Maybe I'm Dating Myself But....

I'm taking myself out on dates while learning to love myself.

[remanence-of-love]

[remanence-of-love]

[carys-the-ninth]

"let me put this object some place obvious and inconvenient so im forced to deal with it" (grows around it like a tree root around a rock)

[rabbitindisguise]

#baby i can ignore elephants in the room in ways you cannot imagine.

[miso-so]

Me and my winnie the pooh shirt vs the world

[vampurrring]

maybe growing up is just becoming who you were at 14 again but learning how to love her this time

[borderlinereminders]

Say what you mean as kindly and clearly as possible.

You might have the urge to hint at what you want instead of saying it outright.

You might want to withdraw and hope someone notices. Or perhaps to act cold or upset and hope they’ll ask what’s wrong. This is testing if they care by making them guess, and it isn't really fair. To you or to them.

You deserve to ask for what you need.

Not through guilt, not through silence, not through passive aggression.

Those behaviors aren’t necessarily “bad” but they’re often survival responses we picked up along the way.

They don’t build the kind of connection we actually want. And they can damage our relationships.

Being direct can feel terrifying.

It can feel like rejection is guaranteed the moment we ask.

But healthy communication means giving people a real chance to show up for us and giving ourselves a chance to be heard.

You don’t have to be perfect at it.

Here are some examples:

“I feel off today and could use some support.”

“I’m feeling lonely. Can I call you?”

“I’m feeling insecure. Can you give me some reassurance?

You are allowed to speak clearly.

You are allowed to ask.

You are allowed to be understood.

You deserve to have your needs met. And your loved ones deserve to not have to guess at it.

[letsbelonelytogetherr]

— Greg Santora (via letsbelonelytogetherr)

[ingridverse]

"God never gives you more than you can handle" is survivorship bias. People who got more than they could handle are dead.

[capricorn-0mnikorn]

Oh, dear. I can't reblog that fast enough.

[omtai]

coming out of my cage and i been doing just bad. going back in my cage because i like my cage

[segamascott]

[space-feminist]

one thing i've been thinking about lately is that a lot of the things that are viewed as a sign of a person Not Doing Well are actually the healthy coping mechanisms for when things aren't going well. like crying about something is healthier than repressing it, listening to sad music helps you process your feelings, cutting your own hair is a low-stakes way to change up your life and claim agency over yourself, and in this case getting chinese takeout instead of cooking is a perfectly reasonable choice if you've had a bad or tiring day. movies will show a character eating takeout alone after a miserable day of work as if that's the sad ending to their day but the takeout isn't the sad part, the sad part is the day itself. it's mistaking the bandage for the wound

[evilvarric666-archive]

"Weird energy in here today" I say, referring to the inside of my brain.

[jirainsane]

[greelin]

if i am saying “drive safe” to you it is not a wish or command btw. i am casting a spell. Get fucking cushioned and shielded and protected idiot

[metamorphesque]

Separation, W. S. Merwin

[knifefightscene]

[knifefightscene]

[houndmother]

automated text reply that just says YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY PERSON I AM LETTING DOWN

[deadnow-deactivated20250507]

Doing that thing where I go to reach out to people or reply to messages and part of my brain goes "nah they're fine without you lol don't bother them" and it's like. okay cool.