Real life in plastic tip #8
˚₊‧꒰ა A Neurodivergent Guide to Reading Self Care/Beauty Guides On Social Media ໒꒱ ‧₊˚
I have always found reading feminine beauty guides to be helpful and a perfect way to keep my brain focused on my physical well being. They are fun to read and see things from another girly girl’s perspective on how to elevate and maintain the barbie princess way of life. Some of my good friends have the best and most popular guides on all of tumblr!
However, growing up I have also been left feeling overwhelmed and discouraged after reading some of the most amazing self care & beauty guides ever written. It puzzled me for so long on why these guides would sometimes have the opposite effect on me. I didn’t understand it at all. At first I thought maybe it could have been a confidence issue, but after doing some introspection I discovered the answer that I was seeking had been right in front of me.
The answer -> I’m going to often have a different perspective on advice and guides as a neurodivergent + ADHD girly.
And thats okay! Nothing is wrong with me. I simply have to be a little more self aware and careful with what I consume, and most importantly how I consume it. Maybe some of you can empathize with being excited to read hyper feminine guides to only find yourself taking the advice as commands. Or possibly comparing the limitations of your mental health to the suggested habit forming actions as requirements. These scenarios can result to feeling overwhelmed, discouraged, or even undeserving of the desired results. Which are all valid feelings, but today is the day that all of that is going to change, and I’m going to show you how to do it. ໒꒰ྀིᵔ ᵕ ᵔ ꒱ྀི১
Remind yourself that beauty guides are subjective advice and not holy scripture. Not everything is going to apply to you or be the best course of action for you to achieve the end result and thats okay. Whats don’t apply, let it fly.
Don’t limit yourself to one author, shop around for different perspectives! There are a plethora of guides written by different people that points to the same goal. Use that to your advantage and consume as many as you would like per topic so you can compare and contrast. 「 ✦ Example: Sasha’s guides may be very eloquent and insightful, but she often writes from the perspective of financial privilege having resources that you don’t currently possess. So, her works may be a valuable read for your personal manifestations. On the other hand, Yasmine may write her guides from a self made perspective and she may be offering ideas on how to use more common resources that people tend to have readily available. The works by both women may be to help improve feminine hygiene, how to become more high maintenance, or the best ways to start a business. But one may coming from a perspective that you can relate to and the other maybe not so much. ✦ 」
Remember that you are a human! The goal isn’t to have no bad days or emotional tough times. The goal is to build the quality of the good days and ensure that when you are feeling your best that you have clear direction to reach your destination. Its easy to fall into the trap of thinking that implementing self improving habits means that you are suppose to follow a strict regimen, and show up perfect every single day or else you are failing yourself. Thats bullshit. True self help means listening to yourself and your body and not pushing yourself too far were you start to hate showing up for yourself at all. Don’t build negative reinforcement around your self care by creating burn out. ~To put it simply; do what you can when you feel you can. Motivation is great but dont overwork yourself!
Make sure that the version of yourself that you are building is YOUR vision and not someone else’s. It is okay to be inspired by someone else and their journey but its crucial that you take some time to learn yourself. I would strongly suggest doing some introspection long before you begin to read advice coming from others. Its so easy to adopt someone else’s personality when you really admire them (also known as mirroring). However, doing this can lead to a huge loss of self and counter productive activity. Ensure that you know who you are and what you want~ Build your influences around your goals, not your goals around the influences!
Take it easy on yourself. You have to love you the most~!
Evaluate what your goals are for physical improvements and mental health BEFORE you seek guides and inspiration. This will keep you focused on your OWN personal goals, and not trying on others’s goals and personalities.
You dont have to take the first thing you read as law. Shop around until you find a couple sources that perfectly fits your mental and your goals.
Be honest and realistic~! Self improvement isn’t about generating an artificial persona. Look at it from the perspective of make up~ the best beat comes when the contour, highlight and lashes fit your facial features to enhance your natural beauty.
I believe in you Dollmates <3 you are seen and heard. We can get through this together~!
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