We worked for the same company and never had worked together, nor had we ever spoken. Adel was assigned to a project that I was going to manage. I was in the process of planning my move from Connecticut to San Francisco. We had discussed a few things regarding the project via email, but it was necessary for us to chat. I had just returned on the red eye. I had just returned from apartment hunting in San Francisco and it was Friday, May 14, 2010. I tried calling him from home, but the work telephone number wouldn't work so he had to call me at home. I have to say I couldn't really understand him at first. His accent was a slight challenge, but we managed through it. Since it was our first project, I wanted him to get to know me and my sense of humor. I think it worked.
We worked through things via email and then the flirting began. He told me not to worry and how his "sexy scripts" would be perfect, or something to that degree. He gave me his BBM id and told me to message him any time for the project, of course. LOL
Adel was funny. He made me laugh and it made it easy to get to know him. I wasn't dating anyone and I was moving across the country to a new adventure in life. It was fun talking to him. He shared details about his life in Canada, his family, college and university details, and his religion. Adel is a Muslim and I have to admit it intrigued me. Growing up in Connecticut, which is predominantly white and a very Christian area, I didn't know many Muslims. I didn't know much about Islam. Adel made me interested. I was impressed how "good" he was and how he prayed. I prayed to God and have always prayed my entire life despite not having any religious upbringing.
In addition, he told me he was dating a girl named Patricia. She was blonde, white and always made him see movies he didn't want to see like, Sex and the City 2. He sent me pics of her and how they met through his good friend's wife. I believed everything. Our relationship turned very flirtatious and we were open regarding our relationships to other people. I never thought this would go anywhere, but he sure was charming along with being so handsome and smart. I was attracted to him and we had a connection. The chemistry was there, but everything else wasn't right because I was moving and he lived in Canada. He knew I wasn't seriously dating anyone and that I was just casually seeing someone.
We talked just about every day and the more I was in contact, the more I wanted him. I knew it was wrong to covet him because he was in a relationship, plus so far away. We flirted a lot and eventually our BBM conversations turned into phone calls, emails and within 3 short weeks there were feelings there.
Eventually the truth about Patricia came out, or so I was told. This was Adel's first lie to me, well first set of lies. I never saw this as a red flag, simply a lie from someone who seemed to want to impress me. He never dated her and she was just a friend. He had actually never dated anyone in a serious manner.
I had moved to San Francisco on Sunday, June 13, 2010 and I wanted to see him. I wanted to have some fun. I had strong feelings for him and he seemed to feel the same. We had a crazy thought for me to fly to Toronto to see him.....and I did. I trusted him and we were both so giddy about the idea of hanging out. So I had just flown 2500 miles from New York to San Francisco and I was on the phone with him booking a flight for that following weekend. We found a red eye Thursday, June 17th that would get me to Toronto on Friday morning and then I would fly back late on Sunday. It worked well with my new time zone. Adel was on vacation for pretty much the month of June, so it would work out for his schedule too. He found a flight for me on the web, I gave him all of my information and credit card and he booked it! We found a hotel near his house in Mississauga and so began our adventure.
It was a crazy, fun, exciting, and happy weekend for us both!
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