Sublimation is also literally a healthier, mature defense mechanism in adults, but tumblr which glorifies immature defense mechanisms only developmentally typical of children (like regression) is terrified of it and demonizes it.
I've even seen a very depressing case of some anti feeling like starving themselves and harming themselves makes them BETTER than someone who copes by hurting (fictional) kids and it's. So sad. They think they're lower than a fictional imaginary idea of a child, lower than text on a screen or drawings on paper, and that slowly killing themselves is a better way to cope.
It's so horrible what modern fandom has become and how a bunch of clueless young people who never went to medical school's twisted pop culture understanding of psychology, trauma, and recovery has demonized art therapy. There is no "wrong way" to write or draw about trauma.
siiigh... and you are so absolutely right.
even in ambients like the agere community, any sort of "impure" regression is seen as gross, problematic and "must-be-fixed", even though sexual abuse during childhood is a common experience that would affect someone enough to regress. asking someone to get rid of their sexual thoughts in relation to that is ignorant as hell.
not to mention that, personally, antis have never given me the so called "healthier alternative" to problematic fiction that they like to screech so much about. 😭 literally what is it. cuz so far, in my experience, all they've done is tell me how "writing this or that is bad for me" and minimize me as if i didn't know any better just cuz i am a victim. :/ bitch fuck off /lh
i'd rather live with my trauma and sexualize it and understand that it doesn't define me, than live constantly afraid of it and full of hatred and pain, and seeing myself as a perpetual mourner with extremely limited options on how to cope, let alone heal.
i have stories that i won't tell because i have no consent to, but i can assure you, from personal experience, that many antis are EXTREMELY out of touch with victimhood and don't seriously understand where the severity of trauma lies. enough to compare it to a fictional character's while sobbing because they "feel bad for you".