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theacademiasystem-deactivated20

can we be normal about members of the proship community that aren't here to cope?

can we be normal about adult members of the proship community?

can we be normal about members of the proship community that have paraphilias?

can we be normal about the proship community?

ofironandivory

For any proselfshippers who may need to hear it: Selfshipping isn't a competition

💜 It's okay if you don't know everything about your F/O; be it for now or even forever! Your love isn't measured by how many fun facts or secrets you can list about your beloved

⭐ You don't have to share your creations if you don't want to. Your F/O doesn't feel neglected if you prefer to keep your drawing, writing and anything else between just the two of you; they actually feel that's far more intimate and special

💜 It's okay to not be able to post as much as you wish you did. Whether you're low on energy, busy or just generally not able to; your F/O values the time you spent together over what you share about your relationship online! They're proud of you for anything you're able to create, no matter how long it may take you

⭐ We're all different people with varying limitations, it's okay to run your own race and take things as easy and slow as you need them to be! Your F/O's love for you is unconditional and neverending

ofironandivory

Something incredibly beautiful that the proselfship community has taught me is that there's always someone out there willing to love somebody!

Every fictional character, no matter their appearance, personality, morality or plot relevance, is someone's favorite and just thinking about them brightens up their day

And I know for a fact that your F/O feels the exact same way about you

Every insecurity or "flaw" that you find within yourself is just another reason for them to adore you, like each detail was sculpted and placed to create everything that their heart has ever desired

And this isn't strictly tied to romantic feelings either! All your F/Os love you for who you are, as you are. Yesterday, today and tomorrow, the person that you are blossoming into will always be their favorite version of yourself

Your romantic F/Os couldn't dream of a more perfect partner, you are everything they've ever yearned for and craved

Your familial F/Os are so proud to have you as a member of their family, every single achievement of yours is something to be celebrated and cherished by them

Your platonic F/Os are thankful to have a friend like you, sometimes they feel like you're the only person who really gets them, like you've known each other for many lifetimes

Your pet F/Os are overjoyed to have an owner like you, they know that things can be rough but they'll always appreciate your kindness, patience and care

Your F/Os love you just as much as you love them! You've met for a reason and even if you can't figure out what brought you together, you deserve to allow yourself to be loved

ofironandivory

Your F/O cares about and respects your boundaries!!

❤️ If you tell them a topic makes you upset, they'll avoid it as much as possible! They won't act like they "can't talk to you about anything", because it's simply not true, and avoiding topics that bother you is quite easy for them!

💜 If you aren't okay with certain parts of your body being touched, they'll understand and keep your limits and comfort in mind. There are many other ways they can show you their care and affection so it's no trouble at all!

❤️ If you can't handle certain pet names or nicknames, they'll do what they can to keep that in mind. Words can have a great impact and they understand that, so adjusting their vocabulary for your well-being is completely fine and manageable!

💜 If you've cut certain people out of your life, they'll respect your decisions and support you as much as they possibly can. They won't push you to justify yourself, but if you're ever feeling like discussing what happened, they're there to listen!

❤️ If you've dealt with trauma, they won't force you to share anything more than you're willing to. They believe you and they'll be there to hold you when you cry, to lift you up when you can't stand by yourself and to grant you strength and bravery when everything feels hopeless and dim.

💜 Your F/O loves all of you, no matter how negatively you may view certain aspects of yourself. Taking care of you isn't a burden or at all upsetting to your F/O, it actually makes them feel closer to you!

ofironandivory

I wish some people would realize that you can just compliment things you like, without having to put other people down!

"I found this page with some wholesome edits! A breath of fresh air compared to... You know..."

You can just be nice without having to make it about stuff you dislike, especially when that involves punching down on someone for how they engage with their interests and hobbies!

They're not hurting anyone, but you acting like an asshole hurts them, and honestly hurts people with similar skill levels and interests!

This is why people are afraid to post what makes them happy. This is why fandom doesn't feel fun anymore.

rae-raez

“I can fix them!” “I’ll can make them worse!!”

Well I CAN LOVE HIM HOW HE IS. He’s perfect already, he’s a lil fucked up. sure. but he’s still perfect.

ofironandivory

"Does this include-" Yes, be free and go love that awful, unredeemable fictional character 💙

#so real #proship selfship #selfship positivity #proship positivity #proship #profic #pro fiction

ofironandivory

I agree, enough is enough! And a reminder that deleting your posts once you realize that the stupid bullshit you've done had consequences, doesn't mean that the things you've done haven't impacted multiple people and their community

Also, very classy of you to call me insane in the same post trying to debunk the "accusations" of your ableism, great job. Leave the mean girl phase back in highschool, it's genuinely making you look embarrassing.

ofironandivory

Oh, and by the way. Out of the two of you, your friend was the only one who apologized, instead of saying that I was in the wrong for "letting things affect me this much" and hiding behind the excuse of not being mentally well to avoid dealing with the consequences of harassing and stalking someone. Cheers!

ofironandivory

Also, for anyone who may be curious as to what caused this shit storm: I asked her to tag posts related to Hogwarts Legacy, as politely as I could. She blew up over it, I blocked her and vented about how aggressive her response was, then she block-evaded me so she could see what I was saying, started reblogging a bunch of JKR support posts, including the podcast that actively gives her money, and things just spiralled from there.

Of course, she deleted all those things once she decided she had enough of her edgy transphobic era and wanted positive attention instead.

She has never apologized to me directly, and if she does she will not be forgiven but I will stop talking about it. I'm simply not comfortable seeing someone who caused me to attempt suicide multiple times show up on my dash.

So if you'd like to be around her, please block me. That is all I ask. No harassment, no rude asks, just let me stay as far away from my abuser as I can, thank you.

mindbiohazard

OH MY GOD?????

#genuinely shocked over this wtf #discourse