What If Someone Only Dates Cis People Due to Trauma, Like how Skilioromantics Only date Trans People Due to Trauma, But they Genuinly Support Trans People. Asking Multiple Blogs To Form My own Opinion Better
first of all, skolioromantic isnt "dating only trans people due to trauma", is a word for being attracted to nonbinary people. i want to make that clear. afaik there isnt a sexuality about being only attracted to trans people due to trauma. which i think should be reserved only for other trans people tbh
secondly, i... dont know. im an abuse survivor and im pretty sure me not being attracted to men is, in a way, related to my trauma, but i dont care whether theyre cis or trans. a man is a man and im not interested in them. but dating only cis people due to trauma? i think it gets in a weird territory
if that person is also cis, i think is kind of iffy and should absolutely check it to see if there isnt previous prejudice, but at the same time you cannot control what traumatizes you. not all trans people are exactly like your abuser, theyre all different but at the same time, you can say not all men are like my abuser and theyre all different, something i know, but im still scared of them. however, a cis person scared of an entire group they inherently oppress and have power over them is... weird for me. but your brain doesnt really care about it when you get traumatized, you know?
if that person is trans, then i also think is weird honestly, but is also worrying, since that person can start to learn a lot of internalized transphobia, which isnt fine.
you should absolutely work on it, especially if youre cis
i dont know, pal. it would personally hurt me if a girl said she isnt interested in dating me because im nonbinary and she has trauma with trans people (and if shes cis i will consider it a red flag), but at the same time, as i said, im also an abuse survivor so maybe... agh this is complicated
if other trans people have thoughts about this, im interested in reading it.