I’ll paint the picture. It’s Monday night. I’ve had an intense day of reunions. My friend is going to a show and I invite myself along. I’m tired, I should shower, but whatever, I feel like getting out of the house and doing something. So I go. Grubby, hair a mess, shirt all wrinkled. Minimal make-up. The show goes on, I’m dancing, listening to the music, I don’t give a shit. I’m just moving however I feel like moving. I look around the club. Make eye contact with some attractive people. Whatever. It's not that I'm trying to send out "come hither looks" I have been reading Cosmo's latest issue on the best ways to pick up men on the dance floor or anything. Really I'm just taking in my surroundings because a) I'm getting bored dancing and b) I'm starting to drift into this sleep dance mode and if I continue dancing with my eyes closed I will look like that girls who has slammed 7 jagger bombs and can barely stand on her own two feet. So I'm looking around the club just surveying what is happening. More dancing I look around again and begin to realize that a few different guys I have made eye contact with earlier have become closer in proximity. "Ah, I'm sure that's just a coinincident" I think. "Big crowds, people move around, whatever." More dancing, soon a very cute boy, hands down most attractive guy I've seen all night and his friend end up dancing beside me. We smile shyly. The two are obviously trying to get to the stage and my friend being the dick that he is pulls me up to the front to block the guys progress, cuz apparently the guy who really wants to see the DJ is being a dick by trying to get what he wants, and I'll admit, he was fairly polite about it. SO I dance at the front of the stage for a song, but really, I don’t care!! I just want to dance. Plus I’d rather be grooving next to this guy's cute friend than staring at the DJ. SO, I do the "nice" thing and let the friend have a spot. And go back to dancing beside his attractive friend. Now, I don’t pick up guys at shows. It’s a weird setting and I don’t know what to do.
There's a certain script that you seem to have to follow that goes something like: "grind up on that junk, start to hold hands, shout your names into each others ear, maybe make out" (Insert terible rap beat here) And no, just no. I'm in my mid-twenties now I've had my time grinding up on strangers junk, it was a fun experiment but I reached a point where I realized that that gets super borrring to me after like 5 minutes. So this boy and I, we just dance side to side, shoulder to shoulder, hip to hip. Sharing body weight, being shy, being close. It was absolutely ridiculous. And I had so much fun. When I recounted this story later to my friend he mentioned it was a shame no one made the flip from side to side to pelvis to pelvis. No! It was not a shame at all. It was exactly what I wanted. And I'm pretty certain that the sound of his deep smooth voice in my ear when he asked me my name or the grip of his hand on my shoulder as he pulled me closer to talk to him was waaay hotter than any pelvis to pelvis dancing would have been. Anyways, why am I writting this post? Is it just to be like, hey look at me, I had a great night and attracted dudes without trying, I'm awesome!!!!!! No, I mean, yeah, I'm proud of myself. But that doesn't make this whole experience worth sharing. The whole point of this thing, what I walked away with from this night is that I spent an entire evening doing exactly what I wanted as opposed to doing what I thought other people might want me to do, or what I expected the situation might call for, from how I dressed, to how I interacted with friends and strangers. My guiding factor was, what do I feel like doing, how do I want to behave right now. I feel shy, so be shy, but I'm attracted to this guy, so, be attracted to him and shy at the same time, see what happens. AND, I had soooooooo much fun and walked away feeling happy about the entire evening.
