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[mental-ch-illness]

turn off ad blocker? in this economy?? i need to save up my energy so i can fucking exist.

[mental-ch-illness]

Sometimes, you are better off with an unknown future than one filled with pain.

[mental-ch-illness]

if your therapist talks to you about their sex life, find a new therapist

[loveridden1999]

i hope something good happens to me. i hope something good happens to you too. i hope something good happens to all of us soon

[nothorses]

you do kind of have to actively shape how you feel a little bit. you can't just like, passively wait for the world to impress and inspire you. you have to choose to look for it & you have to choose to find it.

[siratonin]

"I CANT HANDLE THIS" *handles this*

[siratonin]

"I CANT TAKE ANOTHER DAY" *takes another day*

[thesweetiepienovels]

Actually, you are enough. Even if you don’t work. Or study. Or go out. Or have friends. Or have family. You’re enough because you exist and your existence is enough to be enough because you are not a product. You are not a sum of output. You are not a task to complete. But because you are something the universe wanted and put here even if you’ll never understand why. Somewhere in the cosmos your existence makes a difference, even if it’s not the way others existences do.

[mental-ch-illness]

‘wahh wahh i don’t want to see an autistic person stimming because it’s so out of place that it makes me uncomfortable!!’ like… okay?? it’s weird to me that you can feel normal without stimming. you’re not special, bitch.

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

here is your permission to not constantly seek the validation of others even if they are people you like

[mental-ch-illness]

So my mother is finally in therapy and the effects are… interesting.

While I won’t go into context about my childhood, I can certainly summarize the consequences that my mother has faced. My older sibling has almost completely cut off contact with my mother. It’s been oh so hard for her because now she can’t even see her grandchild. That’s what put her into therapy. She feels like she’s ‘lost a child forever’, which is… so ironic, but we’re not getting into that today.

I would say she has changed in some ways. I think she’s been forced to realize that her volatile reactions and vitriolic words towards us as kids did, in fact, actually hurt our relationship with her. As a result, she’s been definitely calmer and more centered, yet she seems to think this was all she needed to do. That if she’s just nice it will fix us. Ma’am, that’s not how it works.

Parenting isn’t a coloring page. To have a good relationship with your adult children, you need to have a good relationship with your children when they are actually children. You need to express empathy, listen to them, and, most importantly, act like a fucking adult when they mess up.

[mental-ch-illness]

I take it all back. She hasn't actually improved at all. I had to take my bird to urgent care today and when I asked if she could release my funds into my bank account (it's all my money that I've earned by working), she began asking if I was serious about grad school, if I was doing this to get sympathy from her, if I care about how hard she and my father had to work, blah blah blah.

It's my fucking money, and if it weren't for the fact that you give me access to my healthcare (which includes access to expensive and life saving medications), you wouldn't have a goddamn say in it! This is my bird, one of the few creatures on this goddamn planet that loves me unconditionally, and I have a literal emergency fund for my pets. Again, it's MY MONEY!!! That I EARNED all by myself!!! If it weren't for the fact that you dangle healthcare over my head you would have absolutely no access to it.

I'm being held fucking hostage.

[mental-ch-illness]

Parents, are you tired of your child avoiding you? Have you tried ‘Acting Like a Fucking Adult’? That’s right! For the low price of empathy when your child makes a mistake, you too can build a positive relationship that will last into adulthood. Acting Like a Fucking Adult is proven to decrease your chances of being estranged from your adult children by, like, probably infinity percent! That’s right. infinity percent! So Act Like a Fucking Adult today and reap those rewards in the future.

[mental-ch-illness]

So my mother is finally in therapy and the effects are… interesting.

While I won’t go into context about my childhood, I can certainly summarize the consequences that my mother has faced. My older sibling has almost completely cut off contact with my mother. It’s been oh so hard for her because now she can’t even see her grandchild. That’s what put her into therapy. She feels like she’s ‘lost a child forever’, which is… so ironic, but we’re not getting into that today.

I would say she has changed in some ways. I think she’s been forced to realize that her volatile reactions and vitriolic words towards us as kids did, in fact, actually hurt our relationship with her. As a result, she’s been definitely calmer and more centered, yet she seems to think this was all she needed to do. That if she’s just nice it will fix us. Ma’am, that’s not how it works.

Parenting isn’t a coloring page. To have a good relationship with your adult children, you need to have a good relationship with your children when they are actually children. You need to express empathy, listen to them, and, most importantly, act like a fucking adult when they mess up.

[mental-ch-illness]

anyone who threatens to hurt themself, some else, you, or an animal for literally any reason is not someone you should be around. ever.

[mental-ch-illness]

there is a huge difference between experiencing such as intrusive thoughts, and urges, versus literally weaponizing them against others.

let’s talk about it.

yes suicidal ideation (as well as the other things mentioned above) is a real experience for many who struggle with mental health. simply having these symptoms is NOT what this post is talking about. this post is about THREATENING OTHER PEOPLE about acting on these urges. NOT about simply experiencing these symptoms OR talking to other about your experiences.

it's when you THREATEN someone that you will act on these urges to get someone to comply with what you want them to do that it is literally a form of abuse, not ableism. you can say 'i am experiencing these thoughts/urges'. that isn't a threat. that's just communication. the difference is when you are doing it with the intention of forcing somebody to do something that actually causes them distress. when you are violating boundaries, when you don't want them to stop talking to you, when you don't want them to leave you, when you want them to do something for you. it's INTENT that is relevant here.

being mentally ill does not mean that you can't be abusive or cause harm to other people. your actions still matter and you can't hide behind your diagnosis when you actively cause harm to others.

i am speaking as someone with mental illness, who has an advanced education in psychology, is working toward their master's degree, who has experience in this field. i am speaking as person who wants to make others aware of their maladaptive behaviors and improve their relationships with others. i am speaking as an abuse survivor. i am speaking as a person who has hurt others. i am speaking as someone who has also been a fucking victim of this shit.

my post isn't ableist. experiencing urges you cannot control or talking about them is not what i am talking about. i am talking about when you actively use these experiences in a way that forces another person into a position they do NOT want to be in, one that actively hurts them.

boundaries are real, not ableist.

[mental-ch-illness]

this person also relayed their own experiences which i felt should be put under a cut to allow a trigger warning.

tw: sexual abuse, violence, suicide

i empathize with you and i wish you hadn't gone through that situation.

obviously there are exceptions. if you have to threaten violence to get out of a dangerous situations, that's different, VERY different.

saying you want to die is not a threat. it's an expression of your pain. the difference is that it's a statement, not a threat.

[mental-ch-illness]

I understand the confusion! I hope you are doing well and taking care of yourself.

[mental-ch-illness]

anyone who threatens to hurt themself, some else, you, or an animal for literally any reason is not someone you should be around. ever.

[mental-ch-illness]

there is a huge difference between experiencing such as intrusive thoughts, and urges, versus literally weaponizing them against others.

let’s talk about it.

yes suicidal ideation (as well as the other things mentioned above) is a real experience for many who struggle with mental health. simply having these symptoms is NOT what this post is talking about. this post is about THREATENING OTHER PEOPLE about acting on these urges. NOT about simply experiencing these symptoms OR talking to other about your experiences.

it's when you THREATEN someone that you will act on these urges to get someone to comply with what you want them to do that it is literally a form of abuse, not ableism. you can say 'i am experiencing these thoughts/urges'. that isn't a threat. that's just communication. the difference is when you are doing it with the intention of forcing somebody to do something that actually causes them distress. when you are violating boundaries, when you don't want them to stop talking to you, when you don't want them to leave you, when you want them to do something for you. it's INTENT that is relevant here.

being mentally ill does not mean that you can't be abusive or cause harm to other people. your actions still matter and you can't hide behind your diagnosis when you actively cause harm to others.

i am speaking as someone with mental illness, who has an advanced education in psychology, is working toward their master's degree, who has experience in this field. i am speaking as person who wants to make others aware of their maladaptive behaviors and improve their relationships with others. i am speaking as an abuse survivor. i am speaking as a person who has hurt others. i am speaking as someone who has also been a fucking victim of this shit.

my post isn't ableist. experiencing urges you cannot control or talking about them is not what i am talking about. i am talking about when you actively use these experiences in a way that forces another person into a position they do NOT want to be in, one that actively hurts them.

boundaries are real, not ableist.

[mental-ch-illness]

this person also relayed their own experiences which i felt should be put under a cut to allow a trigger warning.

tw: sexual abuse, violence, suicide

i empathize with you and i wish you hadn't gone through that situation.

saying you want to die is not a threat. it's an expression of your pain. the difference is that it's a statement, not a threat.

[mental-ch-illness]

anyone who threatens to hurt themself, some else, you, or an animal for literally any reason is not someone you should be around. ever.

[mental-ch-illness]

there is a huge difference between experiencing such as intrusive thoughts, and urges, versus literally weaponizing them against others.

let’s talk about it.

yes suicidal ideation (as well as the other things mentioned above) is a real experience for many who struggle with mental health. simply having these symptoms is NOT what this post is talking about. this post is about THREATENING OTHER PEOPLE about acting on these urges. NOT about simply experiencing these symptoms OR talking to other about your experiences.

it's when you THREATEN someone that you will act on these urges to get someone to comply with what you want them to do that it is literally a form of abuse, not ableism. you can say 'i am experiencing these thoughts/urges'. that isn't a threat. that's just communication. the difference is when you are doing it with the intention of forcing somebody to do something that actually causes them distress. when you are violating boundaries, when you don't want them to stop talking to you, when you don't want them to leave you, when you want them to do something for you. it's INTENT that is relevant here.

being mentally ill does not mean that you can't be abusive or cause harm to other people. your actions still matter and you can't hide behind your diagnosis when you actively cause harm to others.

i am speaking as someone with mental illness, who has an advanced education in psychology, is working toward their master's degree, who has experience in this field. i am speaking as person who wants to make others aware of their maladaptive behaviors and improve their relationships with others. i am speaking as an abuse survivor. i am speaking as a person who has hurt others. i am speaking as someone who has also been a fucking victim of this shit.

my post isn't ableist. experiencing urges you cannot control or talking about them is not what i am talking about. i am talking about when you actively use these experiences in a way that forces another person into a position they do NOT want to be in, one that actively hurts them.

boundaries are real, not ableist.

[mental-ch-illness]

people really out here saying shit that pulls me out of bed at fuck ass o’clock. like, oh buddy, i rarely respond to comments, but you’ve aggravated me so much i am extricating myself from my weighted blanket.

[kosmogrl]

learning not to return to places where I miss the past but see no future