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As obvious as it sounds, I often need to remind myself that nothing changes if nothing changes.

I need to be intentional with my time to shape my future in the way I want it to unfold. Maintaining the status quo does nothing to improve the trajectory of my life and so, I need to be focused and proactive in building up to something bigger.

When new opportunities arise, I will rise to the occasion, despite the resistance I feel towards change.

From his book, The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck, Mark Manson poses this question: What pain are you willing to suffer ? In other words, what are you willing to sacrifice for the things you want to achieve.

Another thing that has kept this idea in my mind is the lovely song, Be The Same by Mako Road.

"Nothing good ever came from trying to be, be the same."

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Find out what makes you you and become the best version of that.

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What do you want your life to be like 1 year from now ?

For me:

- I want to feel confident in interacting with people in my day to day life. There's no need for me to be so anxious and worried about what others think of me. I will value my own thoughts and feelings about myself over what others may think and feel about me. It is not my responsibility to make others like me... It is my responsibility to announce myself boldly to the world and let the chips fall where they fall.

- I will be over her... completely over her. I have made strides since she left but I still think about her often. I still think about her often and will be over her in a year, hopefully. There are many other wonderful women out there who will see me and accept me for who I am. Let her go.

- I will be in a stable place in my career, one where I have the confidence to tackle the problems laid out in front of me head on.

- I will have a social circle. Right now, I have 1 more friend than I did last year. I have learned to be okay on my own but the need for a tribe is only human so, in the next year, I will find my tribe.

- I will have more interests. Gaming and beating off are just not cutting it. Having more interests will make it easier to form connections with others and offer me new lenses to see the world through.

- I will be a man who holds the commitments he makes to firstly, himself and secondly, to others.

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A little drop every day fills an ocean.

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"What could you do today that you will thank yourself for tomorrow ?"

This quote from Modern Wisdom | Jimmy Carr really stood out to me and is something I have started to ask myself as I go about my days.

On those days where I'm not sure what to do with my time, this simple but profound question helps me re-align myself with my goals and to consider the trajectory I want my life to follow. It has led me to put in an extra hour of study, find the motivation to go to the gym, reach out to friends, etc.

I often find myself struggling to find a good reason not to spend the time scrolling through social media or otherwise "just chilling". I really appreciated this perspective and would highly recommend checking out this episode of Modern Wisdom.