Visual Sensitivities "Flickering lights send me over the edge — make me feel nauseous, headaches." – Melissa Price "Halogen lights on emergency vehicles = instant migraine." – Tina Renea Bealmear-Brown "Leg wiggling!" – Zoe Sophia Sohns "Sunglasses are a must all year 'round." – Emily Froelich Claustrophobic Sensitivities "Crowded places and elevators with more than 4 people in them. Makes me want to break and run." – Jan Melton Davis "I cannot tell you how many times I have left the grocery store leaving the nearly full cart behind because I was overwhelmed by all the 'stuff' in the store." – Erin Foley-Machnik "People too close to my bubble." – Heather DeMaio Teles "Anyone touching my hair!" – Evelyn Plaksin How to Manage Sensitivities Sharon Heller, a developmental psychologist who specializes in sensory processing issues like hypersensitivity, says taking a holistic "whole body" healing approach can help us manage hypersensitivities. A good treatment plan, she says, includes regular exercise, calming practices like yoga or meditation, and proper nutrition. Address Each Sensitivity Alone “Each sensitivity, be it emotional or physical, must be addressed on its own merits,” says ADHD expert Zoe Kessler. This means treating the problem at the source. So, says Kessler, "if tags in your shirts drive you crazy, cut off the tags or buy tagless shirts!” Advocate for Yourself Don't be ashamed of or bashful about your sensitivities, says Kessler. “Ask for the radio and TV to be turned down in public areas — your wish may not be granted, but you can ask. Failing that, we can move to a different table or a quieter area. We can take a ‘timeout’ when feeling overstimulated at a public event” — without beating ourselves up for being 'too sensitive.'" Exploit the Positives You can take it even further, says Kessler, by making each hypersensitivity work in your favor. Emotionally sensitive? This likely means you’re extra intuitive and highly empathetic, and would be successful working with animals, children, or as a therapist. Sensitive to sounds? Someone with extra-intense hearing could become an excellent musician or recording engineer if trained to exploit this "superpower." When Is Therapy An Option? If your hypersensitivity is interfering with your ability to function in your daily life, consider cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). Heller agrees and says, "If you've been hypersensitive for a long time — and especially from infancy on — you may also experience anxiety and depression, which may require therapy."

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Nice... But doesn't work. The ONLY thing that works for me, is a natural substance found in many plants (as their defence against insects) like tomatoes or potatoes. It's a substance from the Vitamin-B family, close to B12, that helps regulate our appetite. In fact, our brain is predisposed and needs that substance in enough high quantities to feed our designed receptors, and help to deliver the mesage to our conscience: I'm good, no need for more food. What is that mysterious substance, you ask? Well... Something that has been demonized and wrongly accused to be 'worse than heroine', 'to provoke cancer', or even 'to kill'. All long proven wrong. Answer: nicotine. Now, think for a moment. How many people do you know of, that have to go to rehab because of being addicted to 'nicotin parches', or 'nicotin inhalators', or even 'nicotin chewing gum'? ...none?... (Yeah, none to find either in any rehab facility.) Those things have about TREE TIMES the amount of nicotine found in the average cigarette. No joke there. So, if from the 350 - 800 different additives explicitly and with full conscience added to the tobacco leaves, that with combustion they explode into a chemical New-Year's-Eve-Booze-Party-like reaction, and in the inhaled smoke you find about 4500 - 9000 different chemicals... (!!!) ...you sanely - really - think, that one lonely, very much healthy vitamin B member, is that badass?!? Nop. The only thing that it really does (and proven), is: -> regulation of our hunger-System in the brain. There are even studies being conducted right now about the benefits of nicotin to neuro-biological diseases like Alzheimer, Parkinson, and even so called 'psychological' ones, like Depression and Anxiety (very much neuro-biological as the first ones). And yes, we AD(H)S-Brain Users, benefit greatly from nicotine too. Just let me tell one more thing: -> since I vape (never been an active smoker, and never will I be, that's for sure), my binge eating urges, from witch I suffered ALL my life... are gone... (I'm still chewing on that, but happy as hell!). . I vape what I want, . how I want, . with or without nicotine, . have no withdraw whatsoever, . I have been MONTHS at a time without vaping, and was just as fine (try to do THAT to a long smoker, just for ONE day!)... So... Yeah. Myth debunked. Just vape the lowest nicotine juice from time to time, and your crazy cravings will be history (or at least manageable). Cheers!

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... Curious, I had it really hard this last few Weeks too... ... (I'm quite tired too of constantly failing...) (...well, even that couldn't stop me either 😻)

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Too many Docs think this way. Sadly, there are even too many, that just try this one of this group, then switch to another one in the second group, and then let you just for impossible. Some don't even care for your experience, if it doesn't match its expectations. Horrible. Where are the good ones?!?

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Rejection-Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) In reality, it is not so much a kind of Depression, but the reaction to feel too much too deep. NeuroTypical Brains don't feel this way because of their good working Breaks. They never had to 'learn' to have a 'thicker skin', they develop it naturally. If they had to live with OUR brakes... Oh boy, would they shut up those big mouths! Only if we KNOW why we react more strongly than the next one, we can begin to understand that 'try harder', 'just ignore them', or 'get a thicker skin' not only drains us empty, it poison us. Turn 'try harder' into: - 'getting informed about your particular way of thinking', - 'gather as much facts-based (neurology) information about ADHD', ...and most important (!!!), - search for tools to help YOU cope with everyday live, like... a. day planners with quick rewards systems, b. smartphone/book Agendas, c. TimeTimers... anything that works for YOU. Turn 'just ignore them' into: - 'change company', - 'plug loud music into your ears', - 'have fun with friends'. ...But get AWAY from 'them'! And turn 'get a thicker skin' into: - 'take the meds that help your brain function better', - 'talk to a good doc trained in neuroscience (if possible) and ADHD', - and 'engage in a project where your strengths are the key'. But this is for sure!: - it's NOT your fault to be BORN like this, - you don't WANT to 'overreact' - take all the help you need from TOOLS around you (or build your owns) - and help your brain develop its amazing potential!!! Because, yes, you have!!! Basically: help yourself YOUR way 😊 (Like I have too 😎)

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Nice! I really like this one ^.^

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The sad true? If you don't disturb in class or at home, then everything is OK... right? 'Just try harder' 'Don't be so lazy!' 'Do it!' 'Harden up!' 'Why do you never listen?!' 'Don't be so stupid!' 'Aren't you ashamed of yourself?!' 'You had all the time of the world!!!' 'You do it on purpose, do you?!' ... Yeah... Just try to survive my mind for a day, then tell me again why disruptive boys are treated, while we girls are just scoffed down for the rest of our LIFES!?!

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Extreme difficult to find one of the good ones. Damn bloody difficult!

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This is so beautifully true, that I had to put it in plain text too. ......... Published on ADDitudeMag.com "What Is Wrong With Me?" ADHD Truths I Wish I Knew As a Child I grew up feeling something was wrong with me — that I was lesser, or maybe broken. Now I know that what others misidentified as ‘wrong’ or ‘different’ was actually extraordinary — and that ADHD can be an incredible asset if appreciated. by June Silny ADHD After All These Years I heard my third grade teacher’s voice, but the flowers outside the window were calling my name louder, so I paid attention to them. She clapped her hands in front of my face and snapped, “Why aren’t you paying attention? Stop daydreaming.” I was paying attention, just not to the correct things, apparently. Embarrassed and ashamed, I wanted to run away and cry.   “ADD can cause feelings of shame, fear, and self-doubt,” says Edward Hallowell, M.D. As parents, we need to know this. We need to recognise when our kids are hurting under the strain of ridicule, challenges, and frustration. We need to remind ourselves to see the beauty, joy, and wisdom in our children. Here’s what I wish I would knew when I was a child with ADHD.  1. I wish I knew that I was smart. Deep down inside, I had a feeling that I was brighter than the other kids. But if I was so smart, why was I afraid to raise my hand when I knew the answer? Because I didn’t trust my instincts — they’d been wrong so many times. I didn’t tell anyone that I was fascinated by science; that I couldn’t wait to study bugs under the microscope. I thought they would laugh. It wasn’t until high school Literature class, when philosophical discussions sent a thrill up my spine and into my brain that I finally said, “Hey! This isn’t for dummies. And I love it.”  2. I wish I knew how to recognise my potential. The most discouraging comments of my youth came from teachers: “She’s got so much potential if only she worked harder; she could be on the honour roll.”   The teachers probably had the best intentions, but the results were negative. Where was this so-called potential? I tried so hard to find it. As a child and later as a parent, that phrase stabbed me in the heart like a dagger. I dreaded the pain and frustration of parent-teacher conferences. I guess no one knew how to find my children’s potential either. As I grew older and discovered subjects that I enjoyed (art, books, music, and science), I began to see that the catalyst for potential is not hard work; it’s passion.  3. I wish I knew that it’s okay to be different. It’s true; I didn’t think or act like the rest of the kids. Being different felt like I wasn’t good enough. I tried, but I couldn’t fit into the mold. Parents and teachers didn’t know how to deal with my unusual style of thinking and behaving. I wish I knew then about the myriad famous artists, composers, musicians, scientists, and actors who were chastised for being different, too. I would have loved someone to tell me that my differences put me in a special group of people who brighten and enlighten the world with music, stories, and masterpieces.  4. I wish I knew how to explain what was going on inside my head. As a child with ADHD, I often felt misunderstood. I’m sure that I looked lazy, lost, and confused to everyone else. While in my mind, I was analysing, examining, and exploring endless possibilities. I didn’t feel lazy at all. My mind was constantly in motion. Thoughts were racing through my brain at the speed of light, and I didn’t know how to shut them off. I wish I could have explained what was going on to someone who would understand. A child with ADHD can be frustrating for parents, but remember the child is probably frustrated as well if her outside appearance is completely opposite to what she feels inside her mind. 5. I wish I knew that my attention wasn’t a deficit. Parents, teachers, and friends thought I wasn’t paying attention. I was; it’s just that my attention was diverted — focused on something more exciting to me. My brain doesn’t like to be bored, so it pays attention to the most interesting things it can. It’s hard for me to listen to something that bores my brain. I could fight through it in school, but it was harder for me than it was for the other kids. Now I know that tasks are more difficult for me because my attention is diverted. But my diversions are where I discover wonder, magic, and beauty. 6. It’s okay to take a break when I’m overwhelmed. There were times when I felt that I needed to run and hide to be alone. If there was too much noise, too much commotion, or too many people, I needed time to find some calm amid the chaos. I found serenity in my books, crafts, and favorite movies. The ADHD mind is active and exhausting. It’s important to know when to release the pressure and take a break. I wish I knew then that “zoning in” — when people thought I was “checking out” — had serious benefits.  7. I wish I knew that one day I would love having ADHD. The ADHD mind sometimes feels like a curse, but it can also be a blessing. After several attempts in careers that did not fit my thought and behavior patterns, I worked at several jobs that did suit me perfectly. When I find something I love, I do a great job and give myself to it completely. The challenge is always about learning to adapt the work for my unique style. Once I do that, I can accomplish anything. The impossible becomes reality.   8. I wish I hadn’t been afraid of ADHD medication. Medication can be scary for a person with ADHD. Kids and adults imagine turning into zombies — or at least I know I did. Even if your thought system doesn’t work so well, it’s the only one you’ve ever known. Plus there is comfort in familiarity, especially if you have ADHD. When it came to medicating my children, I feared that meds would open the door to a drug abuse pattern, encouraging them to use drugs to alter their moods. Unfortunately, the opposite was true. If you don’t medicate them when they need it, they will medicate themselves with drugs and alcohol.  9. I wish I knew about ADHD coaching. As an ADHD child, I felt there was no one who really understood, who believed me, and could help me manage my busy mind. Therapists would provide clarity and understanding, but it wasn’t until I discovered ADHD coaching that I learned to implement the therapists’ recommendations. There is nothing as comforting as being guided by someone who has ADHD; someone who truly knows what it feels like inside your head, and can offer customized tools for daily success. 10. I wish I knew that I’d learn how to manage my ADHD in time. Daily struggles can be discouraging. It was hard to get through projects that didn’t work the way my brain worked. I wish I knew that one day I would learn how to get through a homework assignment, finish projects on time, find my lost keys, be punctual, and make smart life choices. ‘Hard’ doesn’t mean ‘impossible.’ One of the positive traits of ADHD is that we are clever, resourceful, inventive, and creative. We find ways to work through tough situations, exploring, growing, and changing all the while.   ........

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