[youmustbecarmilla]

[passthatdutchbymissyelliott-dea]

*finishes wedding vows* don’t forget to like and subscribe

[jodiefoster]

you know when you realize and you just.. Realize

[mintpanda1]

Bingo theme song!

[seiruun]

Bluey is a great show.

[goodsniff]

Bluey ~ Colour Roughs pt.1

The part I most looked forward to, juicy juicy colour roughs. It was a real delight painting something so local. Both because we don’t see Australia in animated form that often, and most of the time it’s some shlocky outback thing. And capturing the unique colour and light of suburban Australia is my jam.  

From episodes : Wagonride // Bike // Spygame // Bob Bilby // The Beach //  Chickenrat //

[sonicrainbooms]

dont touch me im fragile

[qr-closet]

overgrown dirt path ✨

[6lackranger]

It’s November, so had to bring this back!

[6lackranger]

Look at what’s on her plate 😂

[mzhrtbrkr]

I can’t stand ya’ll 😂😂😂😂

[mysticalcoffeequeen]

Can we have the remix in here too please?

[adeles]

#2020 mood

[officialunitedstates]

like for bread, reblog for bread, ignore for bread

[allofmystudentsrunaway]

oh gods it was parents evening again tonight..

other parents: how did you do that?

Me:do what?

Other parents: your teenager is eating a salad..

Me:i never forced him eat, now he will pretty much eat anything…except chicken casserole which we both agree is gross

Other parents:we don’t get it.

Me: our only rules are bed at eleven on a school night and don’t hack any important government agencies.

Other parents: you don’t restrict screen time?

Me: you know 95% of kids will self regulate, given the chance?

Other parents: thats not true

Me: have you tried it?

other parents:…but, now he’s reading 1984

Me: he has had a university reading level since he was 12, what am i going to do censor his reading material?

other Parents: what if he reads something you don’t approve of..

Me: i fail to see your reasoning…

Me: you know he cooks too..it’s our mother/son time, we talk about his friends…

other Parents: he talks??

[greenbergsays]

That “he talks??” bit gets me

Yeah, kids talk. If your kid doesn’t talk to you, it’s because of one of two reasons:

You’ve created such a hostile/unwelcoming home environment that they don’t feel comfortable enough to talk

You have signaled to them somehow, some way, that you don’t care about what they have to say. That what they have to say isn’t important.

Kids are not stupid, not at any age level. They pick up on shit and they remember and then when they grow to be teenagers, they know who they can talk to about stuff and who they can’t.

My 13 year old nephew is not particularly affectionate with his mother and he rarely talks to her about anything important, but there are times I can’t get that kid to stop hanging off me and he has those serious conversations with me, like when we discussed his friends coming out to him as bisexual.

It’s not even that hard to make a kid feel loved and welcome. I don’t even know what my nephew is talking about half the time with his games, but they’re important to him, so I let him talk and I make appropriate noises of shock and sympathy when they are needed.

He watches a lot of YT channels, so we’ve discussed the importance of regulating your media, because I don’t want motherfuckers like PewDiePie shaping his world view.

He reads anything from Stephen King to manga and he does that because I’ve been reading him books since he was a baby. I do it with all of my nieces and nephews; when they get school-aged and old enough to read on their own, our “us” time is going to the bookstore and letting them pick out a drink and a book.

Because reading is important to me and I want it to be important to them, too. Now, it’s not something I suggest, it’s something that my nephew asks for.

“I finished my book, Aunt [Dessie], when can we go to the bookstore again?”

And when I tell him a date, I make sure to keep it.

Saying, “You can talk to me about anything” and “you can rely on me” is all well and good, but words are just words. You have to mean it and you have to show them that you mean it.

Otherwise, when it gets to those important moments in their life, they’re gonna shut you out rather than let you in.

[findingfeather]

Seriously though, you guys. Like.

Here is a secret:

Children and adolescents are actually fucking desperate for adult attention and approval. They really are. Even the ones that have in fact kinda got fucked up so far and have learned that The Only Kind Of Attention They’ll Get Is Bad and so act like shitheads, or the ones that have learned to be inhibited (and it might not even be you who inhibited them, it mighta been their peers or some teacher somewhere, which sucks!) and learned that by showing need they’ll just end up humiliated, or whatever?

Yeah them too.

Kids want to make you happy.

They’re often TERRIBLE AT IT. They’re kids. Their brains don’t work right, their bodies are weird, they have terrible impulse control, horrible deferred satisfaction, they’re shitty at projecting future consequences, and especially if they HAVEN’T been taught they’re probably bad at showing you positive emotions!

They’re BAD AT IT. And they often don’t want anyone to know it. And they’re embarrassed about it.

But they desperately want to. So much.

So one of the most crucial things is:

a) make sure they know how to make you happy. Don’t assume they can figure it out! They probably can’t!

b) make sure that’s something that is literally possible for them to do.

c) make sure, when they do it, that you SHOW THEM YOU’RE HAPPY WITH IT.

It is absolutely ASTONISHING HOW FAST this can create a self-sustaining cycle with the SMALLEST of starts.

[areiton]

I want to add–you can create a place that is safe for your kids, that encourages them to talk, that rewards and accepts their behavior—and sometimes they still stop talking.

Kids are people. Which means sometimes they go through shit that they aren’t ready to talk about.

Your job as a parent is to remind them you’re there when they are, remind them they’re safe, and give them room to be a person with heavy shit. And listen, because if you do your job right, they will eventually talk to you again.

[themoonismybeloved]

I want to add that what @findingfeather said goes especially true if your kids are not neuroptypical because sometimes it’s hard to know what makes someone happy! There’s nothing wrong in telling someone to please do xyz if it’s reasonable and attainable! And honestly this can go for anyone, make your needs and wants known and encourage others to do the same

[neko-mancy]

[kuuhakublank00-deactivated20220]

 I honestly wish more parents understood this…If I showed this to my parents there’s a 50/50 chance they’ll understand or they’ll argue that they knew I could never control my tech usage, a long argument that was ongoing but is now settled, and hence they had to restrict my gaming(They may be right about it cause I’ve ADHD I just find it really hard to control myself to not get distracted when I’m studying an academic subject I don’t like or something) 

But I can tell you, them just brushing aside your interests when you’re really excited to tell them something about said interests really fucking sucks and as much as I’ve tried to make my parents understand that, I doubt they will…They’re really good parents in general but some things are just bad and have left me scarred unfortunately and as much as I don’t want to, I’ve mixed feelings about them at this point… So please, respect your kids’ interests and be excited for them. 

And try to set in as few restrictions as possible, and give proper reasons for said restrictions. Don’t just say bullcrap like “you won’t understand” just because you’re lazy or don’t have the right words(I understand you can’t tell them somethings as kids, not talking about those. I’m talking about the things that are very explainable but you just choose not to do that) 

Please. Please do parenting properly. We’ve had enough emotionally scarred people. 

[surviving-ardor-thriving]

This hits home for me because I have this really young cousin who spends more time with me than her own mother because her mother never pays attention to her and and her sister while planning to have a third kid. The two who have been born hand off of me because I’m the first person in the family that they know who doesn’t talk about them behind their backs and always gives them positive feedback(within reason).

[officialunitedstates]

on the internet no one knows

[decenthumanbeing69]

No one knows what?

[officialunitedstates]

no one knows

[retrogamingblog2]

Animal Crossing Postcards made by ShiyiStudio

[thebootydiaries]

most girls: hair in an updo, thigh gap, wears lots of makeup and designer clothes, runs a hipster blog

me: bald, wears glasses, a frightening beard, button-up shirts, and a porkpie hat, cooks meth to provide for my family. i am the danger. i am the one who knocks.

[unclefather]

Just got this bib for my future grandchild

[ruinedchildhood]