Meli the dreamer

Basically wasting my life with shipping, geek about series and spend hours on tumblr!

[happyheidi]

𝖠𝗋𝗍 𝖻𝗒 𝖠𝗇𝗇𝖺-𝖫𝖺𝗎𝗋𝖺 𝖲𝗎𝗅𝗅𝗂𝗏𝖺𝗇 | 𝖨𝖦: 𝖺𝗇𝗇𝖺𝗅𝖺𝗎𝗋𝖺_𝖺𝗋𝗍

[akindplace]

Crazyheadcomics

[merlin-aka-meli]

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[forestgreenlesbian]

december……

[happyheidi]

[akindplace]

Coping with things is not just simply accepting something as inherently bad and leaving it at that, it's trying to make the best out of a bad thing, and it is possible to live a good life even if you have to deal with things other people don't have to.

You can make it through even if your situation is not ideal, you can still live a happy life while accepting that there are some things about yourself you cannot change but that with a little work on it, things can get better and more comfortable for you even if your illness is incurable.

[neep-neep-neep]

you are good even when you are unemployed.

you are good even when you need to rely on others’ help.

you are good even when you are depressed.

you are good even when you are hurt.

you are good even when you are scared.

you are good even when you are overwhelmed.

you are good even when you are not tidy.

you are good even when you are confused.

you are good even when you have difficulty performing tasks.

you are good even when you feel like you’ll never measure up to being an adult.

symptoms are not morality.

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

boundaries and consent are important and that includes the ones you have with people you love and trust. it also includes things other than sex. consent can apply to many thing.

[vintagenorway]

Midnight Sun, Finnmark, 1903

[marinebeccarelli]

[merlin-aka-meli]

You will be free

[photographersunite]

[sotick]

[violetvibrations]

@ spiritdaughter

[eatsleepdraw]

[sifresiniunutandavinci-deactiva]

[chasingtheskyline]

for able-bodied people, here are some signs your friend/loved one/coworker with chronic pain is in discomfort, because we've been incentivized to lie by ableist bullying and often don't know if we can trust you:

their breathing gets heavier or less regular - if you can hear it, they're probably hurting

they're moving more slowly than usual

it takes them longer to get up

they seem anxious, irritable, or upset

they sound mad when you ask them for something (honestly not mad at you! It's just the pain being Loud)

they tire easily during travel/social events

they rock from side to side or back and forth while sitting or standing (could be a stim, could also be a need to lie down)

could just be me but my voice gets noticeably higher when im in severe pain

they want to be someplace less open/more private/closer to home on a bad pain day, even in public. in school i was notorious for going to classrooms or the library for lunch instead of the lunchroom - it was too much for me w my pain.

to partners, being clingy, snuggly, or having their s*x drive go up (we need those endorphins!)

i hope this helps, and i'm happy to answer any questions.

[thecripchronicals]

Personally, my voice also gets softer when I’m in a lot of pain. Didn’t notice until I connected the dots with people asking me to repeat myself a lot when I’m in pain

[ravenbara]

I know I fidget and try to move the sore parts on case any position feels better. Just tiny little muscle shift and bending a joint or two at a time.

[theghostinurattichasautism]

I sit kind of forward and shift in my seat a lot, and i tend to take a lot of time to collect my thoughts so my sentences sound something like this:

“hi, do you wanna go grab a muffin with me?”

“Uh... uhm yeah I’ll grab a muffin.. just gimmie a second.. i need... where’s my.. oh there’s my bag. okay uhh let’s go.”

[theghostinurattichasautism]

I saw a comment on a tiktok abt someone’s disabled sibling that really pissed me off the other day. So i’m gonna talk abt it. The comment was “I just get so sad to see disabled people I try to be happy but it just makes me want to cry.”

I tried to explain why that was a messed up thing to say but the commenter didn’t seem to understand so let me be very clear here.

Disabled people are not a tragedy. We are not a sob story you tell to make you feel better about your life. We are not living horrible miserable lives. In fact, even though we struggle, many of us are glad to be disabled and wouldn’t change it if we could. Obviously I cannot speak for everyone when I say that but in my experience seeing the world from my view has had its struggles, but at the end of the day I am able to empathize with more people and recognize often over looked problems. I am happy to be autistic. My issues often come from a lack of understanding from Neurotypicals.

So let me finish by saying once again: disabled people are not a tragedy.