please don’t send me super salty asks about the latest shitty fandom things. they get me a little upset. i can deal with a little, but some of the just super fucking racist/homophobic/whatever stuff just gets me so angry it’s exhausting.
please DO send asks in general tho!!! i’d love to hear from you
fic prompts are closed, but asks are open! and i mean, you can try and send a fic prompt, maybe it’ll spark something and i’ll at least answer it as an ask, i’m just not promising i’ll write something for it.
basic dni (dont interact) in tags, but like, really looking at you, book stans and inc*st shippers. get the fuck out
this blog is fairly inactive but i still answer asks if you wanna talk about any spicy magnus/malec content! <3
Hi, Hello, long time no see, Hi! :-)
I hope you are well and drinking enough water. It's supposed to get really hot in the coming days. (unless you live somewhere totally different and this doesn't apply to you at all. 🤣)
I feel like I have to apologize to you beforehand, because this text is going to be so weird and unfocused and rambly. But I just... do you know this feeling when it's like your thoughts have been accumulating for a while and suddenly they just burst out of you?
And you are probably the most sympathetic sounding board in the Malec fandom for this, so I decided to basically dumb all of this on you, and I'm really sorry for how this sounds right now. (the rambling is already starting as you can see)
But damn, I so get why you left the fandom now.
At first I was like "Oh well, every character has some -stans, but just because one character is more popular in the fandom than others doesn't necessarily mean that each one of their fans sees them as completely perfect.
But boy, a lot of Alec-stans are really driving me insane.
It's like, the second you bring up any criticism towards his character as depicted in the TV-show (because I haven't read the books nor do I want to), the Alec Lightwood defense squad crawls up your ass.
Alec throws a hissy fit upon learning about Magnus' box of memories? - Well, it's his first relationship, that's not his fault.
Alec dismisses and belittles Magnus' feelings when Magnus is first trying to get close? - Well, he isn't comfortable with his sexuality at that point, that's not his fault.
Alec doesn't appear to offer any consolation towards Magnus after he witnessed Ragnor's death? - Well, there was hardly time for that. Also, just because it wasn't shown, doesn't mean it didn't happen. That's not his fault.
Alec acts visibly upset and coldish towards Magnus after Camille forcefully kisses him? - Well, he saw his new boyfriend kissing someone else. Of course he got upset. That's not his fault.
Alec doesn't realize that his boyfriend has been taken over by their enemy, and doesn't look into the matter deeper after Magnus in Valentine's body manages to spark some doubts in him? - Well, Valentine has been known for his trickery. And the Inquisitor basically ordered him to look away while she kills him, that's not his fault.
Alec doesn't find anything wrong with asking the supposed love of his life for a hair sample, which are only taken from downworlders for racist reasons, after Magnus has just basically been tortured by the very people Alec is working for? - Well, he had orders. That's not his fault.
Alec breaks his promise of transparency towards the downworld cab at the very first moment that shit hit the fan and lies to Magnus' face about it? - Well, I just said, he had orders. That's not his fault.
and so on, and so forth.
And I, ... I don't mind that he isn't perfect! People and characters are meant to make mistakes and learn and grow from them.
My problem is that the mistakes that Alec makes are rarely acknowledged.
Instead, they are mostly skipped over by the show entirely, and justified by his fans.
Meanwhile Alec is credited with all kinds of deeds and virtues he hasn't actually earned.
Self-sacrificing? - When has he actually done that in the show? Seriously. When?
Improving downworld relations? - Oh, you mean like when he went behind all their backs and didn't disclose the truth about the missing soul sword?
Being so selfless? - Just like with the self-sacrificing thing he gets ascribed to him. When? When have his actions been outstandingly selfless, more so than that of the others?
And a lot of people will then come out and go: Oh, but when he broke up with Magnus so that Magnus could have his magic back. That was so selfless and self-sacrificing of him.
No. Just no.
Magnus was grieving. This was a huge traumatic experience for him, and he was in the process of learning to deal with it.
And yes, it was messy and hard, but that's when you stay with your partner and support them and love them.
Instead, Alec decided that he knew better. That Magnus clearly wouldn't recover from this, that Magnus valued his magic more than their relationship. He took the choice from Magnus, and in the process, used Magnus' very fears and insecurities against him to break his heart.
And it's frames as this noble and good thing. And I hate it.
But god forbid, if you bring any of this up in fandom. Because overeager Alec stans will be right there, telling you how wrong you are to think like this, and then bringing up all those expamples of how everyone else is actually so much worse than Alec. Precious little Alec, who is so good and pure and righteous.
Just recently, there was a humorous post about good but slightly overprotective dad Asmosdeus, yelling about "get your face off my son", when catching Malec making out.
And, you know, just fun, right? I for one like the thought of Magnus having an actually good father in his corner from time to time, you know?
But then one of the comments was like: "What if he actually said that about Alec. Because Alec is his son in law."
And I'm... so tired. Of everything being about Alec, even when it isn't, and getting turned around to be about Alec.
This almost casual dismissiveness of Magnus. Because, what? Because he has lived many years and is probably used to it? Because he is a big boy and doesn't deserve the same considerations towards his person? Because he is bisexual and there is actually a lot of bi-phobia going around that people try to claim isn't real?
I'm actually starting to dislike Alec on the sole base of all the fans that refuse to see him as anything else buy the most perfect little cinnamon roll.
I dream of throwing Magnus into different universes, and setting him up with different characters. Who treat him right, say "Thank you", are willing to find ways to become immortal and be with him forever, and appreciate him.
And that's so sad, considering I went into this fandom liking Alec. I mean, my heart has always belonged to Magnus, but Alec used to be completely okay in my mind.
And now, I'm close to getting annoyed even seeing his name.
It just,... it sucks, you know? It sucks that I dread looking for Malec fics now, because I think it will all be about Alec anyway.
It sucks that I word vomit all my frustrations out on you, who has distanced himself from the fandom years ago, just because I don't think anyone else in the fandom would even read this far without getting all defensive on poor baby Alec's behalf.
It sucks that I ask this anomynously, for fear of mega Alec-stans retribution.
But it did feel good to be able to write this all down and share it with someone.
You absolutely don't need to answer to this one. Hell, you might not even have read through it all, as it's long and rambly and tedious to the core. And I get that. I really do.
Anyway, sorry again for basically trauma dumping on you.
I hope you have the best day ever and please remember to stay hydrated. (even if you don't live in an area where it's gonna get stupid hot.)
oh, it is definitely getting hot around here (in the most literal sense, not in the “this is a porn sideblog” sense) so thank you for the well-wishes <3
no need to apologize—i completely understand the feeling!
especially as the more I read your rant, the more I’m like “Yes…. YES…. YES!!!!” because this really is how I felt as well, and it was definitely a huge part of why I left the fandom (although new hyperfixations helped).
and it's always like, while some of these defenses are valid (for example, I’m more upset with the reactions of the people who were with magnus when ragnor died rather than alec after the fact, but it’s certainly something I’d’ve liked to see addressed, especially since a lot of s1 is magnus helping alec figure out himself and his feelings, yknow?) at some point you just don’t want to hear them at all anymore; it just gets too frustrating, because there were a) too many bad ones (the camille-related and clave/shadowhunter-related ones especially are infuriating!) and b) too many in general! let alec be a flawed character! he can make mistakes or be unnecessarily jealous or petty or still unlearning what he was taught while also loving magnus and being a decent person! it makes him more interesting anyway, we don’t need to excuse every single thing he does! and you’re exactly right—people refuse to let alec be wrong, and often refuse to let magnus be right. people give interesting things about magnus (his selflessness-to-a-fault, for example, and even his father apparently??? Huh????) to alec, and like. yeahhh there are issues with the breakup. Like if we address this as “alec has his own insecurities and genuinely thought he was helping magnus in the long-run, but also was being—unintentionally and without malice—condescending and taking away agency and support that magnus desperately needed in the name of “fixing” it “for” him, because they’re both complex individuals trying to do right by the other but sometimes getting it wrong” that’s fine but noooo it’s “actually alec was 100 percent right and noble and good and self-sacrificing and it ended well so”.
anyway, to skip ahead a bit—mostly with eager nodding—I completely understand because this is really how I felt. i try not to let a fandom ruin a character or ship for me, but sometimes it’s hard not to get infuriated at how fandom treats them (especially in this case, which REEKS of racism). everything’s alec-centric, alec can do little to no wrong and we’ll jump down your throat if you imply otherwise, magnus is always in the wrong or even outright painted as abusive/evil/etc, we don’t acknowledge alec’s flaws while inventing new ones for magnus, etc. it got to the point where I was getting more annoyed with any fic about alec at all, whereas before I enjoyed both (even if similarly, magnus was my favorite). Actually, the same happened with smut—I used to enjoy both bottom/sub magnus and bottom/sub alec just fine, even with a mild preference, and even wrote for both! but the way the fandom treated alec as a whole and alec during smut turned me off it so bad that I can’t stand bottom/sub alec at all anymore. it never got quite that bad with alec as a character, but then, I left before it could.
it really did get so, so infuriating and frustrating to watch literally every single thing in anything malec get turned into alec-centric only. i'm right with you, and sad to hear it's still happening (albeit not surprised)
All of that being said, to be honest, the only cure for a fandom like that is to shut it out—have a few friends or a discord server or whatever that you trust (they don’t all have to agree with you, of course, so long as they’re not dicks about it) who you can share your ideas/opinions/creative work with, talk to them about it, and kinda just… don’t engage with the larger fandom as much if at all. Which kind of sucks as a solution, but you can’t really change fanon’s mind… but hey! not every single individual in the fandom is like this--you just gotta find more people who aren't! they probably are shy about speaking up, too.
I’m glad a little rambling was cathartic for you—you’re welcome to dump a ramble in my inbox at any time, though I can’t promise I’ll always answer, I WILL read it <3
I randomly thought about you and wanted to bother you. XD
How you doing? You remembering to drink water?
Also, I'm enarmoured with the thought of Magnus being a bit (or a lot) of a nerd.
And when Alec realizes this, he often starts off conversations that he knows will trigger a complete verbal essay from Magnus. Because it's this weird mix of adorable and incredibly hot to see Magnus gush about fictional characters or science fiction theorem.
oh i ADORE nerd!magnus and i know that alec would too. and i love the idea of alec gently steering him towards an infodump so he can watch magnus light up over something he's passionate about he 100 percent would do that
all these arguments about the new harry potter casting but all i can think is that every person involved in the series has willingly signed up to work with such an outspoken transphobe
reblogging again in light of the uk ruling that trans women are not ‘real’ women. jkr has been the most high profile supporter of the campaigners who took this case to court. the money she earns from the harry potter franchise goes directly to harming trans rights
Hello, 'tis I, your semi regular reminder to drink enough water! :-)
Hope you are well.
And also needed to burden you with the thought of Alec having the Venom Symbiote. Because tentacles.
I have nothing to say in my defense. The mental image came to me and I needed to share immediately. XD
Wishing you the very bestest weekend ever.
okay not to respond to this one and not the ten million others ( IM SORRRRRRRYYYYYYYYYYY) but i NEED to talk about venom au for a second because i'm autistic.
1 ) if Alec has the venom symbiote, this implies a threesome between Magnus, Alec, and Venom (or a different OC symbiote, or making a character a symbiote) which is quite funny
2 ) if Alec is the venom symbiote it also immediately gets more complicated (I have written something like this before) and also even more funny
either way, i am always a huge supporter of tentacles, and alec wielding them (on magnus) (to his delight)
thank you for the semi-regular reminder to drink water; unfortunately my week has been somewhat ass so far
i have asks literally two years old. what if one day i actually answered them? brain, wouldn't that be nice? brain? brain wouldn't that be nice brain? brain????? brain????????????
Just your friendly tuesday reminder to drink some water and take a rest.
Hope you have a great day.
Also, Alec brought fuzzy handcuffs and Magnus is like "Oooooh."
i am drinking.... soda. does that count
I PROMISE I DO DRINK WATER ALSO IM JOKING
thank you, you too <3
also okay so like. with the 'fuzzy' my dumb brain is broken and somehow read this as 'izzy bought alec handcuffs (presumably as a joke) and magnus is like "ooooh" which leads to the very funny scenario of izzy being like "lmao i got you these fuzzy handcuffs to tease/gently embarrass you, as siblings do," and alec is just like oh sweet magnus is gonna love these and magnus looks over his shoulder like ooh that will totally match that one thing you got me you know--and izzy's like okay i hate both of you <3
but ANYWAY jokes aside magnus deserves some fuzzy handcuffs. he would look very pretty in fuzzy handcuffs.
Nani Pelekai (Lilo & Stitch) VS Magnus Bane (Shadowhunters)
Who gives better head?
Nani Pelekai
Magnus Bane
Voting ended onJun 27, 2023
Propaganda under the cut!
Nani Pelekai Propaganda
Rule 34 ez
Magnus Bane Propaganda
Magnus Bane can definitely also suck dick like a champ. And HIS boyfriend is canonical. While said boyfriend's dick size is never discussed he is DEFINITELY hung. Anyway. What can I say I love fruity little guys who are great at sucking dick.
Hey you, hope you are doing well.
Say, do you ever feel like the love and appreciation that most of the fandom gives to one character, is souring this character to you?
I'm phrasing this badly. Okay. I love Malec as a ship, right. I like both Alec and Magnus. But my absolute favorite character is Magnus. Because that's just the way I tick.
And I understand that for other people, their absolute favorite character is Alec. Because that's just the way they tick.
And that is completely fine. That's the way it is and it's good that people like and are attracted to different characters.
But it so often feels to me that in their devotion to that one character, the other half of the ship gets so very neglected. And this then is making me dislike that one character.
Like, for every Magnus-centric post I make, there are ten Alec-centric posts. (And often the Magnus-centric posts get comments that shift the focus to Alec)
For every Magnus-centric fic out there, there are almost four times the amount of Alec-centric fics. (That is not actually an exaggeration. Ao3 currently has 145 fics with the "Magnus Bane-centric" tag and 448 fics with the "Alec Lightwood-centric" tag)
And, again, this should be fine, because people like who they like and they have every right to write about the person they like the most. I guess I just hate the way that Magnus is so often made out to be the "bad" guy in fics in order to uplift Alec more. Or, not necessarily the "bad" buy. More like... Magnus not appreciating Alec enough? Or Magnus being a bully? Or "dark" or "possessive" Magnus, while Alec is just that poor cinnamon roll whose "pure love" changes Magnus? Or something like that?
Or like Magnus magic being more favorable to Alec, than Magnus himself. Or Magnus' friends or other downworlders being protective of Alec, warning Magnus off about breaking that poor boys heart.
And, I know not every Alec-centric fic is like this. There are fics that focus on Alec but still treat Magnus fairly.
But it still feels that there are so many that just use Magnus in a way that will make Alec shine brighter, and it just makes me so frustrated, you know? Like, I see a tag that hints at the story being mostly about Alec, or a summary that mostly focuses on Alec, and I just... lose interest? It's like, "Oh, this is gonna be another 'Alec Lightwood is the best thing since sliced bread' type of story."
And this very one sided seeming appreciation of one character of the most popular ship is actually making me resentful of Alec.
And I don't want that, because I *like* Alec. He is a good character with a solid story arc and decent development and he and Magnus are *good* together.
But it's just always "Alec this" and "Alec that" and I'm just getting so tired of it?
Like, I don't want the reverse. I don't want for fics to only ever paint Magnus in a good light, to only uplift Magnus and to make Magnus the focus point of every other character or plot.
But... I don't even know how to say this. It feels like I said way too much for not being able to make a solid point... sigh.
Sorry to dump on you. Just feeling frustrated I guess.
Remember to take breaks and drink plenty of water. Take care of yourself. Hope to hear from you again. :-)
oh my god literally ALL THE TIME. genuinely part of why i left the fandom was just because of how frustrating and often racist it was. it's so so obvious alec is the favorite and it's so obvious why and like. everything is always made to be about him and like. it so often involves villainizing magnus in ways that are just so fucking annoying and awful and ooc (YEAH making him a bully or dark or evil somehow or even straight up actually abusive), and often while also like. making alec a saint and/or infantilizing him in a way that does his character a disservice too! (he's not a baby! he's not an idiot! he's not perfect! oh my god!) and acting like everyone in the world adores him, including like, magnus's own friends lecturing him not to hurt alec???????? what????? shit like that and it's just. it's so frustrating and infuriating and yeah! it does make me like alec less, which is annoying bc i want to like alec bc i do like alec but like. the fandom was so goddamn fucking annoying about him and about how they treated the ship that like. i can't even articulate it, especially not anymore after i left so long ago after just being fed up with it, but like. the unfairness and unevenness in how the fandom treats these characters makes me want to commit arson
Any crossover thoughts?
Like, is there a series/movie you would like to crossover with Shadowhunters, and especially Magnus and Alec? Would you be thinking of a true merging of the two different universes, 'Fish out of water' style?
(example, Pokemon: Rogue portal transports Malec into the world of Pokemon, and what the hell is this?) XD
Or would you just use a set of characters from the one medium in the other medium, like they have always been part of it?
(example, Witcher: Geralt is a shadowhunter and Jaskier is a Seelie and at some point Geralt comes to NY and trains Alec and the others and Jaskier and Magnus have been friends for years.)
Or completely replace one set of characters with the other. (example, Marvel: Super Soldier Alec Lightwood and tech genius billionaire Magnus fight as part of a team of the world's mightiest heroes)
Like, what's your poison?
i like both crossovers and fusions, but i admit i will just brew one for literally anything i watch. i'll be like hm. what if magnus was here.
i think some good fusions would be like. an au for warehouse 13 or the librarians?
the latter would have a lovely dynamic of magnus being a librarian (smart and getting into trouble, wanting to study magic, etc) and alec being a guardian (protecting him, pulling him out of dangerous situations, but having his own intelligence to bring to the table too) as well as maybe some messy backstory with immortality....
but the former... also like. magnus having a connection with the warehouse.... no thoughts all vibes tbh.
hmmm im trying to think of any others i have in my brain but just. nothing is coming to mind.
Just wanted to wish you a good one that will hopefully be less stressful. Remember to drink plenty of water and get enough rest.
(Speaking if New Year, I bet Malec took advantage of the New year's kiss tradition. So much so, that at one point someone had to be like "It's supposed to be one kiss at midnight, guys. Not a full on make out Session!")
i promise im much later!!
please they were planning on having this like. sweet romantic moment where they kiss as the ball drops but by the time they get to midnight the party is in full swing and one or both of them are like Full Sloppy Drunk and they're just fully making out. guys please get a room. (they do, in fact, get a room. but magnus is very loud so they have to portal to room in another city.)
Some warlocks may retain an aspect related to their mark.
Magnus' deep seated likeness to cats adores Alec's high body temperature.
Building on that, magical exhaustion/depletion may have the side effect of dropping a warlock's own body heat. (like blood loss in humans does)
So warming up a warlock after a draining spell is actually the best way for them to regain their strength. Which makes cuddling up after ward maintainance in the institute a "medical necessity, so I won't be available for the next hour, until I can be reasonably sure that the high warlock will bear no ill effects from the service rendered. Barring an emergency, Underhill will assume command until then."
Magnus, soon as they are in Alec's office: "You know this was not the least bit draining for my magic, right Darling?"
Alec, smirking: "I know."
god i love the idea of like. alec's kind of a space heater but magnus loves it. and when he's exhausted/hurt/drained just like. collapsing into alec's arms and letting himself be warmed up, be held and cared for... honestly the emotional tlc helps him just as much as the literal heat sharing
(also immediately thinking of this in some ridiculous convoluted angsty way where it's like. idk if this is some sort of friends to lovers situation or just magnus being very much a an idiot with self esteem issues, but like. alec cuddling him after particularly draining stunts with his magic and magnus is just like "ah, yes, he is doing this for medical reasons" meanwhile alec thinks they're fully on the same page of this obviously being a flimsy excuse to cuddle. like magnus is all [sad violins] is it selfish of me to enjoy this?? to take advantage of him?? i'm so clingy and now-- meanwhile hard cut to alec in cheerful music being like ah yes i get to cuddle with the most wonderful man in the world <33)
also please. everyone knows what they're doing bc alec is just like [bland and monotone] well the high warlock has done the ward maintenance. now for medical reasons he needs to come to my office for two hours where we will be completely uninterrupted. but when the head of the institute is like "im going to cuddle the high warlock, professionally, for an hour. as a medical necessity. bc we are professional" you don't argue. however no one agrees if they're actually cuddling and they're just That Cute or if they definitely fuckin. (spoiler alert, though, 99 percent of the time they really are just cuddling. magnus is like "you know this wasn't actually draining for my magic right?" and alec's like "do you WANT to leave my arms?" and magnus is like (slumped against his chest) ".....no")
(please, though, imagine your boss completely blandly being like "im going to go cuddle this independent contractor, professionally, for medical reasons. do not interrupt us for an hour." especially knowing said contractor is his husband. that's so fucking funny. bonus if a) someone actually does have to interrupt for some reason and huh! what do you know! they really were cuddling! why was the head of the institute feeding him grapes though. b) alec's unavailable and like in idris or something and some smartass who knows alec well enough to fuck with him (bonus points if this is somehow simon just bc i feel like it would be funny) is like "oh should i cuddle your husband then? for medical reasons? professionally?" and alec's like do you want to get murdered, son? magnus immediately teases him about this.)
