I figured I should stop by here one last time as I just saw that I've kept getting emails from Tumblr since I decided to quit it.
not going to be deleting my account, but yeah—I am flatout done being here, and I'm not coming back. Tumblr has very successfully taught me that I simply do not like being publicly online in forums that I cannot moderate or that people I don't know or trust are the only moderators. the horrible shit where random strangers will say or do to you with no control—no good, acceptable recourse—other than to just leave has, well, encouraged me to leave.
far from the safe space for queer folks I'd always been told it was, Tumblr ultimately leads to dealing with insufferable, self-righteous gits who don't know what they're talking about acting in cruel ways because they know that there will never be any real consequences as far as they're concerned. it is not fundamentally different from or less toxic than any other social media of its ilk. you just get a new formula of the same old toxicity, where people with pride flags in their pfp's shoot first and ask questions never.
to be clear, this is not a "cancel culture" thing. cancel culture does not exist, it is an intrinsically nebulous bogeyman for the petit bourgeois where they staple together people unsubscribing because they.... say for an example, represented trans people with an ape wearing a dress... with people dogpiling. no one hath "canceled" me in my limited time on this hellsite. they were intentionally rude and snippy over shit they didn't understand whatsoever—and one of them apologized after I DM'ed them to tell them how fucking invalidating and cackheaded their nonsense was.
by no means life-ruining, but enough to make me step back and barely log in. and then I saw one of the "clever" ways transphobes operate on here (some scumbag named "ifollowmales" following me and other trans gals), and it's like... I don't need this place, so why should I stay on here?
if you wanna follow my stuff or chat, I do stuff on YouTube and (very occasionally on) Twitch—and I'm very active on Discord. I'm melodyjettwerner on all of those. I hang out around GorlStreamTeam and AngryMetalGuy (their Twitch & Discord/website & Discord respectively). and over on Steam, I am the founder and lead editor of a bunch of Steam Curators (largely under the Noteworthy Video Games banner). I know some people immediately jump to, "oh, this person must be dead or something" when they see someone leave the only social media they've seen the person in question on—ahem, no, I am totally not vagueing—I can assure you this is not the case.
if you ever see the comics studio I co-founded on here—We Are Legion—you can know full well that I am nowhere near the post button on it.
bye forever,
Melody Jett Werner
