gratitude & guilt

breena •°☆ feline fine °• * est. 1999

[ciphertology]

dni if you have no whimsy and no joy for the miracles found within the mundane

[dykeselfcest]

AN ICON.....

[radicalgraff]

A message from Mary, a 72-year-old Amazon worker from North Carolina projected onto Jeff Bezos’s $120 million penthouse before tonight’s #MetGala, chaired by Bezos.

[kosmogrl]

[kosmogrl]

and it will be better 🧿🧿🧿🧿🧿

[brucespringsteencomments]

[to-orrr]

portrait

[moontart]

[monstermonger]

He's worried about stepping on flowers. He loves nature.

[monstermonger]

Wow thanks everyone ;v;

Mini lore snippet lol: at first I just doodled the cat alone in the middle of a page, but I loved him so much I just turned the page and drew the whole thing. He's so great.

[cock-holliday]

“Why are people dropping they/them from profiles” “a lot of people have stopped being nonbinary” “i feel like a lot of people i knew who were nonbinary identify differently suddenly” its the violent exorsexism in larger society and within queer communities that happens like clockwork when there is a rise in anti-queer, anti-trans bigotry.

When fascism spikes, we get a two-fold where folks who cannot or will not assimilate are pushed by our oppressors to reconsider, and fellow queer/trans folks become some of the most aggressive enforces of that “choice” in an attempt to buy safety within the majority.

This shit is why inter-community discourse is not just petty complaints—the refusal to hold solidarity with the weirdest, loudest, most visible queers in our midst is fascist as well as self-destructive. People are being forced into the closet, forced into labels that make others—including queer and trans people—more comfortable, because comfort and conformity becomes the biggest priority for many when shit hits the fan. And these are the scenarios that dont end up with nonbinary people dead.

You are abandoning the most vulnerable while preaching about privileges, and this saboteur mentality will not even ultimately save you when eventually you are either forced to learn that you do not fit how you thought you did or our oppressors shift the goalposts until even your presentation of sexuality and gender are not “normal” enough anymore.

[singing-bowl]

thinking about how ursula k leguin said "what goes too long unchanged destroys itself. The forest is forever because it dies and dies and so lives" and how everyday i wake up slightly different and i can feel myself shed the skin of who i used to be slowly, slowly, until i look back and can scarcely recognise who i was... but also she is still a part of me, part of the leaf litter and the humus, supporting me as i send new roots down and new leaves stretching up to the sunlight

[joli--coeur]

never underestimate the power of:

• eating fruits and veggies

• going outside

• opening your windows and letting the fresh air in

• cuddling with your pet

• catching up with your sibling or parent

• complimenting someone you don’t know

• exercising

• journaling

• cleaning out your fridge and cabinets

• listening to happy music

• putting yourself first

• making and eating a home cooked meal

• washing the dishes/putting the dishes away

• washing/brushing your hair

[antiqueanimals]

Robert Hainard (1906 - 1999). Jeune héron pourpré surpris au nid. June 17th, 1931.

Hainard Foundation

[letsbelonelytogetherr]

— Melissa Cox

[souplove]

sitting in the sun. yes it's gonna take all day. sorry.

[sandersstudies]

I think a great way to improve communication with kids (and adults) is to make every yes or no question a this or that question.

I started doing it when after brain surgery my husband had trouble forming responses to questions for a while, and realized that the habit was helping my students engage more truthfully with me.

Some examples:

Yes/No: “Did you clean up your room like I told you?”

This/That: “Did you clean up already, or do you still need to do that?”

Yes/No: “Are you going to sit quietly?”

This/That: “Are you ready to sit and do our quiet activity, or do you need some time by yourself first?”

Yes/No: “Are you doing anything fun for your birthday?”

This/That: “Are you having a party on your birthday, or are you going to relax?”

I think many children (and adults!) are averse to telling adults “No,” especially when a command is implied. (“Did you clean your room?” “Are you going to sit quietly?” Hmmm if I say ‘no’ I will be in trouble with the adult.) So they are actually pretty likely to just lie and say what they think you want to hear.

Presenting a this or that question provides an alternative to lying, a ‘no, but’ scenario where they are presented with the reasonable consequences of a No (“if you’re not ready to sit quietly, you cannot do our quiet activity with us yet.”)

[unfavorableinstigation]

I find it useful professionally with adults too - "Did you have a chance to finish that project, or is it more of a next-week item?" When done sincerely (rather than passive-aggressively), it gets over rough ground lightly: it gives the other person a solution you clearly already find acceptable, so they don't have to flail around trying to defend/excuse themselves, they can just take the solution and everyone can move on.

[izzetheking]

So you don't care about leafs/berrys no more?... Lol..

ok when did i say that

[moontart]

12, 24, 33 for the ask meme (we gotta being these back full-time)

12. what kind of day is it?

it is the kind of day in april where the sun shines bright and the wind blows cold

where the thunderous skies have feed the streams and brought a new trapping of green into the world, and have laced it through with the ornaments of spring. its the sheer joy of being in season

on a less poetic level i spent the morning with my husband doing housework, the afternoon was a meeting in the rez with the coordinators of a outdoor summit im gonna help lead about stewardship and community, and in the evening i went to the conservatory with some friends, then to a 9th day of Ridvan celebration down the road with roses to bring home. i was met with my husband home early and he had panda express for me so it was s tier day for surezies

24. if we were together on a rooftop, what would we be doing?

we would be stargazing and i would be identifying constellations and telling the little myths around each one. then I would fall

33. the last adventure you’ve been on?

it was 4/20 and me, my husband, and my lil sibling took an adventure based on a historical plaque that was on the same street as the dispensary. the plaque was for a fort that was idk torn out (i didn't read the plaque) but i saw it and had him pull into the nearest parking spot and walked roadside until we got to the boulder that was left and behind it was a trail that took you through some delightful woodlands with wildflowers that ended at the river, there was a log with like 5 turtles on it and they chilled with us. we found a part of the trail that seemed completely flooded from all the rain we have had but there was curved pipes sticking up every 30 ft or so. then we treked along the river stopping at the docks and outlooks until we ended up at my car! then taking my lil sibling home we dropped by their set of woods with an absolutely cursed line of pine trees and they helped me pick up a deer skull :) its in my backyard getting cleaned rn