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Pinned post time!!!

its been long enough and i think its time to make a pinned post with the basics, starting with boundaries due to them being most important!

DNI Basic criteria, everyone knows it by now, just be a decent person

NO NSFW CENTERED ACCOUNTS!!! go in a sfw acc when interacting because i WILL block you if youre on a nsfw one!

ABSOLUTELY NO GENERATIVE AI. YOU WILL BE BLOCKED IMMEDIATELY.

BOUNDARIES Starting off with this one; Please do not tag me in fundraisers, nor add them in my post comments. Neither me nor my few followers will be able to help. Go to more popular pages, they might be able to actually help. Mentally ill teens on tumblr are not the ones to ask for support. If you're a stranger and you do this I will block you.

Do not mention any form of IRL parasite on my page, fictional ones are fine as long as they have content warnings!

Absolutely no suggestive or sexual jokes on my page if you're a stranger. Even if we are friends, if you are not in my age range, do not!

GENERAL INFO Name's Mel and I'm an artist! I'm a lesbian aroace neurodivergent 18 yo who's birthday is on 11 march!

I'm a furry (If you couldn't tell) and I'm hoping to become a biologist or scientist! Do not worry about my evil scientist stories, they dont mean anything :) /j

I occasionally dabble in various forms of art and various artstyles, so if you see frequent changes, that's why!!

I have a ton of oc stories that will probably never see the light of day

And very importantly;

I BLOCK FREELY!!

Piss me off, insult me, or you post things that I'm uncomfortable with, I'll block you! Do not take it personally, I'm on this site to have fun and sometimes for comfort, this is simply me moderating what I see!

And finally on the important info, I do not reblog often!! I for some reason have huge anxiety to interact with the posts of others unless I know the people well, so I struggle with reblogs, I used to like posts before people on tumblr made me feel guilty about that with the whole 'likes do nothing' stuff (literally wrong btw, i frequently get posts ppl i follow like in my feed)

LESS IMPORTANT INFO UNDER CUT

solardontcare

Im tired of all these fucking polls 🥹 heaven forbid a man wants to see actual pride related things other than tumblrs corporate rainbow slop

#so true

shamebats

"it's just stress" oh thank god, it's just the silent killer that slowly kills you, perfectly harmless, no need to worry

what-even-is-thiss

Weird random thing about being raised by a single dad at least in my case is that he over compensated and tried to teach us to be hyper polite and good at every household task and incredibly well educated because so many people seemed to assume that he wouldn’t be able to raise his kids properly so he was like damn in order to be seen as competent as a single dad you need to be perfect and I’m sure that has had absolutely no psychological consequences

grungekitty-77

Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

grungekitty-77

Fun fact, that was literally what inspired me to make this post!

zaychaos

More oc slop…ok..? Also look at my kittays

I’m feeling so 𝓙𝓸𝓵𝓵𝔂

melaniemauve

folly more like jolly

#regretevator

natalieironside

Maybe I can convince y'all to act right by framing things in terms of social engineering. People will be a whole lot more likely to do whatever shit you're trying to hector them into doing if you're not constantly being a dick the whole time. Being niceys is a powerful social engineering tool such as all of the times I have maliciously manipulated people into fulfilling my whims using an evil sociopathic manipulation technique i like to call "asking nice and then saying thanks after"

beemovieerotica

thing i did not know: these big datacenters that are being built rely on fucking diesel generators as a backup power source when the grid inevitably can't meet their demands. which in turn also means that hospitals and universities and other big institutions will also have to turn on their diesel generators when power gets sapped up by these centers.

like we're looking at insane quantities of ground-level ozone & nox pollution which will be happening primarily near low income communities / communities of color...and we know that poor air quality quite literally kills and results in more infants ending up in NICU. i think people have very rightly already hit upon the costs to water availability and electrical grid stability itself, but few people online are talking about the air quality component of rapidly building these centers with no clean fallback electrical generation.

the-last-teabender

The worst person in your life has figured out the harms of genAI, meanwhile one of the most lovely and benign people you know can’t figure out why you’re so bothered by a bit of fun on Facebook. It is surreal and you’re not alone in feeling really confused and upside down about how this is panning out.

renthony

Shout-out to people with sleep disorders who can't hold down a "regular" job because of it. Sleep issues are so wildly disrespected or outright dismissed, and it's shitty.

People refuse to believe that, yes, my sleep problems really ARE that severe. They think I just need more alarms and a can-do attitude. Chronic pain, fatigue, and insomnia are a BRUTAL combination and, no, I cannot cure it by setting ten more wake-up alarms on my phone. I have tried. 🫠

The only "regular" job I've ever had was only doable because I could set my own hours and come in whenever the hell I wanted as long as the work got done. Even that job was something I couldn't do long-term. I was permanently in an exhaustion-induced haze and it was horrible. I didn't feel like a person.

talesfromtreatment

Please please please. Please. PLEASE.

If your pet has a surgery, and is sent home with a "cone of shame"... LEAVE THE FUCKING CONE ON.

We did not put that cone on to torment your pet. We put that cone on so that your pet's insides stay inside. Yes, I know they're running into things and look very very sad. I am not being heartless when I say "I don't care. The cone stays on." I'm trying to keep your pet safe.

We've had 5 different clients take the cone off "for just a minute" in the last 2 weeks. One incision we were able to restaple. One we knocked out to resuture, which the owner had to pay for. Two we are currently managing as open wounds because the owners took the cone off a second time.... and one had to go to emergency to have her guts put back into her body after they were dragging on the bottom of the crate ("but it seemed uncomfortable to sleep in...")

In the VERY VERY RARE occasion that you need to temporarily take the cone off for the pet to eat or drink properly you must be actively staring at your pet the whole time the cone is off. Not just in the same room. Not on your phone. Not cooking. Not "turned around for a moment". Actively staring like you're a little kid who just found the most fascinating bug to ever cross your path.

Until your vet says otherwise, your pet is a Mandalorian, a Child of The Watch. The cone STAYS ON.

love-me-love-my-weirdness

Shout out to the ten year old who just got diagnosed. Shout out to the housebound fourteen year old. Shout out to the eighteen year old who can’t go to the university they wanted. Shout out to the twenty two year old who can’t get a job. Shout out to the twenty six year old with a caretaker. Shout out to the thirty year old who can’t buy their own house.

Shout out to young disabled people. We exist.

isabellascarlett1

BMI isn’t a good measure of anything, it is merely a tool of oppression.

It’s built on data from white abled perisex cis men & reduces complex bodies to a single number.

The entire assumption that once you reach a certain weight you’re automatically unhealthy is untrue.

EDIT: I also wanted to add that BMI doesn’t even account for what percent of your weight comes from fat and what percent comes from muscle y’all. It literally labels folks who are “too muscular” as “overweight” or “obese”.

lupusbaby

Say it with me! Wheelchairs aren’t sad! Mobility aids aren’t sad! Mobility aids are instruments of freedom!

rbremington

Disability is not a dirty word. Me calling myself disabled is not me insulting myself. I am using a word that describes the fact I am not able-bodied.

this-is-ableism

Ableism is forcing us to medicate our ADHD because you see an improvement in our grades. We feel no different medicated or unmedicated and we communicate that to everyone that asks. You say you want us on as little medication as possible then turn around and force us to try every ADHD medication that exists.

this is ableism.

this-is-ableism

i hate how undermentioned and misunderstood dyscalculia is.

no, it's not dyslexia. no, it's not autism. no, it's not adhd. it's a seperate disorder you don't know about because it's never talked about.

all my life i've had straight 90's and 100's. recently i had my functions and trigonometry exam for 12th grade advanced maths and i got full score. just because i can do this does NOT mean i do not have dyscalculia.

i literally make my calculations on the desk out of embarassment. because if i write them on the paper even if i erase it it would be visible and my math teacher would see his best math student write fucking 92 - 38 on the paper or try to multiply 8 × 3. on paper. my friends made fun of me for still counting by finger. people get upset when i can't remember their birthdays. i struggle so hard at my ielts writing task 1 practice because i can't read the graph easily. my mother yells at me for forgetting the time. i still have to look at the same class schedule i've had for 6 months every single day because i can't remember the timeline. i can't read a clock. i forget the dates. i still don't know which months have 30 days and which ones have 31.

but i have high grades so i must be neurotypical right!! ha ha! /s

this is ableism.

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