healing a broken heart
because who wouldn’t want to glow up after having their heartbroken? or hey, maybe you were the one breaking hearts, i don’t judge. (i will disclose that this is more for those who’ve gotten out of a negative relationship/left it on bad terms). either way, dumper or dumpee, breaks up put you through an emotional rollercoaster. how do you bounce back? adjust to the single life? not break down every time someone mentions their name? here’s my top five tips to heal from heartbreak:
1. closure is important, but don’t get it too early. if it’s possible, give you and your newly made ex some time before a closure talk. straight after a breakup, you’ll have millions of unprocessed emotions. figure out what you need from that closure talk. is it just your stuff back? or do you need answers? give yourself time to figure it out, otherwise, it’ll turn int break up sex. and break up sex is a sticky situation if you’ll excuse my pun.
2. you are allowed to feel angry. you are allowed to feel lonely. you are allowed to feel sad. you are allowed to feel guilt. you are allowed to feel shame. you are allowed to feel relieved. you're going through it, you’re gonna get in your feels for a lot of different reasons. every single one of them is okay. you can’t stop it happening, and it's personal to everyone, but it’s also part of the healing process so don’t stop yourself from getting in your feels when it hurts. journal. talk to friends. a counsellor if you need to.
3. spend time with friends but spend time by yourself too. the people you surround yourself with should be positive and supportive (and hey, your ex is already gone just as well cut off any shitty friends too). whenever you can laugh with them, cry with them, get drunk with them, have deep chats at 3am, but remember that it’s not so bad being alone. remind yourself of life before your partner. if you’re struggling the battle of lonely boredom, ask yourself, what did you use to do before the time you saw them? learn to enjoy your own company.
4. remember the good times you had with them as well as reflecting on the bad. you want to grow from this. reflect on what was wrong about the relationship, learn from it, but remember the good, too. you’re not trying to develop a grudge towards the other person, you're trying to learn from them.
5. some days will feel better than others. try to remain positive and look after yourself. transfer all the love you had for that person into yourself. do a face mask. have a bubble bath. get your nails done. buy yourself flowers. tell yourself you look cute. tell yourself all about how much you love them.











