Astrology of Situationships Pt 1
Ah, the dreaded situationship. A symptom of our post-capitalist malaise. I don’t want to spend too long diagnosing the origins of situationships and their normalization in our collective popular consciousness because that will take a whole set of blog posts 😩😂
In the first part of this post, I’m going to look at some astrological significations in natal charts that suggest the potential for situationships in romantic interactions.
DISCLAIMER: It’s worth noting that each of these placements might get into or end up in situationships for varied reasons, and they are not all tales of victimization. Some of these placements can actually be the perpetrator, or swing back and forth both ends of the spectrum like a pendulum.
As always, reading a chart is a holistic exercise, and these placements should not be analyzed in isolation, as it will not reveal the full picture. These are archetypical descriptions. You might have these placements but these delineations may not apply to you because of specific details in your own chart.
Natal Placements
Venus
Venus in Aries
Simply put, venus in Aries can be selfish AF. As a cardinal sign, they are typically better at starting relationships than maintaining them. Venus is in detriment in Aries (a sign ruled by Mars) so this means that Venus is uncomfortable and not functioning how it prefers to. They can hop from one partner to the other, and may be reluctant to commit.
Venus square/opposite Moon
In a man’s chart, this can show that his relationship to the feminine is conflicted. What he wants from women or the energy he expects from the feminine is misaligned with what makes him feel emotionally safe. What he wants and what he needs tend to be two very different things. This can create a yo-yo effect in relationships as his confusion or indecision will ensure he remains non-committal in relationships. In a woman’s chart, her relationship to her own femininity is fraught, which can signify a lack of self-esteem and low self-worth, leading to people-pleasing and an inability to set boundaries in relationships.
Venus conjunct Mars (depending on what signs both are in)
Similar to Venus in Aries, Venus conjunct Mars can exhibit more martian traits in love and romance. They can be impulsive and their interest may not be easily sustained. However, this depends on the sign and house the planets are in.
Venus square/opposite Mars (depending on their mercury)
With this placement, what a person wants may not appear to align with the actions they take. This can confuse their partner if the Venus square Mars person is not able to communicate clearly. This signification depends on the condition of their mercury, which shows how they express themselves.
Venus aspecting Neptune
Neptune is the planet of illusions so when a person’s natal Venus aspects Neptune, they might be prone to giving mixed signals or proceeding with unclear intentions in romantic relationships. On the other hand, they can be more prone to delusion, or to staying in illusive situations.
Venus aspecting Pluto
With this placement, power and control are highlighted in relationships. The native could be prone to exerting control or domination over partners, or could attract people who attempt to do the same to them.
Venus conjunct/square/opposite Jupiter
Venus negatively aspecting Jupiter can signify untamed desires. The native can struggle with knowing when to stop and typically goes over the top in the pursuit of pleasure, which can manifest in dealing with multiple people at the same time and/or unclear boundaries in relationships.
Venus conjunct/square/opposite Lilith
This placement is super sexy and easily attracts others to themselves. Despite this, people with this placement could repeatedly end up in situationships as potential partners fear losing control in the relationship due to the emotions this placement arouses in them.
Venus aspecting Uranus
Uranus indicates sudden and unexpected shocks, so when this planet aspects Venus, relationships can end as quickly as they begin, or potential partners are liable to switch up on you with no warning.
Venus in the 2nd, 5th, 11th, and 12th houses
If Venus in the 2nd house is afflicted, the native could struggle with self worth issues which could lead to compromising themselves in relationships and a lack of strong boundaries.
Venus in the 5th house of pleasure could be a player, as they might be determined to pursue every viable option.
Venus in the 11th house is prone to getting into relationships with their friends, which could lead to friends-with-benefits situations.
Venus in the 12th house could experience people trying to hide their relationship or keeping them a secret. They could also be the one to do this to others.
Mars
Mars aspecting Jupiter
This can indicate a very high sex drive, and might show that the person is prone to pursuing multiple options at the same time. This also depends on what houses and signs the planets are in.
Mars aspecting Neptune
The person’s actions could have unclear intentions, and they might move in ways that disregard boundaries or may have issues setting appropriate boundaries with themselves and others.
Mars aspecting uranus
This can point to someone with unpredictable behaviour. This could also signify someone that takes sudden shocking actions in relationships e.g sudden breakups and reconciliations.
Mars in the 1st house, 5th, 9th and 12th houses
Mars in the 1st house can be extremely attractive and alluring, but also extremely selfish.
Mars in the 5th house can be pretty lusty and also have a lot of success dating which could lead to being non-committal since they have a lot of options.
Mars in the 9th house can be non-committal since they aren’t focused on something as mundane as a relationship. They are concerned with their freedom first and foremost and this can externalise itself in an avoidance of commitment
Mars in the 12th house could experience boundary issues or issues with asserting themselves.
Moon
Moon aspecting Neptune
Moon aspecting Neptune could show an inability to set emotional boundaries, or a lack of clarity around one’s emotional needs.
Moon aspecting saturn
Moon aspecting Saturn can find it hard to open up and connect with others as they sometimes feel that there is a barrier to their emotional self-expression. This can make them come across as ambivalent in relationships.
Moon aspecting Mars
This is a lusty placement, and depending on the house, the person could be more interested in initiating romantic relationships than maintaining them once the sexual passion has died down.
Moon aspecting Uranus
Their emotions can be erratic. It can be hard to pin this person down emotionally, and the inconsistency of their emotional world can make it so that they find it hard to know what they want or provide clarity to others in relationships.
Moon-Chiron
This person is extremely sensitive and might have deep emotional wounding that could affect their self worth. This depends on what house this placement is in.
Moon in the houses
Moon in the 2nd house
If the Moon in the 2nd house is afflicted, the native could struggle with self worth issues which can cause them to make self-detrimental compromises in relationships.
Moon in the 7th house
If the Moon is afflicted in the 7th house, this person can display codependent tendencies in relationships.
Jupiter
Jupiter in the 5th house
Jupiter in 5th house could have many romantic or love options, and may take advantage of this to play the field.
Jupiter in the 7th house
This can indicate many partners or multiple partners, depending on the state of the planet, the aspects it makes and what sign it’s in.
