Unlike most other sexual acts, oral sex is one of the few where only one of the partners involved is being pleased. That, more than anything, is why Men love blowjobs; it’s all about them and their pleasure, and receiving a blowjob feeds into their innate need for submission from their partner. Few things satisfy a Man physically and emotionally like a terrific blowjob from a submissive or receptive partner.
So let’s dive into some necessary steps to give a mind-blowing, unforgettable blowjob.
Most great sex involves the mind and imagination in some way, and a powerful blowjob is no different. Before the cock is even on display a partner can show the Man his/her lust for his Manhood. Gently rub his cock through his pants or underwear, occasionally kissing it. Look up at him and smile. Treat his cock like it’s the most anticipated Christmas present ever, and you can’t wait to unwrap it.
Once the beast is loose, run your tongue or lips up the shaft, starting at the base and working toward the tip. Make sure you use lots of saliva here; you’re setting up a slick surface for later work. Look up at him (depending on your position) and smile while you do this! He wants to see how much you love and appreciate his cock.
During this initiation, it’s a pretty good idea to use the rigid tip of your tongue to flick the seam beneath the head of his cock (called the frenulum). This is a highly sensitive area of a Man’s penis, and it will stimulate the area for the more aggressive work to come.
I don’t recommend a lot of teasing, but there is no hard and fast rule; every Man is different. The teasing phase is great to help a Man become fully erect (if he isn’t already) and stroke his powerful ego, but excessive teasing will eventually frustrate a Man. His cock and his natural instincts are for penetration, not tickling.
First and foremost, it goes without saying that most Men don’t want to feel teeth. Yes, there are uses for teeth in oral sex, but not when you’re sucking his cock. Close your lips luxuriously around his cock and use your tongue to create a vacuum around the shaft, generally protecting his cock from scraping against your teeth.
I think it’s always a good idea to try to take the Man’s cock as far down the throat as possible at the very beginning. Not only does this help lubricate the shaft, but it also gets the Man’s attention. To do this, extend your tongue out as far as you can while taking the cock down your throat. The natural reaction is to recoil the tongue in response to the intrusion of his dick into your throat, but you must fight this (here’s where training with a dildo is important). By extending your tongue, you not only open your throat, but your tongue also acts as a stimulating pad on the sensitive underside of his cock.
Swallow his cock a number of times as far as you can. Choking and coughing are perfectly acceptable here, and serve three important functions:
Additional lubrication for the entire cock
Stimulation for the head of the Man’s cock.
An ego booster for the Man, who enjoys seeing that his Manhood is too large to handle.
After deepthroating him for a bit, it’s time to integrate several techniques to enhance his stimulation. Note: none of the following are meant to replace actually sucking his cock, just enhance and prolong it.
Yes, I know many Men insist on hand-free blowjobs, but in truth the most powerful blowjobs involve the use of hands. You can grip the base of his cock tightly, which causes the shaft and head to engorge and become highly sensitive as your mouth runs over them.
You can also wrap a hand around the saliva-slick shaft and move it up and down in conjunction with your mouth, creating a longer “tunnel” for his cock. Doing this allows your mouth to concentrate on the head and the first few inches where most of the stimulation takes place. When deepthroating, the mouth has a tendency to open to allow the throat muscles to widen, thereby lessening the stimulation to this key part of his cock. By integrating hands, this allows the sensation of deepthroating without sacrificing stimulation to this specific area.
After a certain amount of intense stimulation directly on his cock, it’s a good idea to pull back a little. This is much like edging, a technique where stimulation is applied and removed multiple times in order to produce a powerful orgasm.
If you want to change it up a bit lick down his shaft to his balls and begin running your tongue lightly over them. Kiss them and lift them with your tongue. Gently put one (or both) in your mouth. Remember: a Man’s balls are his most sensitive area, but they also contain the source of life. They are his essence. Treat them with respect and awe. The Man will appreciate such worship.
Man love nasty sex with partners who are unafraid to go the extra mile to please them. This is especially true if a partner is going to lick or stimulate their taint or asshole. Most straight Men deny the existence of these parts of their bodies, so providing oral pleasure there can really blow their minds. If you’re uncomfortable about going that far, use a finger or multiple fingers to stimulate the area. I don’t really recommend fingering a Man’s asshole without lube (and perhaps his request) since most Men find this to be emotionally unpleasant.
In my experience, following these techniques will bring out the inner beast in a Man, and he will likely want to take some measure of control over the final stage. You might find him grabbing your head/hair more at this stage, possibly re-positioning you for easier penetration. He might start to face fuck you. Do not become alarmed or nervous; it’s just part of his natural instinct. It shows that he appreciates what you’re doing. Just open your throat and take as much as you can.
At this stage, you will probably not look great. You’ll have saliva all over your face and dripping off your chin. You might have tears streaming down your face. This isn’t a moment to preserve on Instagram, but I guarantee the Man you’re serving loves it. A Man loves to see a submissive partner go through hell to serve and worship his cock. Keep looking into his eyes as much as you can, even if he’s getting rough with you. Show him how much his cock means to you.
Even if you’re just a decent blowjob artist, you can get a Man to cum with your mouth. Men adore having an orgasm in or around a partner’s mouth. There is a primal need for the Man to “mark his territory” by depositing his precious seed in that way.
So I recommend that you swallow his load or, if he demands, let him cum on your face. Keep this in mind: what are you doing sucking his cock if you didn’t want the eventual load? But if possible, swallow his load.
Swallowing a Man’s cum is one of the most intimate gifts a partner can give. Unlike cumshots in the vagina or asshole, a cumshot in the mouth forces the receptive partner to taste the Man’s seed and experience it on a personal level. No, semen isn’t always the tastiest substance on Earth, but you can acquire a taste for it. And, of course, semen contains a load of mood-altering chemicals (see here) that will make you more submissive and eager to please him.
Whatever happens during the cumshot, DO NOT recoil in fear or disgust. Straight women are terrible about this; they act like it’s the most disgusting thing ever. And if the Man cums in your mouth, DO NOT spit it out like you just swallowed a mouthful of shit. It’s disrespectful to the Man and ends the blowjob on a sour and embarrassing note.
More than anything, a Man wants a partner to LOVE his body and WORSHIP his cock. He wants to feel powerful and desired. He wants to look down and see a partner deeply desiring to please his Manhood. A great blowjob touches on that emotional need while providing excellent physical stimulation and release.
I cannot stress this enough: if you want to give your Man a memorable blowjob, you must surrender yourself and your ego for his pleasure. Demonstrate that you’re there to worship him, and there’s nothing more important to you than his pleasure.
So practice with dildos or actual cocks, and do so with joy. I think you will find that your Man will appreciate you more than ever before.
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